I went to a funeral of my friend. Next to me was this little kid that kept looking at me and then said something about my nose or some part of my face and at that moment i wanted to strangle this kid. Annoyance and Overwhelming rage overtook me. I wasnt event thinking about my dead friend just that little kid. I also had trouble sitting still in my seat and wanted to get up and walk out. Is it a normal reaction to feel that way?
2007-09-27 07:15:05 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
As a child I always remember being a
'people pleaser'. I never dared to say something like that to someone and always knew the difference and how it would make someone feel from as far back as i can remember. If i didnt act accordingly i would be hit and hard.
2007-09-27 07:21:45 · update #1
yes, the parent was there. Sitting right by the kid and heard what the kid said.
2007-09-27 07:50:06 · update #2
It would not be a normal reaction if you were in another situation. But You were at a funeral, the "dead" was your friend, so I guess you were upset and the child's attitude took you by surprise specially because you would never expect it to happen in a funeral!!!
Don't take it too bad... It was just a kid making fun of someone he just saw or met (which is very common...) And you were at your friend's funeral which is not one of the funniest and nicest places to be, right??
2007-09-27 07:28:49 · answer #1 · answered by Desir D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean as a kid you would have been "hit and hard"...were you abused? Just wondering.
And as for the kid....kids are about the only people who will speak the truth about EVERYTHING! Though it wasn't right for what the kid may have said to you they are only speaking what they think.
And yes the parents of the child should have taught the child better than to speak at funerals anyway. I'm sure the kid meant no harm in all of the actions and with you getting in such a rage that could have come from emotions that you had inside from the death of your friend.
I'm sorry for your lose! I wish you well!!!! :)
2007-09-27 14:31:35 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Fun Lovin Chick♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is why I don't bring small kids to funerals or weddings. It's okay that you felt this way, you've been dealing with the stress of the loss of your friend, (I'm sorry) and sometimes feelings get bottled up, and you might not know how to express them, and this kid just set you off, because he said something inappropriate, and all a sudden, those feelings just kinda gush out. It's normal. After that, you're left feeling uncomfortable, not just because you probably had to continue to sit next to the kid, but because you might have felt bad for getting angry over it, so of course, why would you want to stay there. I hope you're coping well with your loss, good luck.
2007-09-27 14:20:55 · answer #3 · answered by dontfeedthemoose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is normal and no one wants to be pick on at the funeral's moment. This kid here is beyond help and you are not a mother, as matter of nothing you can do about. If I am at this situation I will speak to his or her parent about the behavior. I will also tell this kid to stop and I will give him or her a shot of mean words. Unfortunately you are very polite and nice. I bet it shocked you I hope you feel a Little better. I feel so ashamed as a parent to hear and see that kind of behavior. Sad child and he or she is going nowhere in life Trust me. You are normal.
2007-09-27 14:41:47 · answer #4 · answered by ryladie99 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Due to the fact you were at a funeral for your friend, your not going to be in the best moods.
It is a kid, and they say and do childish things. Because they are kids. What do you care about what a 12 year old is going to say? You should not let it bother you.
However with that being said, you were already going through allot that didn't help.
Sorry for your loss.
2007-09-27 14:25:23 · answer #5 · answered by krennao 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I'm sorry that you even had to go to a funeral. Furthermore, I don't understand why anyone would bring a child to a funeral in the first place--they do things like this! They become a distraction and you forget the reason as to why you are where you are.
Unless it's immediate family, I don't necessarily think that children should go to funerals. That's just my opinion though.
2007-09-27 14:24:52 · answer #6 · answered by Edith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. U were going through a stressful and upsetting situation, and some snot-nosed brat starts talking crap. Anger is something that alot of people go through when faced with losing a dear friend. Talk to a family member, friend, or professional to get help with overcoming the tragic death of ur friend.
2007-09-27 14:20:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think so. It didn't strike you the least bit funny? You never said anything like that as a child? I know I did and I would guess everybody alive has. That is a lot of stress to go through for a harmless remark from a child.
2007-09-27 14:18:14 · answer #8 · answered by marie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a brother who makes people laugh at funerals(usually by doing something stupid) I actually laughed at my sisters funeral,it was at a little funeral home. Even though it was it the city it reminded me of some place in the country, my brother said"Come for the funeral, stay for the ribs" I loled. Later, one of the songs played for the viewing was Handel's"hallelujah " song. It was another reason to laugh. (Not right I know, but thats my family;))
2007-09-27 14:27:18 · answer #9 · answered by ralahinn1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is suppressed rage from when you where a child, and the incident triggered it, plus you are vulnerable at this time.
Please go and see a counsellor.. or write down everything you can remember from that period of your life, to see if it causes you angry feelings.
Otherwise it could lead to serious anger/rage explosions.
2007-09-27 14:28:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋