My rude little sister in law got engaged earlier this year at my wedding. As one can read from my earlier posts, she does not care for me or approve of my marriage to her brother. We recently received her ‘save the date’ magnet and visited her wedding website the magnet had listed. To our surprise, his sister included every younger family member in the wedding, including cousins that live out of town who she rarely talks to and her new future sister in law is her maid of honor. She’s included so many family members in her wedding that only three of her friends play a role in it. My husband and I were also surprised to se my sister in law had listed my husband as an usher, even though she’s never asked him to be in her wedding. My husband tells me that no matter what, he’s not going to play a role in her wedding, as she’s continuously disrespected our marriage.
A part of me is relieved not to be in her wedding, however, apart of me wonders if she isn’t going out of her way to snub me. Little sis in law was not in our wedding because we had a destination wedding and had no attendants, guest books, ushers, etc. Has anyone ever heard of such a thing? Is it typical to have out of town cousins who are still in high school do duties such as programs, guest book, etc. while completely leaving out your brother’s wife who lives 15 minutes away? I really didn’t want to be in her wedding, but at the same time I’d like to know if I’m once again being snubbed or if stuff like this happens all the time. Also, should my husband suck it up and be in his sister’s wedding just to make his parents or sister happy? P.S. My husband is my sister in law’s only sibling.
2007-09-27 05:57:26 · 9 answers · asked by MazyStarFan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
screw her!! don't give her the satisfaction of getting upset, smile and be thankful that you don't have to be involved. Your husband sounds like he is on your side so it shouldn't be to hard to dismiss her from your thoughts.
2007-10-01 05:57:18 · answer #1 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Know what? Why do you really give a good goddamn? Did it ever occur to you that being typically juvenile, she'll do anything to tweak you and hope for a response. Your concern about 'being snubbed' is stupid.
Of course you're being snubbed for Christssakes. Think this is an 'oversight'? Oh yeah...if you ask her I'm betting good money she'll tell you it is and then go home and get off because she accomplished precisely what she wanted...to get under your skin. For someone who 'really doesn't want to be in the wedding' you sure don't act like it.
Quit snivelling. Go to the wedding. Eat free food, drink from the open bar, dance and have your fill of wedding cake. Wanna make a statement? Give her a goddamn blender as a gift. Part of jerking off antagonistic people is to act as though whatever they're doing doesn't seem to bother you in the least. in fact...its drives them crazy because you give no indication whatsoever that it galls you.
Of course...if you're like my wife and stupid enough to rant and rave to other family members then it gets right back to the person you're pissed with posthaste. In essence you screw yourself because of your big mouth.
Give her the blender or some other cheap gift from WalMart. Just make sure you take the trouble to wrap it up like its a million dollar gift.
2007-09-27 06:19:27 · answer #2 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh I have a sister in law from hell also. The same thing was done to me. My husband and my daughter were both in the wedding. And to make matters worse I was expected to do everyones hair the day of the wedding. Kind of like the slave sister in law. But I knew all along it was a jealousy issue. Especially in your case because they only have each other.
I suggest you do it exactly how I did. I did everything that was expected of me, got everyone looking beautiful and sent them all of in the limo with hugs and kisses. Put myself together(made sure I looked awesome), and drove myself to the wedding. I spent the whole evening with a smile on my face, entertaining myself with people I haven't seen in years.
After all was said and done, I won, I didn't let her break me, or upset me, I was the bigger person, and no one knew it better than my husband.
Suck it up!
2007-09-27 06:20:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is immature and nutty. JUst leave her alone. You really do not want to play high school games with her. Ignore her, ignore the website, let hubby handle the "usher thing". Just ignore her, show up to the wedding, fake smiling if you have to. But she is childish, treat her as you would treat a bratty child and ignore her.
2007-10-01 04:53:35 · answer #4 · answered by undone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband's job is to stand up for you, he should tell his little sister than he really does not want to be in her wedding because she has treated you poorly and if she can't honor his marriage then why should he honor hers?
2007-09-27 06:05:59 · answer #5 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she seems really immature, so maybe she might be going a bit out of her way to not have you in the wedding. however, she is missing some common wedding etiquette. you need to ask people to be in your wedding before you just announce that they are in it.
2007-09-27 06:02:58 · answer #6 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are being snubbed and she is being rude to your husband by not asking first.
2007-09-27 06:08:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you and your sister in-law are both drama seekers, stay away from each other.
2007-09-27 06:04:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW! She sounds great.......almost as nice as my sister in law!! Anyway yeah she's snubbing you.....
2007-09-27 06:12:04 · answer #9 · answered by I got answers! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋