I would much rather spend my time alone and dread even having to see my own family. I feel like its a chore instead of something to be happy about. I won't even talk to my friends anymore. I really hate chit chatting and being around people. Am i selfish? Why is it that my own family dosent interest me let alone strangers?
2007-09-27 06:23:56 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It may not be that you hate being around people, but that you only want to be around someone that understands you 100%.
I used to keep a super-clean (almost obsessively-compulsive) room, and everything was in line with symmetry. I wouldn't mind having friends over, but I didn't want them in my room, and they thought it was weird, and I wasn't willing to explain it to them because they were friends, but not friends I would discuss deep things about myself to.
Eventually I found friends that were willing to accomodate my personality in that way. I never hated being around people, but in my mind I thought I had to only be around someone exactly like me, which is impossible to find anyway.
As well, hanging out is work, and so sometimes we're not in the mood to be around people, especially if we can pick it up later. For those who friendship is new to, they hang out with others constantly.
I mean, if you're not really in the mood to interact, but go somewhere social anyway, people think that you are in a bad mood specifically towards them, so it is good to take a break now and then.
2007-09-27 06:34:25 · answer #1 · answered by perfectlybaked 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a nephew 26 who appears to have much in common with your description . He was bullied relentlessly by his older brother and belittled and he still has depression and doesn't like to be around people. He's missed out on his teenage years for the most part and still has never had a date and lives with his mother. His father died in an accident shortly after his birth so he didn't have a male role model in the house. He's always changed his mind about even seeking help which he needs . I do understand your feelings and the long lasting affects this sort of thing can have on a person. Although I'm approaching 50 now I still remember how horrible my 5th and 6th grade teachers treated me in school , making fun of me and humiliating me in front of the class because they felt I talked to slow. It had some lasting effects on me. What helped me was when going to junior high I was then exposed to other people who didn't know of this and the teasing stopped . If I may I'd recommend you try hanging around some people new and who have no previous conceptions of you as a person and this may be of some benefit to you . Try to fight any feelings you may have of being inadequate in any way if indeed you have such feelings. It's the bullies that indeed suffer from these problems and not yourself . It is very easy to become tougher on yourself than anyone else could be given what you've gone through. After a time it's difficult to shake the things you've been told by such bullies but try and realize it's they who have the problem and not you . Take a stand and tell yourself over and over I'm tired of this and I refuse to let these past problems continue , after all it was others who had the real problem and don't blame yourself nor be tough on yourself , your a worthy good person whom deserves more out of life so don't sell yourself short please . Try surrounding yourself with upbeat and perhaps new people as this may help . I don't feel this will always be a problem for you , but you alone have the power within yourself to end it . I mentioned upbeat people because they are easier to talk with and open up to and will make it easier dealing with the trust issues. Also in closing I'd like to say that never allow someone else to define who you are as a person , only you know that . That goes for you also , don't look at yourself in negative ways and realize you have the power to change any problem you may encounter . I appreciate having the opportunity to speak with you on this matter . Best of wishes to you and you can overcome this I'm certain of it.
2016-04-06 03:57:27 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is anything wrong with that. Family get togethers usually results in someone's feelings getting hurt because "we're family, we can say what we want". I dislike being around my family, I don't hate them, I just have different interests than they do. I have a saying that I use frequently, "I am not racist, I hate everybody". I shouldn't say I hate them, but I would rather not be around people. They annoy me. There petty problems, especially women, oh my nails, my hair, Hey be grateful you have nails and hair and shut up and move on. If people discuss real problems, raising children, helping the elderly in the family, diseases and how to cope, that is more allowable but don't talk to me and expect sympathy for something you think I should feel sorry for. If I have sympathy it is because I feel it, not because you think I should feel it. I have no desire to introduce myself to people, my husband says I am an introvert. If I feel a connection to someone, I will chat but I usually run out of things to say in about 5 minutes. LOL.
2007-09-27 06:37:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Antisocial tis all. I am like that too at times. Perhaps your at a point in your life where your feeling down? Are you doing soul-searching? Are you depressed alot? Ask your self this. Then think about it. You know you had a lot more fun with your friends am I correct? You justcant handle it. Perhaps your family and friends are close people? As in, do they crowd you and make you uncomfortable. Perhaps they just annoy you and you dont realize it. Your family is important, but if you cant stand your friends time to find new ones.
2007-09-27 07:06:48 · answer #4 · answered by Willowmeana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the same way, I have determined taht i generally hate people. Somedays I only talk to my best friend in the morning because i driveher son to school. When she gets in the car sometimes I just want her to leave and not talk to me. I hate having to place nice nice with people at the store and if my kids arent with I odnt even want to go in. I love my husband and kids but I LOVE when they are all at school/work so I can be alone!
2007-09-27 06:34:59 · answer #5 · answered by kaytee3212 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe you're bored. maybe you're depressed. i think most people generally get annoyed with others easily. we are all selfish in our own ways. i can't only stand to be around my family for a short time. but it's just because their attitudes, fighting, and negativity tend to annoy me. but i still love them. i don't like being alone, but we all need our time away from others. did something bad happen that made you wanna become a loner?
2007-09-27 06:35:01 · answer #6 · answered by Brio 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude i am exactly like you, everyone seems to piss me off by the way they talk and act and there S@#4 just gets annoying, i am literally counting down the days till i can leave to go to college i just want to get out of the area that i am in.
2007-09-27 06:32:30 · answer #7 · answered by Rex R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you've been so disappointed that your now don't see things the way you use to. Perhaps your changing now and like a butterfly cocooning until the new you is ready. Or a wounded wolf who takes off to lick it's wounds. Perhaps when your ready you'll snap out of it. I hope. lol
2007-09-27 06:49:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way too sometimes. But maybe it has to do with the fact that I'm kiiiiiind of social phobic. >.<
2007-09-27 07:57:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
cos maybe in 1 or more ways u feel superior and not part of a simple human ape crowd
2007-09-27 07:29:36 · answer #10 · answered by Greta B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋