...about men. is it true that you need to have sex with your partner to feel closer?
2007-09-27 06:10:22 · 20 answers · asked by ♥SPARKLES♥™ 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
men answer only please. thanks.
2007-09-27 06:10:43 · update #1
TRACER: once a month! OMG sod that!
2007-09-27 06:18:20 · update #2
i like you guys your very civil when answering. thanks!
2007-09-27 06:30:11 · update #3
Sex is an important part of a relationship (If sex was unimportant, then cheating would also be considered unimportant) but if it is or becomes the most important aspect then there is no 'real' relationship.
Sex can be the ultimate expression of love between two consenting adults, a way to communicate feelings that are difficult to express in words -- It helps build closeness and intimacy, relieves stress, gives comfort, and it differentiates a romantic relationship from a platonic relationship.
And don't ever forget that the most important sexual organ is the brain!!
2007-09-27 06:26:27 · answer #1 · answered by Kedar 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Not too sure that the imperative 'need' is the correct term but physical intimacy does help. I wouldn't say it's exclusively required but all relationships have many components--psychological, spiritual, vocational, social, financial--and for most people a certain level of each component must be present in order for the relationship to work. I have many friends with whom I have not had sex but yet feel very close to them. I think when you've found that person with whom most of your values, needs and wants are synchronized, that feeling of closeness is engendered.
2007-09-27 06:30:15 · answer #2 · answered by HMFan 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am gay and I have had very close partners in my life, but I never had to engaged in "penetration" sex. I think sharing things and cuddling and being emotionally close, is more than enough for a lot of gay guys. Sex should be fun, but it is not always safe and therefor one needs to make sure that if you going to sleep with someone that it's a person you can trust.
Therefor "closeness" should have been established already by other things in your relationship and not sex.
2007-09-27 06:25:40 · answer #3 · answered by neverlandboy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well i think in any relationship any body is going to feel closer when making love i know i feel closer to my bf when were making love but i cant answer for all gay men either but if i had to venture a guess id say that when together we feel safer more in control of our life's its just us and we don't have to worry about anything except what were going to do to please our partner next i hope that was not to much detail but that was the only way i could find to say it
2007-09-27 17:11:25 · answer #4 · answered by tommy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've had lots of lovers and only one partner and that's over now. Nothing I have ever felt was as good as seeing the look on his face (my ex-partner) of pleasure that I gave him. That was the ultimate of sex. No one else has ever been able to duplicate that. He is just a fond memory now.
2007-09-27 15:10:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I prefer emotional connections over physical connections, thank you very much. If someone told me I could never have sex with someone in my entire life, I don't think I'd be very devastated.
I would be disappointed of course, but not to a spectacular degree.
2007-09-27 07:46:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not mandetory but but a healthy sex life does help make for a good relationship. My last bf didnt like to return the favor after he got off needless to say it caused problems.
2007-09-27 06:29:57 · answer #7 · answered by Jon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I could agree that having sex makes me feel closer. But there have been times when we were physicall apart for long periods (we were both active duty when we met) and I still felt close even though we were not having sex.
2007-09-27 06:26:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Not at all, it is one of many things that makes me feel closer to him. Its great but things we do together, and things we do playfully.... like we played snakes and ladders the other day with some wine a little tipsy and it was funny... theres loads of stuff its not black and white.
2007-09-27 06:18:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Need" is a strong word. Sex can enhance a feeling of intimacy and closeness that already exists, but I don't think it necessarily means we need it. If something prevents it, we may feel deprived, however.
It's more like if I feel close, I want to have physical closeness with him. The close feeling doesn't spring from the sexual activity, but vice versa.
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2007-09-27 06:14:52 · answer #10 · answered by NHBaritone 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋