help im fed up trying for a baby!?

Question

im 24 and me and my husband been trying for 19months now im perfectly healthy but my husband has low sperm count our consultant has put us on nhs waiting list for icsi treatment but its 3 years long. im getting really fed up and its starting to get me down feels like its never going to happen to us. I no i sound perfetic and stupid but all our family and friends are all getting pregnant but its never me does anyone else feel like this? how do you cope?

hi thanks ryan's mum what sort of supplements are there to help us? thanks for your help!

i forgot to mention that my husband is in the army so were constantly on the move which makes it even harder to receive treatment as you have to be in one place at the time each time we move we get put at bottom of that areas list which is frustrating we move every year or two so its hard

okay - thats wrong you dont say thats y you dont go with military men i love my husband to bits and wouldn't change what we have i married him not army

hi doughnut1002001 which forums did you hear about the army having health cover for fertility etc? thanks for your help

Answer 1

Low sperm count doesn't mean he can't get you pregnant (unless it's next to zero) it means that it may take longer and you will need help if you want to up your chances to getting pregnant sooner.

I have a suggestion. Try the "Sperm Meets Egg Plan". The long and short of this plan is that you have sex primarily during your fertile time and only a few other times during the month. This way, hubby is as full as possible when you're fertile. The trick is knowing exactly when you are fertile, so if you don't mind spending on ovulation predictor kits, you're good to go.

Try it, it works for some couples. Please let me know how it goes.

Lots of baby dust to you!!!

http://www.pregnancyloss.info/sperm_meets_egg_plan.htm

Answer 2

can completely understand how you are feeling, it took me ages to get pg, and all the time it seemed that everyone I knew was having babies, everyone I saw on the street/at work/on tv was pregnant.
At least you know what the problem is, and are getting help for it, albeit with a long waiting list. You are lucky that you are still young and have that on your side. I found that getting stressed and fed up did not help at all, in fact the month we gave up trying and went away for a camping weekend was most likely the weekend I fell pg.
You could go back and see your doctor and explain how unhappy it is making you feel, see if there is anything else that can be done in the meantime, any herbal remedies or things you and your husband could be doing to help improve sperm count.
sorry, no actual medical advice, all I can say is keep trying, it will happen eventually, and all this waiting will be worth it.

Answer 3

I don't have a low count, but my wife and I tried for a couple of years with no success.

Then a fertility doc suggested that she get a salpingogram (sp?), which is a radio-opaque X-ray of her fallopian tubes. They were clear. But the interesting thing was, he said a lot of women get pregnant soon after that test. Possibly the injection of the radio-opaque solution opens up the passages, or changes the conditions in some way to allow a more effective union of egg and sperm -- the doctor wasn't sure how it was working, but the stats seemed to reveal that it did.

Normally, I'd advise against any unnecessary X-rays, and I wasn't thrilled about her going in for that test, but she did, and a couple of months later, it worked.

Answer 4

hi there i really sympathise with you as my husband and i tried for 4 years to have our beautiful son. i was diagnosed with endometriosis and my husband had a low sperm count. our whole life revolved around getting pregnant especially when my sister fell pregnant with twins.i then suffered a molar pregnancy . we had almost given up hope but 6 months later i had fallen pregnant against doctors advise. I wish you every luck in trying,there is light at the end of the tunnel i promise.

Answer 5

Even with low sperm count it is possible to get pregnant. Don't have sex too much. Starting about 10 days after the first day of your cycle have sex every other day through about the 16th day. Good luck. Also, go to a health food store and check out herbal suppliments for him.

Answer 6

I know 3 year sounds a long time but its not i was trying for just over 4 years before i got pregnant. Just keep trying you will probarly find you get pregnant before the 3 years.

Answer 7

Just be patient and don't think about getting pregnant, its like watching a kettle to boil, it seems to take forever. Try not to do it too oftern as this could lower his count ever more, try more nearer the time of when you are more fertile.

Answer 8

hiya,

ive heard of the army having some kind of healthcare cover and fertilly probs being covered i swear there is ive heard women talking about it in forums.

also there is supplement he could take there zinc, and theres co enzime q10 which is supposed to be good, there are other things aswell but im no expert i'd take a look around fertillyfreinds and maybe ask them what other things he could take xx

http://www.fertilityfriends.co.uk/

Answer 9

One thing you should think about, is that in a fairly high percentage of infertility cases, there's nothing wrong on either side - but the mix doesn't work. There are quite a few women who destroy their husband's sperm on sight - not intentionally, but it happens.

And healthy women do it as much as weaklings - probably more.

So *please* don't play the 'it's you, hon, not me!' card too often - think about how you'd want him to act if your eggs were dodgy, and behave that way to him.

Look into fostering and/ or adoption. There's a recognised syndrome where, if you have a baby in the household, your own body kicks into gear and competes - so 'your' genes aren't left behind completely.

Helen

Answer 10

I know youv'e stated your both fit but make sure his and your diet are consisting of plenty of veggies especially greens (broccoli, cabbage, spinach etc) those that have plenty of iron. Also check yours and hubbys iron level as this can help boost low sperm count. If your iron level is low you can take supplements.