Women: if you were infertile?

Question

Women: what would do you if you were infertile? As far as life in general.

I have a strong suspicion I barren (havn't used birth controll in about 3-4 years... no kids) and wondered how others would react by that.

My question is what if YOU where. Not what I should do. I know my options and know it's not him (he has a kid).

Answer 1

I'm not all that wild about having kids but I think part of me would be devistated. Some women may consider breasts as the sign of womanhood I consider the ability to create life.

Alternatively i have said, and hope I can stand by it if it does come to pass that I'm infertile to any degree, that I will never take fertility drugs. If you can't have children maybe there's a reason behind it, also people with fertility drugs are much more likely to have an ungodly amount of children, I don't think I could handle more than two 7 at once would kill me.

It is possible that you aren't barren just low fertility, or your partners could have something wrong with their little swimmers.

Answer 2

Upon finding out I was barren, I might be very disappointed, but after a short grieving period, I think I'd be happy. No more birth control, no more worries, no more wondering "should I-shouldn't ever have a child of my own." It would make my decision for me. I've had the sneaking suspicion that, although I do one day want a child, I DO NOT have any sort desire to be pregnant and bear a child of my own. Adoption has always been appealing to me. There are many children that need homes (and not just little babies, which is what everyone wants).

Answer 3

If I suspected I was infertile (which I know I'm not but I thought about it during the time we were trying to get pregnant) I would go see a fertility specialist to establish either my partner or I was in fact infertile. That would be my first step. If it turned out that one of us was infertile, I would think about what next to do because I've always wanted a baby.

I might consider some form of IVF if it seemed feasible (medically and financially). I wouldn't go for surrogacy. If I didn't pursue IVF, I would go down the adoption route. One way or another I suspect I would end up with a child.

Answer 4

I'd like to start out by saying that in all fairness, I really don't know what I would do (because I have children, it's very difficult to answer with clarity) but I will give it a shot.

Knowing me, I would research the heck out of my options (after I got tested and had hubby tested to find out what the issue(s) were).

I would probably persue some type of infertility treatments. How long and to at what cost financially and emotionally I do not know....

If after all that there was no success in getting pregnant, I believe I would seriously consider adoption....especially if I felt like I could offer a child or children a decent life with a warm, loving family.

Answer 5

I have a first hand knowledge what that feels like. Growing up I always dreamed of having a large family. I was lucky enough to have my daughter five years ago. She is the most important part of my life. However last 4 years I have been struggling with infertility. We went to fertility clinic ( the best I could find in our area). I am a researcher by trade, so I made sure I found the very best possible specialists to go to with my problem. They were never able to find anything wrong with either of us, but we were not able to conceive so far. I took all kinds of hormonal medications for months. Went through surgeries and other very painful and costly procedures ( medical insurance doesn't pay for any of it). After a few years, I had a nervous break down... We did talk about adoption, but my husband doesn't feel comfortable raising other people's children... It hurt like hell every month, every year... Until I've made a decision to enjoy my life the way it is. I've learned to count my blessings, and it made me a happier person. I am sure, you will do what is right for you. However, I hope your road will be easier than mine was. God bless.

Answer 6

I am, thanks to a great Gyn. I had a tubal ligation done about 10 years ago, when I was 28. Best decision of my life, and it's made me and my husband very happy. I used to agonize, waiting every month to make sure I wasn't pregnant. Sometimes the stress was overwhelming since my period was irregular, even on the pill. Having the surgery was like having a weight taken off my chest. My husband and I have been together for 20 years now, and on our first date we were thrilled to find out that neither of us wanted kids. We've both become more positive about this with age, so we both worried even though we used birth control.

Answer 7

If I were to find out that I were infertile, I'd probably initially cry at the thought, just thinking that I could never have children, and never had children, and what would I do when I *wanted* children? But then I'd get used to the fact that I never really wanted children to begin with, and I always tell myself that when I want children, I will probably adopt.

Still, I would get a little depressed about it once in a while because as I've been around pregnant women a lot in my life, I kind of want to know just how it *feels* to be pregnant. I'm not sure if I really want to feel childbirth, but just feel how pregnancy really is. I kind of can't imagine holding a life inside of my body for 9 months and then having it pop out and make the rest of my days a terrifying amazing rollercoaster.

My blessings to you and praying that you may get pregnant one day (if that's what you wish for).

Answer 8

The thing I would do first, is test my husband and myself to see who has the fertility issue. If it was me, I would first start by going to a fertility clinic. Spend some time doing that, I would say about 2 years at the most. If that still doesn't work, I would try surrogacy. If all that fails, and I truly wanted a baby, I would adopt. I know this all sounds really simple and easy for me. Fortunately I am not in that situation. I am sure that if I was, things would pan out differently that what I have stated. Without being in that situation, this is what I think I would do.

Answer 9

It's entirely possible I have PCOS, not confirmed, but I have some of the symptoms, right now they're being control by birth control. PCOS does cause fertility problems in women. So it's also possible when I decide its time to have children I will have problems. It's frustrating because I see my cousins and people I know having children and some of them don't deserve children, some of them are dead beat dad's and I know that I could be the best mother ever and its just not fair.

Answer 10

I'd have a ton load of sex... wait, I do that already. I guess it wouldn't be any different. But at least I wouldn't have to worry about birth control.

Adoption is always an option. There are too many crappy (meaning anything from being a bad parent to just not having enough money/time) parents out there, I'd go replace one if I felt the need to raise kids. But, right now, I definitely do not.

Sorry, not a woman, but figured I'd throw in my thoughts on it.