I keep trusting my bf with the money. Everytime it is all gone and I ask why, he says he doesn't know. I tell myself I will never trust him again with my money, but I always do somehow. This has been going on for3 years and I am really in debt. I don't know what I can do. He is mad at me now. I work so so f-ing hard, and it all goes where? Why do I work so hard and still trust him with my money. We have been together for 6 years. He doesn't have a job and tells me he is looking, but I don't believe him. I still have hope in him though. I feel so stupid. It seems like he only cares about himself. I had money for rent, but it is disappeared. Now my next check, I have to pay rent and not the other bills which puts me so far behind even more. He reuses to get him last check from his previous job, it is only like 15 bucks, but so what?What do I do? Why do I keep trusting him?
2007-09-27 09:50:24 · 8 answers · asked by RearFace@18mo. 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I even lent him 700 for a car his mom sold him, but his mom said he can have it, but I don't know what he did with that money. It was to paymy bills, but I lent it to him. Now when I want him to pay it back, he said H*** no, he not payin for s***!
2007-09-27 09:52:06 · update #1
I also have "lent" him over 2,000 bucks for many things, but he never paid me back. I don't think he is going to. I worked so hard for nothing. He never even bought me a birthday or christmas present. I took HIM to the movies for my b-day. I need some help. I love him.
2007-09-27 09:54:18 · update #2
if he is treating you this way....HE ISNT WORTH IT!!!!!!!! cut him off!!!!!!!! he is taking advantage of you!!!!!!! he doesnt love you, he is using you!!!! he doest appreciate you!!!! . . . . .is that enough???!!! just let him go, as much as its gonna hurt you......let him walk!!!!!! thats not someone you wanna spend the rest of your life with.
2007-09-27 09:59:42 · answer #1 · answered by JOSE P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A guy that is doing this to you does not respect you and is using you. That's not love. You can do way better. You need to get away from this guy before you're completely broke and you're kicked out into the street. Stop trusting him because he's never going to change....and he's shown you that!
2007-09-27 17:03:20 · answer #2 · answered by ne_gal81 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might love him, but until he changes (which he won't), you will continue to have a miserable life. My mom worked with a woman who worked hard in a factory. Her husband never worked. They lived in a small trailer in an alley in West Virgina. He laid around watching T.V. and drinking beer. She worked her butt off. It's your choice. You can choose to support this "sponge," or you can have money to pay your bills and buy something for yourself. It's OK to take care of you! You're worth it, sweetheart!
2007-09-27 17:04:58 · answer #3 · answered by Answer Annie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wife's ex was the same way, never changing his ways, squandering money on fruitless things.
YOU are enabling him.
If he won't change, then do not just speak - make action and dump his sorry butt before you get trapped even deeper!
2007-09-27 21:21:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you're stupid. Now pick yourself up, resolve not to do it again, and give him the boot. It's easy for him to say pretty words to you, that's what gigolo's do.
2007-09-27 16:56:15 · answer #5 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to let this loser go.. the way things are going you'll only get yourself into more debt... this guy is worthless and he's not doing his job. DUMP HIM.
2007-09-27 16:57:59 · answer #6 · answered by gabsters 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect yourself and run away without looking back!
2007-09-27 18:51:14 · answer #7 · answered by Jessie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Similar situation different person.
Last line sums it up
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2007-09-27 16:59:29 · answer #8 · answered by wcs_n_ms 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋