My wife and I have been married for over four months. We went from about 4-6 times a day, to twice a day, to once a day, to once ever day or two.
We both work and come home very stressed sometime. Sometimes, I don't feel like making love with her because I am exhausted and just want to go to bed. She feels the same.
We talk openly about this and it doesn't seem to be a big issue. I'm just worried that this could lead to something greater. What should I do?
2007-09-27 11:31:47 · 22 answers · asked by Dr S 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That's what I call a normal marriage!
2007-09-27 11:36:19 · answer #1 · answered by mrsalramey 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You go girl! Take control of your sex life! ^__^ Full filling a fantasy should not hurt somebody or put them in a danger of any sort. Your probably not 100% sure If you fall in the 1% category( women who become pregnant even though there on the pill) so you really are gambling. Yes you can have sex every day but expect to be a little sore the next day... but be sure to have some water base lubricant just incase. If the two of you decided not to use a condom be sure to talk about the possible conciquences of pregnancy. My bf of almost four years sometimes wishes I was pregnant which I think it's a normal thing for a man to say. Over all be sure to never ever ever ever ever ever miss your pill. Set an alarm to remind you take your pill everyday.
2016-05-20 02:09:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't stress about this. The only problem with the number of times that you make love would be if one partner or the other felt that they were missing out on something vital. If you both agree and are comfortable with it, there isn't a set number of times per week or whatever that you have to "do it". Its not a problem in itself.
And truth be known, many couples do it less often than at the start, and that's fine, as long as its OK with you two.
The only thing I would look into is the stress factor of your work. Try you give yourselves a little time to unwind and de-stress, at least once a fortnight, or once a month, so you can re-connect.
2007-09-27 11:41:05 · answer #3 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems normal to me. After a certain amount of time, when you are both comfortable and secure in your relationship, you will notice that you don't feel as pressured to have sex. Especially if you are tired and stressed.
You have talked about it and its not an issure, so don't make it an issue. As long as you are both openly and honestly communicating about your sexual needs and desires, you are fine!
I've been married for 5 years, together for 7 years. We have three kids. We average about 3-5 times a week and have for years. Sometimes I would like more sex, but I understand that he is tired and stressed.
2007-09-27 11:38:53 · answer #4 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The average according to the most recent studies is 2 - 3 times a week so you about spot on.
Having been married myself I would have thought that it was average for childless married couples. I don't know anyone who has mantained that frequency once the family came along!
2007-09-27 11:45:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, 4-6 times a day is just not normal. Now you're closer to the norm. Keep up good work.
2007-09-27 11:39:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. :/ I mean, you've both agreed that sex is sometimes a bit of a struggle to fit into your busy schedules, but at least you're still having it every couple days, right? Some people don't even get it once every couple WEEKS. :/ MONTHS even! I don't think there's a problem here. Just try and keep the sex fun and interesting. :]
2007-09-27 11:36:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
Every other day after 4 month of Marriage? Doesn't sound like a problem to me.
After 4 years of marriage and a kid or two, if your still doing every other week you will be ahead of most.
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2007-09-27 11:41:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest a "mini vacation"...nothing fancy. simply go to the next town for one day/night at a hotel. sometimes we just need some time away from it all. you'd be amazed how much it carries over through the wk,then it won't matter if your tired or not when you see the person you love you'll just want to tackle them. trust me my husband and i have been doing these "mini vacations" for about a yr and now . we get together at least 2x's a day and more if he is off that day!! :)
2007-09-27 11:54:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you seem to have a pretty normal marriage going on there. here is a little saying someone once told me. During your first year of marriage, every time you have sex put a penny in a jar. during the 2nd year of marriage (after your first anniversary) every time you have sex take a penny out of the jar. It will take twice as long to empty the jar as it did to fill it up.
2007-09-27 11:40:38 · answer #10 · answered by lisa_bsb 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's normal! The real answer to a great relationship is to talk everything out. If you have sex without having fun, where's the real love?
2007-09-27 11:36:58 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋