Im really not happy with people not treating me like a normal person?

Question

Im 14 and am in year 10 - (GCSEs)
In my school, lot's of people don't treat me like a normal person .i think they treat me like that cos im deaf. I am totally normal and do got friends..But not in my tutor class (form class or whatever) only few..today my teacher put me in the group(for PSHE) ...And that group was the worst! cos it was most of boys and they were treating me like im abnormal and asking me embarrassing questions. laughing all the time. and even girls laughing at me..I had enough..humliated for 4 years.. If you say "oh just change your school" its EASY FOR you to say that..Not for me. I cant change skl just like that. I can speak. I can write. I am NORMAL.

What can i do!? talk to teachers? or leave it?

Answer 1

Your classmates are young, immature and ignorant of how well adapted you are in relation to your hearing loss.

I am sure your school counselor can talk to the ones who are especially obnoxious. Bullying and teasing are not to be tolerated. Talk to your counselor tell him/her what is happening and perhaps the vice principal (those guys can really strike fear in the hearts of bullies) can intervene on your behalf.

Remember you are all still kids and still have lots of growing up to do. Everybody will improve with age.

Answer 2

My son is 14, year 10 & also deaf. I showed him your question as he's also been through the same thing. I really feel for you. Please talk to your parents & your teachers, don't just leave it. Let someone know how you feel.
Often with hearing people they take the mick or act stupid out of ignorance. Sometimes they feel uncomfortable because they just don't understand what it's like to be deaf. I'm not making excuses for them, because any kind of bullying is wrong but it's a fact of life that you'll come across this kind of behaviour even after you've left school. Rise above it. You ARE normal & don't let anyone make you feel otherwise.
My son found that talking to the other kids made a difference. He showed them his transmittor & explained why he needs it etc & he answered any questions they had. Some of the questions seemed a bit stupid to him but remember, being deaf is an everyday thing to you & him. The other kids treat him 'normally' now, include him in stuff & make sure he doesn't miss out in class.
Good luck.

Answer 3

I am sorry to hear about your unhappiness in school.
Is there a counselor or teacher you can talk to about your feelings.??? I am sure they can help you figure out what to do. Sometimes other kids can be very ignorant about what deafness means in a person.

It also seems that you have a difficult time when people tease you. If you can learn some skills for managing the teasing I bet that the other kids will stop doing it. Learning how to handle teasing is something we all need to learn how to do - not just a person who is deaf. If you can stand up to the teasing the others will not get fun out of doing it to you. I know this is not easy to learn but I think that you can learn to do this with some good coaching from teachers and counselors. Maybe even a brother or sister can give you some advice about this.

Give it a try. Teasing can happen in any school First try to work it out at your current school. You can always switch schools later if you still need to.

Best of Luck

Answer 4

It's obvious you're a normal person. It's also obvious you're not ordinary. But this is not the problem. I think this isn't a problem at all. I find it strange that people make fun of you just because you're deaf... sincerely, I don't think they'll change attitude towards you because they're just a bunch of immature boys and girls making fun of a person who can't defend herself. And I say you can't defend yourself not because you're deaf, but because you're alone. Whatever you'll say to make them stop will just be unuseful untill you're alone against this group. If you talk to the teacher you might seem a girl who can't do anything by herself. If the situation is this, and I guess it is like that, there seem to be no escape.

Leaving school could be an answer, but then are you sure you'd be able to go on with your studies by yourself?

Sometimes it is useful to feel superior. Think it that way: one of the ways to get along with your classmates is to find together another victim. Would you be happy with that? I don't think so. If I were you I'd just ignore them. I also am in a classroom mostly made of idiots, and I can happily live talking with just two or three of my classmates. You should find someone to get close with and then let the rest of the classroom go.

Goethe said that if a thing doesn't kill you, it makes you stronger. I think that if you can go through this situation and succeed in getting an education then you will be sure you're strong. You said you have friends. If they're good ones they'll be enough to give you a lot of beautiful moments even if your classmates are jerks.

Be strong and don't let them think their jokes and pranks are scaring you or making you unhappy. Don't give those idiots this satisfation.

If you think it's unbearable to go on like this, then leave the school and study at home. But only if you think you can't stand it anymore.

This is my modest opinion, and my modest grammar is due to the fact that I'm not English. =)

Answer 5

The thing that stinks in your predicament right now is that there's no easy way out. I'm a huge outsider as well, and I'm always getting put down and stuff like that, although probably not to the extent that you have. My sympathy towards you. The best option i can see now is to your counselor and talk with them about being treated the way you are. See if they can change things for the better. Talk to your teachers privately and tell them which people you work well with in groups, and which ones you don't so that you won't have to be put into a group with idiots like those again. It'll be hard, because i know that no one likes talking to teachers about things like this, although it's something that should be done.

Answer 6

You've probably been told this before but it bears repeating. Kids enjoy getting negative reactions from their peers. It's one of the main reasons bullying occurs. The obvious answer is to act like they don't bother you, or that they're not even worth your time.

The obvious answer, however, is easier on paper than in reality. You're still going to get upset by them and it can be really difficult to hide that. The other obvious option is to have comeback replies that make them look stupid. However, not all of us are that quick on our feet.

Simple truth is that everyone gets teased to one degree or another. You simply have to find yourself some good friends and do your best to ignore the idiots of the world. If it makes you feel any better, you ARE normal--most people have to put up with some degree of what you're dealing with. It isn't because you're deaf, it's because, sad to say, it's easy for them to pick on you. Kind of pathetic, actually, to pick on someone because they're handicapped--buy hey, people get picked on for being ugly, fat, smart, stupid, weird... you name it. Try and think of it this way: why should you care what a bunch of stupid idiots think anyway? Screw them! The only people whose opinions should matter are yours, and those of your friends.

Time to show some sharper teeth
Time to grow a thicker skin
Time to drop the seventh veil and let some madness wander in
This is not a darker age
Just the turning of the wheel
I am here to reassure we never really had control
This world was never kind
Separate your present mind--Faith and the Muse, "Sredni Vashtar"

Edit: lasfigaesiste: Your grammar is better than that of most native English speakers, so far as I can see!

Answer 7

People are ignorant I'm afraid, and probably even if you did change school you'd get a similar response. I'm not really sure what to advise, cos you've got to work it out for yourself. I'm in yr 11, so my general advise would be not to let it get in the way of your work. try not to put yourself in different groups, or do anything that makes you more different than you have to be. otherwise, just be proud of it ! if people ask stuff, be polite and sensible, don't get panicked, and if you don't react, they'll probs give up pretty quick!!

Answer 8

My best friend is in a wheelchair and to other people looks anything but normal. Once you get to know her, she is actually just like everyone else, but is never given a chance. Peopl are usually just intimidated by people who are even just a little different and don't know how to act around them, so they act in ways like not treating you normal, even though you are. When people ask you questions, you can answers them or just laugh it off and say "i'm not gonna answer that!". Try to get involved with as many "normal" things as possible so that the kids around you see that you are just like them. Just remember that you ARE NORMAL no matter what anyone thinks.

Answer 9

now you listen to me sweetheart you are normal don't let anyone tell you otherwise i am 43 years old now & was diagnosed as being deaf aged 8 they would'nt even consider me for a mixed school so i was in mainstream the only deaf person in the school & the school freak according to them i cried every night thinking what can i do to get them to see that apart from being deaf i was just like them so i started to take the micky out of myself eventually they laughed with me not at me i used to think that no boy would ever want me but here i am now married to my partner of 22 years 2 grown up children and 3 grandchildren & im damned normal with a great sense of humour please don't let them beat you make your jokes funnier than theirs good luck x x x

Answer 10

It makes me so angry to hear this hun. I was bullied in year 7 and it wasn't until I answered back to the bullies that they left me alone. I made them feel dumb in front of everyone. You have to wait for the right moment and think of a really smart comeback when they start. A good one for when they laugh at you next... say something like ' i know you think its amusing the fact that I'm deaf, but I'm laughing at you because you are so dumb!'
That should shut them up. If it doesn't then gimme names and addresses ;-) xxxx Good luck hun and be brave xxx