children and a will, who do yo uthink should get them?

Question

So my husband and i are planning for a family, and we came across something we both is improtant and that is a will, god parents, etc. and we were trying to deside who should get our kids (when the time comes). I really don't want my mother to have them b/c she is a good mother but manic depressant and her religious beliefs are not what i want for my children. His mother lives in a different country (israel to be exact) and he doesn't want to put the financial burden on her of having kids at her age. Our other two options are my cousin who we agree will raise our kids ith the same values that we would, or his brother. Is it ok to put the burden of my child on my cousin when she is not immideate family? can i also give whoever access to property and resources we have built up to be used for the children? and can we put somewhere in a will that the children are required to have a certain amount of contact with their grandparents and aunts? and how would you feel if cousin you were?

if you were the godmother and the parents died and you had to add 2 kids to your family??

Answer 1

My cousin made me the godmother of his children. I was honored - and if there had been a tragedy, I would have gladly welcomed all 6 kids into my life. Thankfully that never happened and the kids are all grown - or mostly grown.

Discuss these issues with your cousin and his brother - both of whom sound like good candidates for godparents.

Then speak with your attorney about making your children your heirs and the godparent the trustee of your estate until the children are of a "certain age" (to be determined by you)so that there is a responsible adult watching after their financial interests also -

Answer 2

If your cousin has already agreed to raise the children, and you are comfortable w/ her judgement and values what's the problem?
Godparents are not usually immediate family, it doesn't matter. And yes, you can put any provision you want in your will.

Answer 3

Godparents can be anyone you want, they don't have to be family, just someone close to you who would raise your children the same way you would raise them. My friend's godparents aren't related to her at all, they're just close family friends. Discuss this with your cousin and see if she would be willing to raise your child in you stead if something were to happen to you and your husband.

Answer 4

you can put just about anything in a will.... some old rich business woman passed away and gave millions to her dog! i think your cousin would be the best choice, but before signing anything discuss it with her to see how she feels. you can leave your property to the children, but until they are of legal age their gaurdian will be in control... discuss everything with an attourney!

Answer 5

Honestly, I think the better decision would be to have the children placed with his brother. The brother is closer in family.

Answer 6

I think you should discuss this issue with the cousin...this is not a decision to be taken lightly