I know my partner looks at porn and although I'm not happy, I have come to accept it. However, I just looked at his internet history and have found out that he has been looking at teenage porn sites and some even had school children etc. Did he look at these pages on purpose or maybe he found them accidentally while trying to look at other porn sites? Is his behavour normal or revolting? I don't know what I should do! I love this man and we have been together for 4 years, there is nothing he wouldn't do for me. He helped me fight my depression and anxiety etc. Should I confront him or leave this porn subject unmentioned?
2007-09-27 05:22:59 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
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Do not leave this unmentioned! If there is more than one site, he is not going on t hem accidentally!!!!!!!!
Not only is it wrong to look at porn anyway, it is ILLEGAL and UNEXPLAINABLY IMMORAL to look at underage stuff. They may have been raped.
For goodness sake, TELL HIM YOU KNOW!!! Give him one chance to quit, and if he doesn't then tell the police about his internet history. The people who make these underage sex sites need to be punished SO BADLY.
Clearly he has done many things for you, for which anyone would be grateful. But does he love yuo as much as you think you love him? Is it love, or do you depend on him instead?
I really, really wish you all the best. I admire your honesty and think you are inredibly brave.
xxx
2007-09-27 05:30:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-24 07:06:25 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what i would do if I were u, is I would erase the cookies collected from these pron sites. So when he does it again, u can look to see if he visits these same sites again. That way u have yur answer without having to involve him. Kind of like a secret. Then that way if he does visit these kitty porn sites again u can turn him over to the police. And girl, even the weirdest, creepiest, sickest people can appear to be normal' like helping u with yur depression and and yur anxiety. So Please do as I say, and this will prove if he did it on purpose or by accident. And if he is a kitty porn watcher, i'd break it off, cuz u don't want to have children with a sicko, who could possibly molest yur kids. And jus' know that many child predators kind hide their secret for years, before being found out. So don't be so surprised if he is. I hope this helps u, and I hope he isn't a child predator.
2007-09-27 05:31:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
ok it sounds like what he is doing is actually illegal. Kids are getting abused by this "business" remember no customers no business.
I would definately talk to him maybe he needs to see a shrink because its not right really.
Most guys are attracted to younger women its pretty much proven to be natural scientifically. Youth is associated with health and vitality and we are subconsciously selecting mates. However he seems to have gotten himself a bit twisted up in that attraction.
Don't be offended but maybe there is something you can do to maybe spice things up a bit with him? My wife and I watch porn all the time - she went through a stage of watching gay bloke porn which rattled my cage a bit. She hasn't mentioned strap ons yet... What I am trying to say is it might just be a bit of a cry to you to get involved in each others fantasies. I don't know maybe he really wants to see you dressed up in a school unifrom etc. We aren't really into role play ourselves but whatever floats your boat. If you hide your fantasies from wach other sometimes because you feel guilty about it they can get a bit warped or well a lot warped in this case.
It's probably something and nothing but I don't think doing nothing is a good idea persoanlly you have to consider the potential harm that these kids are enduring. Most porn actresses do porn out of choice some do it because they really enjoy it. To me there is nothing wrong with that and thats the difference.
2007-09-27 05:42:32 · answer #4 · answered by Wayne Kerr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His behavior sounds normal of any guy (not the child porn). He may just want to get turned on more often than you have sex together. Most men and even women do that alot (especially if they are single). Try looking up some new sexy moves and dances etc to give him the best nights ever.
Trust your man and stay out of it however if he does start looking at younger people in a different kind of way when you are out and about then cofront him about it in an understanding way and let him know that you are ok with it. Make sure you talk to him in a way that won't make him think you were checking up on him though.
Hope everything works out for you.
2007-09-27 05:31:18 · answer #5 · answered by *Angel* 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave this porn subject unmentioned. You should only confront him should his habits around children change or seem odd, because then he may have a problem. Besides all men fantasies about younger girls no matter what the age and while on this topic it is a known fact that men think about sex every 5 seconds of the day. So consider it a healthy hobby.
2007-09-27 07:09:28 · answer #6 · answered by LaIndia 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think u should definetly confront him, porn is one thing, men just do that and its normal, but kid pornsites, comeon' noway did he do that by accident, ppl are definetly disturbed when they look at stuff like that, if you love hi so , and have been with him for so long then it shouldnt b a problem to bring up such an issue. u need to definetly bring it up or it will always bother you, the longer u wait the harder it will be, since youve been with him so long, what happens one day when the two of you have a baby, and she's / he turns into a toddler/young kid .. i personally would never leave him alone with them and feel so responsible if something were to happen to them by him (God forbid) but still, u know he watches them, so keep an eye out, and by u knowing would make you only that much more guilty/responsible for his actions.
thats disgusting and ppl like that need to be helped as much as possible b/c he could definetly act on his actions, and there is no excuse for that. He may have been there when u needed him but is that always going to be your reason for not confronting him for his flaws?? thats not right. and thats not an excuse, now its his turn to need u to help him. you help each other, and he definetly needs help, dont let him turn it on you by asking you why you were going thru his stuff, no thats not the issue, you did what you did, and thats done, now the ? is why is he going thru those sites???
thats disgusting,
2007-09-27 05:34:17 · answer #7 · answered by I DONT CARE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a BIG difference in Teen sites vs sites with children posed and performing. I would ask him about it. Why were you looking at his history? Just being nosy about what porn he is looking at or is there a trust issue? If you are looking at the teen sites you have to assume that they have taken proper actions to make sure the girls are 18, but acctually seeking out porn with children in it is agianst the law. Confront him and Good Luck!
2007-09-27 05:46:23 · answer #8 · answered by Big Red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of porn websites send you to other websites so that does not mean he is looking at those. I would however confront him with your concerns. I would also start having him watch Datelines to catch a predator series for extra measure.
For a normal man, although morally wrong a little porn time to time is not uncommon, but if you are using all you free time for it then you have an obsession, and need to stop.
2007-09-27 05:28:29 · answer #9 · answered by Zenkai 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes images can be downloaded or sneaked in by adult porn venders, to entice those already heavily into porn into other areas of the industry.He, however, should have been able to delete them.If he has not then, you need to ask him why.Maybe he hasn't got round to it yet, but it's more likely this has stimulated something disturbing.The site needs to be reported to the police before you consider taking any action against him, because he might not have done this intentionally.If he won't discuss it, or there are further problems, and he encodes his files, then you must leave him, and inform the police.
2007-09-27 13:33:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋