Not necessiraly fix but make things better because right now things are really bad between me and my husband and I think having a baby will help but Im not sure. What do you think?
2007-09-27 12:19:27 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Having a baby will not improve a marriage. My wife and I have more fights because of our child than we had in the 10 years we were married before we decided to have a baby.
We love our girl, but recognise our marriage is not as happy as it was before she was born, not that we are in danger of separating.
So don't have a baby to try and improve things as you may end up as a single parent.
2007-09-27 13:00:06 · answer #1 · answered by Rational Thought 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have marital problems, the only thing a new baby will do is make them worse. It is hard to find time to do anything other then take care of the baby, and even good marriages suffer when there is a newborn in the home. All a baby will do is add stress, a lack of sleep, and if you are not 100% financially secure, then you have the added stress and fights over money. And no child asks to be here, let alone be brought into the world for foolish, selfish reasons. Children should come from love, and the desire to have a family with someone you are in a good, happy, committed, lasting relationship with.
2007-09-27 12:32:25 · answer #2 · answered by cris 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many times it does the opposite. Of course, I don't know what is straining your marriage. So often women put all their attentions on the baby that they ignore the husband and this causes even more problems. I would suggest you try to really talk to your husband and work things out before getting pregnant. A baby is the most wonderful gift in the world but make sure you are both ready. Good luck!
2007-09-27 12:24:55 · answer #3 · answered by Jodi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Children, while a blessing , are also a huge stress on a relationship. In addition to whatever you're currently upset about let's add, whose doing what with the child, disagreeing over disciplining the child, 18 years of homework, school plays, conferences & extra curriculars. If the marriage still doesn't work you can no longer go your separate ways as you will always be bound to one another. What about the child who will always feel like they broke up their parents b/c "mommy had me and then daddy left". Try counseling, buy a dog, but do not bring another person into an already bad situation.
2007-09-27 13:22:53 · answer #4 · answered by Franny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've got to have a good foundation for a good marriage. If you are wondering if a child could help get closer to your man, the answer is yes. The only problem is you've got to have that stable, healthy relationship FIRST, or else the HUGE, crazy stress that having a kid entails will make you pull your own hair out- just think of what you'd end up doing to his hair.
If it ain't workin' now, it surely won't work with an ankle-biting DNA carrying breathing bleeding pooping bouncing crying stress inducing loving menace in the mix.
I actually LOVE kids. Got 2. But don't rip em off.
2007-09-27 12:30:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children will bring more stress into your life. Having a child is hard on a marriage that isn't rocky. Try to fix your marriage before you add an innocent child into the mix. I've seen it go very wrong. And the child is the one that ends up paying for it. Good luck!
2007-09-27 14:28:06 · answer #6 · answered by Nicki S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never has and never will. In fact it will only compound the marital problems youre already encountering and probably willmake some more. Having kids to fix a troubled marriage is not even a good idea. Solve the problems first before thinking of starting a family or youll have more challenges then you really want
2007-09-27 12:25:34 · answer #7 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO. Why would you want to bring a child into a rocky marriage and have that child suffer, because believe me they will suffer. No child deserves to come into the world where two parents don't know if they want to stay married or not. They need to come into a home that is loving and caring, sounds like you don't have that. Again NO do not have a child
2007-09-27 12:29:03 · answer #8 · answered by lynda 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-18 00:53:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I REALLY hope this is a fake post!
If it is not, you dear are the epitome of what is wrong with marriage in America!
Shame shame shame on you for wanting to bring a helpless baby into you and your husband's hell!
2007-09-27 12:23:51 · answer #10 · answered by kittykatsback 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋