Just wondering my husband had more sex partners then me and his sex before me was exciting then it is now that he is married Should I be botehred by that and what should I do?
2007-09-27 09:32:16 · 14 answers · asked by adever23 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It shouldn't bother you that he has had more partners than you but if you are worried about how you stand up when being compared than you just need to spice things up in the bedroom and show him that you can be just as exciting (if not more) than any of his past lovers
2007-09-27 09:39:59 · answer #1 · answered by ~NIKKI~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys will admit that while single their sex life's were a little more exciting be it with other women or their wifes. I suppose you could start and attempt some role plays in order to spice things up a little. You and your husband could have a good talk about what he and you would like to see happen in order to brighten this area of your together up a but. Set limits and be 100% honest and open minded with each other. Sounds like you are very aware that something different would be good for both of you so that is important that you are not just burying your head and saying "well your married now so this is as good as it gets". I realize that sex is not the be all and end all of relationships but it is an important aspect of a healthy marriage and if necessary you may even want to seek the help of a sex therapist. Best of luck to you both and hope that you can put a little more excitement into this area of your lives.
2007-09-27 09:39:56 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it doesn't bother him, why should it bother you?
Now that he's married it should be pretty darn exciting for him to get his dinner cooked every day. You always have to give something up to get something else.
When I come home at the end of the day, and I have my husband to talk to, this is more exciting that any sex could ever be. F8cking everything that moves can be exciting for a while, but most likely as you get older other things take precedence.
2007-09-27 09:39:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck spice it up. If you feel you're lacking the take matters into your own hands.
I have a lady friend, she's been around the block, if you know what I mean. She's fooled around with alot of men, all of which are taller then me, I'm shorter then her. I had a complex about it, I worried if I could really satisfy her?
I later found out she liked me because I'm nice to her. All her other lovers treated her like a piece of ***. I make her feel good.
So, make him feel good. Good Luck
2007-09-27 09:42:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey..i know i am not as exciting as some of the whorish types that my fiancee has gone out with...the guy was like a pick up artist stud. he had sex with what had to be 80 or so women. but the fact of the matter is, that while the others had his dick...i have his heart and his mind, and those others are history. but as bad as i must be compared to them...he still begs me for it!
2007-09-27 09:40:33 · answer #5 · answered by lil gaper 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is he saying that he had a much better sex life before or is that just your assumption? If he's concerned about it, ask him how the two of you can make it more exciting. If it is just your assumption, no offense, but get over it - HE PICKED YOU!
2007-09-27 09:38:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know I would be bothered. Its like hes not satisfied and that's not good. I dont think anyone would want to be in a unsatisfying sexual relationship. Not that sex is everything but I think its important.
You should do some exploring see what he likes and what you like.
2007-09-27 09:36:53 · answer #7 · answered by TheLight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, first...stop thinking about the numbers.
as for the excitement factor...use your imagination girl!!
ask him if there's anything he'd like to try?
go online or to a sex shop and get a cute dress up outift...he'll LOVE IT!!!
buy some toys....get creative and let go of ANY of your reservations. he married you...he loves YOU. loves the way you look, taste, feel, everything.
so don't think he doesn't.
take care:)
2007-09-27 09:41:33 · answer #8 · answered by joey322 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who told you that?I think someone is lying to make you insecure.It is not the quantity of sex it is the quality.He married you,so you are the best to him....
2007-09-27 10:00:59 · answer #9 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be discussing this with him, what could you do with him to make it more exciting...how the hell are we suppose to know what excites him...it could be donkeys and midgets in tutus for all we know.
2007-09-27 09:42:13 · answer #10 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋