fed up with ttc?

Question

hi there everyone...are any of u fed up with ttc at the moment..i am..swore i was pregnant again this month but as usual im not...i am 23 yrs old and have lost two kids already.one 3 yrs ago aged 6 weeks then 16 weeks ago i miscarried at 6 weeks into the pregnancy after ttc for 18 months..it just feels like its never gonna happen and why do i keep losin them.i blame myself at times.i feel so use less too..i know i cant have them back but would give the world to have them here with us...im sorry for moanin so much but i need to get this of my chest..when i lost my son 3 yrs ago my sis in law had baby as well and there was less than 9 weeks a difference,this time its no different she is pregnant agin now too and there was only one day a difference in our due dates if i hadnt of miscarried..im seriously thinkin bout give the ttc thing a break now for a while cos i cant deal with no more negatives..has any of u felt like this and gave ttc a break..please no rude comments thanks.x

Answer 1

Nothing anyone can say can make you feel better I dont think I could ever cope with what you have. Rather than giving up why dont you stop trying for a baby and enjoy some time with your partner. You need to keep busy to take your mind off the baby thing and Im sure as soon as you stop trying it will happen.
If there is anyone that deserves a baby its you and Im sure it will wont be long before you are finally a mum. Its so hard trying for a baby and it hurts so much when you hear of ladies falling pregnant straight away. I have been trying for a while and it does get very frustrating but Im trying to keep positive but it is hard at times.

take care xx

Answer 2

Take a deep breath. You aren't alone, I went through a lot and it took me forever to get pregnant. In the end I had to use fertility drugs which as you may know can cause a lot of side effects - but are worth it if you conceive. Unfortunately there are no guarantees. I only had one miscarriage, and I know how devastating that can be for someone who so desperately wants a child, and to be a Mom. You have every right to be upset, angry, depressed - trying to conceive without success is very rough and causes a lot of stress not only on the mom-to-be, but the relationship. Here's my advice, try to get to a place where you aren't so stressed over it. Taking a break does sound reasonable, try to get your focus off of it for a bit. Start traying again when you feel mentally recharged and able to better deal with the stresses of ttc. Focus on taking care of yourself, physically and emotionally. Try doing relaxing things. If you're on a budget, I recommend the peel off masks you can buy a whole tube of at any drug store cheap. If you have more money, do other things that will help you unwind. Taking good care of yourself is the best way to get ready for a baby. If you already aren't, start taking prenatal vitamins. They are packed with goodness that will help your body even if you aren't pregnant. Take one a day. I am sorry to hear about the impact of all of your worries, and although I don't have all the answers - I do hope something in this email helps.

Answer 3

I took a 6 month break over two years because I get not only fed up but after about 6 months I kinda guessed that something wasn't right. I have miscarried a few times and broke my heart on every occasion. So after going to the doctors and handing over all my charts etc I'm now back and fore to the hospital and back on the ttc for myself to see if any changes. With the one difference, I don't get to het up if I'm late or miss a date of charting etc. 8 Doctors have now told me that they don't relay on ttc now. So I am guessing you have seen your doctor lately and if not, you should because what are you waiting for?
The standing of a couple trying to conceive is between 6-12 months, after that there tends to be a problem. So with the wonders of medicine today, relax it will happen!

Answer 4

Try to stop thinking about conceiving.
Also dont use any aids such as fertility sticks or moniters as not only are they a waste of money they put stress on a relationship and the conceiving because you feel pressured into having to have sex on the day's it say's you are most fertile.

The best thing to do is start enjoying your partner more spend evenings out together have romantic meal's etc just anything that will get you and your partner in a loving romantic mood,so instead of having sex to try for a baby you make love because you want to.If you aim to have sex everyday or at least every two day's but without feeling pressured into it then you are almost certainly garunteed to get caught as you wont miss your fertile days that way.

Also start taking folic acid now even though you are not pregnant people i know have done this and it increased their fertility plus you should always take folic acid when trying to conceive and for the first twelve weeks after conceiving.

When me and my partner was trying for this little one who's on the way,we found we both got our sex lives back,instead of having sex every so often like we used to we started having sex daily and sometimes 2 or 3 times a day but it was the most enjoyable sex ever it even made us fall in love all over again.
We was making the most of it because we knew that once i was pregnant and getting bigger that we wouldnt be able to have sex as often.

Answer 5

For some of us it's like falling off a log. For some of us, it's like falling off a log, breaking a leg, dislocating a shoulder, and not getting to an ambulance in time to avoid permanent injury.

It's not fair, but no one promised 'fair'. None of this comes with a money back guarantee. You can keep trying, or you can stop. I had 4 children in 30 years of trying. One stillbirth, one 5 month miscarriage, uncountable earlier miscarriages.

Serial miscarriage is the only reason I haven't now got 22 children...

Helen

Answer 6

I think if you want to take a break go ahead!!
Try a new hobbie!! I took up knitting a while back stopped and now started again because trying to concieve has been hard on me...but knitting clams me AND my friends and family have been getting some really cool gifts ahahahhahaha!! Also you could try to get yourself "more ready" by doing things strickly for YOU> for exmple get your hair and nails done, go the the gym, take your hubby out of town for a night....relax and enjoy for a little while....a wise women told me once that babies come when they are supposed to come and we dont have much control. I am sorry for all you have had to endure....your time will come one day, and when it does it will be perfect...i promise....
Hang in there!! good LuCK!!!
Love
Jess_Ut

Answer 7

Hey am fed up to, but your a lucky one, unlike me I never got a chance to conceive, I have pcos and was ttc#1 for 4 years now, I did clomid and nothing work, now I am on metformin, just don't let it stress you out, I really no how its feel when everyone around you is having a baby, but our time would come, just keep the faith

Answer 8

Well I've been ttc for 11months and I'm getting pretty fed up too,your not the only one hun!!
Alright, I haven't miscarried. but every single one of those 11 months, I've been certain I was pregnant!And each time I haven't been I wanted to cry and give up!!

But don't give up hun!Just have fun trying, that's what I've tried to do!Stressing doesn't help, just try to relax, don't think about it and have fun trying!!Then when and if your period doesn't arrive, then start thinking about it!!

Good luck mate, lots & lots & lots of baby dust your way!

Answer 9

I hate TTC... It's so hard and I said I was giving up, but what am I doing??? I'm right back at it! Ugh. I'm going to try and focus on something else. My husband and I are trying to move into a new place and I'm trying to switch jobs, so I'm trying to focus more on these things... I'm not sure it would help, but it's worth a try!

Answer 10

this may sound crazy but after penetration, dont go to the loo and put your legs up the wall for about 30 mins, giving the sperm a little bit of an extra push towards your fallopian tubes!! it worked for me twice!!!