Why is it necessary to have multiple baby showers?

Question

Isn't it embarrasing to be soliciting gifts from friends, coworkers and family members?
I mean, I have seen couples gainfully employed who have more than two baby showers, isn't it greedy to want others to pay for your child's "things", instead of just going out and buying what your child needs

Answer 1

Absolutely. My friend threw me a baby shower but I felt kind of weird about the whole thing. I felt funny inviting people to a party for the sole purpose of buying me a gift. And I think most people go because they feel like they have to, not because they want to.

Answer 2

Its not NECESSARY. But sometimes it happens. I recently had my first baby. And i was given 3 different showers. One by my family, one from the father's family (there is a 4 hour distance between my hometown and his.) and one from my coworkers, which was a total suprise. One shower would have been more than enough, but when you have people in your life who are giving, kind, and excited for you and your baby, sometimes you cant tell them no. It shouldnt be, and a lot of the time isnt up to the one who is expecting. If you throw your own shower, multiple ones at that, then its greed.

Answer 3

Wow, typically you do only have one baby shower and you don't have it for yourself. Someone in your family or a friend plans and throws the shower. The exception is when someone at work throws a baby shower for you and then your family throws one. There is nothing wrong or greedy or even cheap about having a baby shower. It is more tradition with most people than anything else.

Answer 4

Usually there are different people giving them, such as one of your family members inviting your family, hers inviting her family, coworkers inviting coworkers, or even church folks inviting the church crowd. You'd be surprised at how much stuff you'll really need and how much it all costs. Plus if you tried to get all those people together at just one shower you'd have to rent an auditorium to have it in and a tractor trailer to haul it all home. Therefore- the multiple showers works out fine. Congratulations on the coming blessing too by the way.

Answer 5

Well I have many circles of people in my likfe that do not mix. My hubby is really popular at work and all his coworkers have met me and are excited out baby. My hubbies job wanted to do something so they invited me to the office. We had cake and everyone went in on a gift card. The women that worked there also got me a little something but these people I would have never invited to my shower. I have a group of friends that are all mommies and then a group from my single days. Then I have my and my hubbies family that wanted to do something. I had a shower that my friends threw for me but then the next week my MIL had a luncheon with all the famly at her house. I did not ask nor plan any of this but I have so many people in my life that love me and my hubby that it just happened. They cannot wait for the next baby. I

Answer 6

I do not think it's unusual to have 2 baby showers: one with coworkers and one with just family and friends. Some churches also have baby showers for their members. Lots of women really enjoy attending baby showers and buying baby stuff. I have no issue with that. I think it's just fine for a first baby and for a mom who didn't have a baby shower before (often the case for an unmarried woman the first time around).

Answer 7

This Site Might Help You.

RE:
Why is it necessary to have multiple baby showers?
Isn't it embarrasing to be soliciting gifts from friends, coworkers and family members?
I mean, I have seen couples gainfully employed who have more than two baby showers, isn't it greedy to want others to pay for your child's "things", instead of just going out and buying...

Answer 8

Often your friends, family, and coworkers offer (and enjoy) throwing a baby shower. Most people think "it's fun". Workers usually try to put something together at the office while family members and friends prefer to do something at home. Out of convenience for myself, I had one shower and invited everyone to attend.

Answer 9

I'm going through that right now with my sister-in-law whom is pregnant and expecting in Jan. Her mother and father were divorced some 14 years ago and can't get along so now we are stuck in the middle trying not to make someone mad about not going here or staying longer there. So....we are not going to either one, we will just go see her on our own time.

And yes I do agree that people who are "gainfully" employed should provide for their childs needs and it does sound a little greedy. This is her 5th child so I don't think she falls into that catergory.

Answer 10

Well, when I was expecting my oldest my sister, one of my aunts, one of my cousins AND my mother in law all wanted to throw the baby shower. We were going to have one big shower and let them all plan it together...but by the time we invited a few friends and the entire family (my family is HUGE!) the guest list was over 60 names long!! Since that was going to be a horribly unreasonable sized party, we split the showers. My sister and cousin hosted a shower for my side of the family, my aunt hosted a shower for friends, and my mother in law hosted a shower for my husband's side. This kept the parties smaller, we were able to visit more and everyone had a great time.

First let me say...it's not about the gifts. It's about the excitement of a baby's birth. We still purchased our son's car seat, stroller, crib, high chair...all the "big ticket items" if you will.

I take offense to being called "greedy" because my husband and I never asked for a single baby shower, they were thrown for us by close family members who wanted to share in the excitement of our child's arrival.

Answer 11

It's not really necessary but sometimes you just need to accommodate others schedules. I had 2, mostly because there were quite a few people that were unable to come to the first one. So I had one for my friends, and a second for my family.