would u lie?

Question

~ not borrow? or
~ keep it from you significant other?

if lets say, you were to (or could) borrow -much needed- money from someone he/she disliked?

Keep in mind there are few alternatives to borrow from- like banks, other family members, ect...plus the interest involved would set u back for years!
Im talking about 3thousand-but still get the hint.

I am so curious as to what you people would do in tihs case.

*and there are no srtings attached--none (from the peson loaning the cash).

and yes we really need it.

And--5Hit!! i already have 2 jobs..come on people--lol.
But like i said its really needed-

Great answers--thanks...we think alike.

Answer 1

No I wouldn't lie, but the trick is to get your significant other to realize that there is no other choice and get them to decide to borrow from them.

Answer 2

I wouldn't borrow that much money from anybody I know, especially not from friends. Money has a way of souring a relationship. I would borrow from a bank institution and pay the interest. It's not worth it borrowing from a friend or family. If I was married to this "significant other", I would tell them about the loan - because if something happened, he would be responsible for this loan. If I was just dating this guy, no, I wouldn't tell him, but I wouldn't lie to him if he asked.

Answer 3

I would do it only if I can get my mate to understand that we need this money and I don't have to do anything for it.

If he's dead set against you borrowing the money from the person he doesn't like then I wouldn't do it.

What will happen is that he will eventually find out where you got the money from and feel less then a man because you had to go to another man to help you guys out. No man wants to feel like they can't provide for their family.

So, if you want to keep the person you are with, DON'T DO IT. It will only backfire on you in the end.

Answer 4

Well.. assuming that I could not get the money from anyone else including the bank and a old friend that was not liked my by other wanted to give me the money I would take it.

And I would let my spouse do the same if I could not do it.

The bottom line the person I love is getting the help they need. And if anyone has something to say about it without saying "here you go take this from me"! Is just being selfish.

Answer 5

Well I have actually been in that kind of situation and my husband hated the person that could loan me the money and he never knew about it and I think that if you need it, you should borrow the cash. I would do the same thing if I had to do it over again

Answer 6

I'm VERY anti-money borrowing. I'd deliver pizzas as a 2nd job or sell some of my belongings before I'd be comfy borrowing money from an individual (more than a few bucks).

As for this scenario, I'm not into the bad karma of lying so hopefully my partner would be kewl with whomever the money was borrowed from...especially if he had no better suggestions himself.

Answer 7

Tanyah, I would most certainly be honest with my partner. If I was to embellish or not be 100% over this situation and get away with it, then it would make it much easier to lie again in the future and feel like I got away with it once so maybe again. Besides personally I would have a problem just talking with her as it would be eating me up inside knowing that I did something behind her back that I know dam well she would not approve of or be comfortable with. Perhaps I am just too honest a guy or getting to old to lie but I know if the shoe were reversed I wouldn't be happy if she was to try and do something like that behind my back. Just one old guys opinion on honesty in relationships.

Answer 8

I wouldn't lie. If we really needed the money, I would just tell him that that was our only option. I bet there really are some strings attached. Why does your husband not like this person? The fact that you are even considering this is a red flag that your marriage is in trouble . Marriage should be based on trust, not lies.

Answer 9

I would never borrow money from any person secretively. If we need to borrow money, we borrow it from a bank. Money can do damning things to relationships between friends and family, so we don't even go there.
The only thing I hide from my husband is his Christmas presents.........

Answer 10

No, that is asking for trouble. Look at the questions and answers here in the relationship categories. Most of the problems people have with their partners begin with dishonesty or secrecy, and it can be tremendously hurtful and destructive. Be honest, even when others can not, will not or are not.

Answer 11

I would not lie. If I needed to borrow money, I would borrow it from someone that I do not have to hide from my partner/mate.

By the way, there are always strings when you loan money to someone. Money changes everything.