So why didn't he want to support and stay married to me.... I cant seem to understand why he lusts after me so much now
2007-09-27 09:13:21 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'd love to know your definition of "Ex-Husband." Is it when you tell people you are no longer together, even though you're screwing your brains out? Let's be honest here---you haven't separated. You've just taken all of the responsibility out of the relationship, all that messy unpleasant stuff like communication about issues, commitment, and confrontation over differences. What's left is the fun. Only instead of admitting that you're having a relationship with a guy purely for sex, because you can't seem to get along in any other area, you're pretending to be "separated." That way, you can think of your sexual encounters as random events that just happened to occur, rather than what they truly are.
If you and your ex-husband want to take responsibility for your lives, have an honest discussion about what's happening. Either accept the fact that you are using each other for sex, and would like things to remain this way . . . . OR, if you truly want a healthy relationship, settle your differences to create an opening for a more compatible partnership. Take your pick.
2007-09-27 09:55:18 · answer #1 · answered by ravishingV 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the two of you just weren't meant to live together and share everything together, as in finances, chores, etc. But you can be good friends and have great sex. There is nothing wrong with that, imo. Much better than hating each other's guts and doing all sorts of nasty things, name calling, etc. which is what usually happens in divorces.
2007-09-27 16:27:05 · answer #2 · answered by meagain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe its the marriage part that ruins it all.
I am doing the same thing...I am back with my first ex husband from over 15 years ago. Our marriage sucks and we have been off and on for years and the only time we are happy is without the pressure of marriage so what does a piece of paper really matter. So long as we are happy!
2007-09-27 16:17:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
because he dosent take have to take care of you or see you that much. he lust you no loves you. he just want to stick it nice and then leave. dont be a fool you deserve better and its just the sex part get a toy and go nuts. Having sex with your ex is a fools answer. Get someone else are you not attractive you can find better sex with someone else.
2007-09-27 16:44:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sex can be great, but it's all the other responsibilities of a marriage that it looks like he can't handle. And you're letting him have sex with you? That's just crazy.
2007-10-01 16:18:46 · answer #5 · answered by makeloans2 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be he wants no one else to have you and he gets all the benefits without supporting you or being married to you.
2007-09-27 16:17:05 · answer #6 · answered by NAN G 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he could be using you just for sex I would have cut him off a long time ago.... my ex tries that with me all the time just stick to yur guns and tell him NO tell him to support the kids but that is all you want
2007-09-27 16:34:59 · answer #7 · answered by oh_jo123 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this straight? He split, and you're hurt, but you're still having sex with him?!
He's manipulating you! Stop the sex! There's more than one guy out there you can have awesome sex with.
Show yourself some respect!
2007-09-27 16:18:49 · answer #8 · answered by belle 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He's trying to still win you. He's back in the chase. Is he married or have a gf? He might be in it for the thrill of cheating on them? It could even be guilt.
2007-09-27 16:19:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He's having his cake and eating it too. He no longer has the responsibility to be a good, faithful husband. He's getting exactly what he wants.
2007-09-27 16:17:07 · answer #10 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋