How would heterosexual people know if being gay is a choice?

Answer 1

It doesn't matter whether it's a choice or not. I accept that others' are gay. I have no control over that and it's none of my business and others' sex lives don't affect me. Good luck. 2D

Answer 2

They don't know. If they are homophobic, that's probably what scares them. If it isn't a 'choice', like some claim it is, then they have no more excuses to dismiss it as something 'abhorrent' that people 'become', just to get attention.

If they are so arrogant as to believe, gay people 'choose' to become gay, and believe they are right in thinking this, then surely THEY must have, at one stage in their lives, had to make the decision to become heterosexual once. Does that mean they had homosexual thoughts and feelings once, I wonder?!
There must have been a 'choose your sexuality class' in school that I must have skipped, coz I don't remember sitting down in the multiple choice exam and thinking "now.....will/should I choose heterosexuality or will/should I be gay?"

Answer 3

I am a woman who is attracted to other women, however, if I act on that is the choice. I think I can be just as happy being married to my loving husband. I made a choice. Everyone always has a choice. That is called Free Agency and is the right of ever human being. You may not ba able to control who you are attracted to, or how many X Y chromisomes you have... but you can control what you do with your life. By making a choice to be gay or straight.

Answer 4

I know that being homosexual is NOT a choice, and I am a heterosexual ... I did 'research' on the 'sexual contact of animals other than human' when I was doing my Master's Degree in Psychology ... and since EVERY animal had the 'same percentage' of homosexual contacts as humans, it could NOT be a choice. Only people can 'choose' things, but since animals do it at the EXACT percentage it's NOT a choice. It's a 'born in' condition ...

Answer 5

Myth #1: Homosexuality is only a chosen lifestyle.
Common sense suggests that an individual does not choose a homosexual orientation, because it is unlikely anyone would consciously choose to be vilified and denigrated by centuries of persecution. Some women and men have chosen to be lesbian and gay for various reasons, but the majority of homosexuals don't choose to have homosexual attractions; it is simply a fact of their existence. Research on gay men shows that sexual orientation occurs long before conscious choice is even available for an individual's action and/or awareness. Recent research is indicating that homosexuality has a degree of biologic predetermination. However, whether it is biologically predetermined or culturally instilled through as yet too complicated processes of early development, what is known is that one's affiliative sexual orientation is indelible, just as one's concept of self as male or female is indelible.

There is a significant amount of research data to support claims of a biological basis for male homosexuality. For example, writer Chandler Burr's 1996 book, A Separate Creation, goes into great depth on the question of research regarding the existence of a "gay gene" described by Dean Hamer and colleagues in a 1993 Science article, "A Linkage Between DNA Markers on the X Chromosome and Male Sexual Orientation." The hypothesis that there is a "gay gene" was also explored by Simon LeVay in his book The Sexual Brain, and in his article, "The Evidence of Biological Influence on Male Homosexuality," published in Scientific American in 1994. Even before LeVay and Hamer came out with their findings, others such as D. Swaab and M. Hofman had published research on biological differences between heterosexual and gay men in a 1990 issue of the journal Brain Research. (Research on lesbians has not been done because systemic sexism minimizes research on women.)

Answer 6

Good question! And I don't know if being gay is a choice.....I only know lots of people seem to think so. If it is a choice, it baffles me as to why someone would choose that lifestyle, especially years ago when being gay was like having leprosy.

Answer 7

I think that we all want to believe that we have a choice of what our lives become. I can't rule out the possibility that some people are born with a natural attraction to the same sex, but I do know that it is a choice as to whether or not one acts on these attractions. Even heterosexuals can choose to remain celibate if they desire. It mostly depends on your religious beliefs and willingness to abide by them. I refuse to judge someone either way.

Answer 8

Being Gay is not a choice you are born that way its genetic. The only choice is how you live your life. As A therapist and Gender specialist I deal with this issue. If you have questions you cab contact a Local PFLAG chapter.

Answer 9

I am perfectly straight, except if Tiffani Theissen walked through the door. But I do not think homosexuality is a choice. It's just a different way of loving. No one know anything for curtain in this life, so they should just find better uses of their time, than speaking on issues they know nothing about.

Answer 10

If they think reasonably about it for even half a second they would know it's not a choice.

I mean, let's see -- possible rejection by your family and friends, disdain from society, death sentence in some countries -- wow, sounds like a great choice!