I am Hispanic and the father of my child is black. She looks more like her father than she does me. I often get mistaken as her nanny, and I get lots of stares (mostly from the hispanic community) It used to bother me before but I'm used to it now. I would just like to know if your a bi-racial child was it hard growning up for you? I would like to know what my daughter is in store for as she grows up and be prepared somewhat for her. She is 3 years old right now. I was brought up that their is one race which is the Human race, but i know many people have their own opionions. I just want to be prepared for my daughter.
2007-09-27 06:47:21 · 11 answers · asked by ME!!! 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
There will always be ignorant people in this world. There is nothing you can do to change that. All you can do is love your daughter and let her know that people who really matter in her life loves her. Also, always tell her how some people will be. She is 50% you, 50% her father and 100% herself. KEEP LOVING HER. GOODLUCK!!!
2007-09-27 06:55:31 · answer #1 · answered by Karel 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have a daughter that is black in all ways. Black tight cirls, dark brown skin, brown eyes. "A black child". Both her parents (us) are white as is all the family history we can search out.. She "is" indeed mine (Dee- her father), and her mothers. So ??????.... Go figure
We live in the rural country. She is 8 and a cheerleader. She is one of 3 black children in her elementary school. A good size school. She nor her friends have yet to realize she is colored.
A blessing as I was so concerned. A concern that has yet to be validated in her 4 years of school.
She even did so well that she was the only cheerleader that the Varsity invited to train and rise to the top of the pyramid where she would kick her legs out and drop to be caught by the two at the base of the pyramid. A proud moment for us.
My wish for you would do not do as I did, do not worry about her being interracial. -----Let her be as you said another member of the human race.----- It seems the children are doing that themselves, and, because, she will do this anyway.
I might recommend not going into cheerleading. In first grade we were warned by a teacher that cheerleaders are hard to get to work in groups and cooperate with teachers. It is a STRONG truth. They are independent, strongly aggressive in wanting to be independent . and are strong willed. It is taught to them fiercely in cheerleading ...which is 4+ times a week. "Do YOUR best" (Not the group’s best). Let them hear "YOU". It comes back to haunt the teachers and parents and you must teach them that teamwork at home.
But racial distinction in our community seems non-existent.
I pry you find this true, and that it remains with all the schools and many extra curricular activities they have.
Dee
2007-09-29 21:22:17 · answer #2 · answered by Schelley H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am biracial (black and white) and sometimes I did have it hard but, who doesn't? Just teach your daughter about both her cultures and teach her to be proud and she will be ok. She will see the same racism that you and her father have seen so, you'll already know how she feels. Just let her know that she is loved and that everyone is from the same race. The human race.
2007-09-27 14:07:49 · answer #3 · answered by Prettycutetk 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Teach good ways of dealing with teasing (and worse), my favorite is from "Little Bill" where the father tells little Bill to just say "So?". Make sure she understands that she's ok no matter what others say.
Depending on where you live it maybe easier or harder. My daughter's school has quite an ethnic mixture including other mixed Asians like she is.
Good Luck, and I hope you get a lot of good advice.
2007-09-27 13:55:17 · answer #4 · answered by Pirate AM™ 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My sons are biracial, and I get some stares and some smiles. One is looks Black, and one is lighter. They have not had many problems, and we are in a predominantly white area. We are both white... imagine the stares. We believe as you do we are one race. Try to keep in touch with a variety of people for her.
2007-09-29 21:13:50 · answer #5 · answered by Kelly L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's real simple. If you do like a lot of parents do in an interracialrelationship and do not teach that child about race and about being black, because most people are going to consider her black, then your kid is going to grow up confused and picked on. Black kids will accept your kid if your kid is OK being black. WHite kids may accept your kid but many of them are not going to accept your kid regardless of if they claim to be mixed or black.
2007-09-27 13:54:41 · answer #6 · answered by bettercockster7 c 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Share the 2 heritages with your child when she is older she will pick which one she feels comfortable with She will, sorry to say, have bigoted slurs thrown at her by stupid people good luck
2007-09-27 13:55:33 · answer #7 · answered by devora k 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm black and puerto rican. i really didn't have any problems growing up. nor did my brother or sister.
i live in Texas and a lot of the Mexicans don't like black people. LOL, i think it's so ridiculous. how can Mexicans hate black people? I'll never figure it out. anyways...your child will be fine. just raise your child to the best of your ability and they will be fine.
2007-09-27 13:54:08 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. Lady 7 · 5⤊ 2⤋
There may be some cruel people who will actually put her down because of racial mixing, so you should remind her that she is the product of love, that you and her father love her, and that her Heavenly Father loves her. These are the things that matter.
2007-09-27 13:53:47 · answer #9 · answered by sdb deacon 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Kids are evil to everyone. She would have had it hard even if she wasn't of mixed race.
2007-09-27 15:06:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋