I am 15 weeks pregnant with baby number 5. All of my other children are by my ex-husband. We have been divorced since April. I have been with my boyfriend since December(we were already seperated). My problem is my boyfriend doesn't want the baby. He literally broke out in a cold sweat when I told him I was pregnant. When I told him I didnt want to get an abortion he didnt speak to me for two days. That was a week ago and we have barely spoken. I am at a loss. While I am pro choice, abortion is not for me. I love this man although I know he's a looser. I need advice. Please.
2007-09-27 07:19:39 · 16 answers · asked by five_on_it 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I know it hurts, but you have to move on and do what is best for you and your children and the one on the way. Don't pursue him and don't expect him to come back, although he might. He has a right to be freaked out, you guys have been together for less than a year. Just give him time, keep him informed of appointments, but no pressure. Either he becomes a father or not. The important thing is your a mommy, so continue to be a good one. Good Luck!
2007-09-27 07:26:59 · answer #1 · answered by jenjfrost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i know where you are coming from i have 4 kids of my own. i was with my ex-husband for 11 years that is who my children are by. but the thing is he cheated on me all the time. he is a looser also. my youngest child is a girl and he wanted me to have an abortion also when i found out that i was pregnant with her. well i didn't do it so he left me. so i had her but when he seen her afier she was born he just fell in love with her. but guess what don't let him get off too easy. after that baby is born put him on child support. and if he wants any visition rights he has to take you back to court just to do that. the judge will not give him visition rights during the hearing of the child support. so there for you are in the clear with that. so i hope the best for you. do what you feel that you should. that child that you are carring is apart of you and them other kids that you have. so god bless and i wish the best.
2007-09-27 07:39:15 · answer #2 · answered by angel11081981 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa sweetie this is a tough one. Boyfriends come and go.Babies just come. If he doesnt want to share this experience I say first think of the baby and the challenges ahead if you stay with him. Then find someone who you can talk to. I am 8 months pregnant with my 3rd child and the father promised me the world and has been gone for 4months now. I love him to but I have to put those feelings aside for awile. It also may be as simple as he need some time to adjust. Give it some time maybe he will learn to love you and the baby.
2007-09-27 07:34:41 · answer #3 · answered by prego3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want your child, no matter what he wants, then keep it. Nobody can make you do anything that you dont wanna do..he is a loser if he wants to be with you, and have sex with you, but when you get pregnant, he turns around and walks out of your life. Thats not a real man, nor a father. I wouldnt want a man like that in my life, or my babys. Do what you think is best. Hope all goes well. Good luck.
2007-09-27 07:39:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. the final ingredient so which you would be able to do is proceed seeing a therapist. strangely adequate, i became purely for the duration of this occasion no longer until eventually now. i'm nonetheless seeing my therapist because of the fact I felt like my boyfriend wanted this different female better than me. i know how undesirable it hurts. i did no longer consume purely such as you. I lost exceptionally much 20 lbs. in a week from no longer ingesting. the final ingredient so which you would be able to do is to embody your self with people who love and care approximately you. circulate out and attempt to have exciting. attempt to take your recommendations off of issues. And being pregnant, evaluate that a blessing. infants are presents and while your infants are born, you would be happier because of the fact no remember what, those infants will constantly love you. And this guy, he became a loser besides. to go away you 5 months pregnant, he's in basic terms a jerk. you will detect a guy who will love you & you will locate somebody who might never dream of injuring you. purely provide it time. sturdy success sweetie.
2016-10-05 11:07:04 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen I have five children and I understand where u r coming from.If he is a loser then lose him u don't need him if he doesn't want to be there. If u really love then give him some time and space to get use to the idea of being a father and he may come around if not then tell him to hit the road
2007-09-27 07:26:27 · answer #6 · answered by Michele S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether you love this man or not is not important anymore. You have chosen to carry this baby to term and now the most important thing is your health and the baby's health. If he doesn't want the baby then cut him loose. However, make sure you have the paperwork in order for support. He shouldn't get off that easy.
2007-09-27 07:24:15 · answer #7 · answered by Moo Moo Mair 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough decision. You could put the child up for adoption. Or you could have the child and raise it.
You stated you love this man, but he is a loser. My advice would be to have the child, and get rid of the man. If he is indeed the father, you could get child support from him, since he doesn't want the child, you can get full custody.
It's a tough decision, and I think you will make the right decision.
Sending you love--
--Del ☺
2007-09-27 07:26:29 · answer #8 · answered by deleriumbliss 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you do not feel abortion is for you and want the baby you'll only regret having an abortion, especially if your relationship doesn't work out. I would suggest standing firm with what you feel, he is not handling this maturely at all. What are his reasons for wanting you to abort?
2007-09-27 07:49:20 · answer #9 · answered by Manny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want this man who cannot be there for you when you need him the most? A man who runs away to be the father of your child? Many women do this all alone. You have your family and friends. By the sound of it you will be happier without him. Good luck
2007-09-27 07:37:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋