why do people on here think that bm/ww relationships get more flack than bw/wm relationships? I have NEVER seen bm/ww get called a sellout on the street or ww getting hit on by wm while they are out with thier bm.
2007-09-27 11:28:46 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
your so right.
2007-09-27 11:32:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
It's a fact that a BW/WM couple gets more flack because it isn't something people are used to seeing yet. It's still hard for people to understand that some white men do find the so-called less desirable black female actually more desirable than a women of their own race. It's a widely known fact that society sees the white women as being more attractive. In society it supposed to be that everyone wants the skinny, white model and nobody wants the thick,strong black women. But that's just not how things really are.
BW/WM relationships get more flack because when people see them together they unknowingly think that there is something wrong, because neither person is with someone whom they "should" feel is most desired. Black men are seen as strong, tough, dangerous and in a sense sexy. Women even if they deny it, are always attracted to the dangerous, adventurist, bad boy type. BM/WW don't get those same reactions because the man went after the most desired female and who could blame him. And the women went after a very attractive male. Besides, the BW who tend to seriously date white men tend to be higher up on the social scale, most not all, but most aren't the so called "ghetto chicks". And a lot of black people and even some white, think that if a black women isn't "ghetto" she's trying to be white. People on both sides hate that, so they tend to show distain towards BW/WM couples because they do feel the woman "sold out" or that she's only "trying to be white".
2007-09-27 15:53:54 · answer #2 · answered by Group836 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Right on!!!! bw/wm gets way more negative attention. Black women get called sellouts if they're even suspected of dating outside their race. Have you ever heard of a black man getting beat up and put in a hospital for dating a white woman? Probably not. I've heard of this happening to white men though. Also there are way more bm/ww relationships than there are the other way around so they have way more support.
2007-09-27 11:40:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Again, it depends on your perspective and how you look at the situation. Every interracial couple get flack throughout the course of their relationship, so it is above even. But I think it may have to do with the fact that it is common to see and view bm/ww relationships compare to bw/wm. Yes, people may make their sly remarks and comments but for the most part it is pretty typical seeing a bm/ww. When it is a bw/wm, people are somewhat shock. Secondly, black women make be dating interracially but for the most part the majority of black women don't, so most people naturally assume that black women belong to black men, white women with white men, etc. etc. It is all a bunch of nonsense and ignorance. People have the right to date who they want, why limit your choices when it comes to love.
2007-09-27 12:23:18 · answer #4 · answered by ♥♥Bree♥♥ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've never been in a relationship with a White man before, but sometimes my supervisor and I will have lunch together and it's the most uncomfortable feeling..the first time anyway. The second time we had lunch together, the attention did not bother me as much because I tried not to look for that kind of attention. I've gotten some horrible stares from bw, bm, and ww, hispanic women. It was weird...
2007-09-27 11:45:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I agree. no one stares at them while they are out. please, seeing bm/ww couples are as common as seeing same race couples lol. you just dont think of it. even on tv when black female celeb is dating a non-black man they put that part in there article vs if a bm is dating a ww. i know ive been a victim of the being sellout and hit on. the only ones who get mad at bm/ww are some black women, but some bm AND some bw (and at times some ww) get mad at bw/wm couples from what ive seen.
2007-09-27 11:37:39 · answer #6 · answered by Bore sum 1 else w/ ur question! 6 · 7⤊ 0⤋
I know right!!! Can you believe this? My own father said that need to date/marry only Black men. But he has dated mostly white women after he divorced my mom. Whenever I'm out with a guy who is hispanic or something else, the brothas are always giving me these men stares and they say stuff like "baby girl, he can't handle you. He don't know what to do with you're thick self" or "why you selling out" "another pretty sista gone to the other side" or "shes only messing wiht him so her babies could have good hair". First of all, i like all men. If I want mess with a man that's not Black I can do it. And they 're the ones who get all mad when we critizte them for dating non-black women. I don't care if my man is black or white, I only want a man who is going to love respect men and treat me like the QUEEN I am.
2007-09-27 11:48:53 · answer #7 · answered by Ayita 5 · 7⤊ 0⤋
It's because, apparently, black women are "supposed" to know their place. If people become too accepting of black women dating non-black men and actually having functional, HAPPY relationships, black men wouldn't be able to brag about stereotypical evil black b*tches competing for their attention because black men are "all that". And white women wouldn't keep spouting that nonsense that black women are all "jealous" of them because the white women are taking "their" men (insert eye-roll here). And most importantly, the media stereotype of the bitter, manless, angry black woman would no longer apply because sistahs would have finally pulled their collective heads out of their collective booties and realized that A MAN IS A MAN, no matter what color, texture, or flavor he is.
Bottom line? If you are with your non-black man and some hamster gives you crap, tell him/her to kiss your natural black @ss (re: Della Reese in Harlem Nights) and then grab your man and go on about your business.
Ok. Rant over. Going now....
2007-09-27 11:50:00 · answer #8 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Some people (ESP one dumb black woman) here seem to think so. I have experienced being called a sellout and even worse. I have also been hit on with my man present and that is just disrespectful!
2007-09-27 13:24:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
OMG I have been trying to figure out that same thing for years, LOL ...
I hope all of us ladies that want to know this, will get an answer.
~wink~
2007-09-27 18:05:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you have a lot of anger. I know for a fact the black men get way more "flack" then black woman do. BW/WM is loved by all the media, Commericals, TV shows, and Movies. You hardly ever see a commerical with a BM/WW together because it would cause to much drama.
2007-09-27 11:35:39 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 12⤋