How do i learn to accept my stretch marks ?

Question

I have had 3 children . I got stretch marks on my belly/ hips/ butt from my first 2 pregnancies . I got none with my third.

My stretch marks have now faded to white , and even though i know i can't get rid of them . It annoys me sometimes to think that i'll never be able to go to the beach again in a bikini like i use to , or to the pool in summer , or wear really nice clothes like i could before. obviously i can still go to the beach lol , but i can't enjoy myself .

I'm not overweight, my body is toned . But i wouldn't dare go out showing skin ( like at the beach )

How can i learn to accept my stretch marks , without getting upset every time i look at them ?

Thanks everyone ,very sweet answers :)

of course my precious little babies were worth every stretch mark, without a doubt . I just need to stop being so self conscious about my looks.

Answer 1

Girrrrrrrrl Please! If you are in shape like you say you are, wear that bikini and be free. You know your stretch marks are there but who else would really see them or know they're there besides your husband. No one should be violating your space to the point where they would have their eyes within an inch of your body to even see the stretch marks. I think you would probably look great in a bikini and no one would even think to say, "I think she has stretch marks." So go to the beach with your bikini on. I think that will be the best way to help you to accept them. Because once you see that it's not a big deal, you won't even fret over them anymore. The majority of the people in this world have stretch marks, fat and skinny.

Besides stretch marks are your pregnancy battle scars. They remind you of the tolls you went through to have 3 beautiful children. You and all the other women of the world are blessings.

By the way, I'd be lying if I said I didn't feel the same way you do. At times I'm ALOT self concious about my stretch marks. But I know that they don't make or break me. Most of the time, we are the only ones that know we have them because we see them every day. I'm so excited to be pregnant again I don't dwell on the new set of stretch marks I may get. My first child is 12. I thought I would never be able to have kids again because it took such a long time to get pregnant.

Answer 2

I'm still getting used to them too and I'm pregnant with my second so I wonder what I'll look like after this. But I feel I am lucky to have stretchmarks and wear them with a little bit of pride because that means I was able to get pregnant and have my own children unlike some moms out there are struggling to conceive and/or cannot have children. Fortunately, I don't wear a lot of clothes that show them. My mother-in-law has stretchmarks too and she got a beautiful tattoo over them so when she looked down at them she saw beautiful art instead of ugly scars. I would say for the beach you can wear a tankini that's flirty and maybe a little low-cut so you can accentuate your positive and draw attention away from the stretchmarks. I'm looking forward to other answers. I wish I was rich and then I would consider treatment for them. By the way, depending on your skin tone, tanning might not work since your skin might get darker making the stretchmarks look whiter. Just a warning.

Answer 3

You just do. A few years ago, I lost some weight (not even very much, maybe 20 pounds), and I got horrible stretch marks from it and I still wear a bikini. Yeah, if I could choose, of course I would rather not have them, but that's life. You earned those stretch marks and should be proud that they are a result of 3 beautiful children. Perfect bodies only exist in movies and magazines. You are a real woman and you should celebrate your real body!

Answer 4

Get rid of Stretch Marks?

Answer 5

I have always been thin and got stretch marks on my butt, hips, and down the back of my legs when I was around 12yrs old from normal female development. I was so embarrassed of them for years but have now accepted them as part of me. It will just take time. You will eventually get tired of hiding them. Just remember that almost every woman that has been pregnant gets stretch marks and it's not like everyone will be staring at your thinking "ewwww, gross" because believe me there is someone out there that looks much worse and is likely wearing much less.

It does help that Dh has made a habbit of telling me how cute he thinks my stretch marks are. I was scared to let him see me naked when we started dating though.

Answer 6

Just don't worry about what you think other people are thinking. Most likely, they won't even notice the stretch marks. Also getting a tan will help to conceal them. I would say that after three kids, being toned is awesome, and stretch marks dont mean a thing! Love yourself and you wll be loved!!

Answer 7

If you are thin enough to wear a bikini, I wouldn't let stretch marks hold you back. People may look at them, but not with disgust. As a Mom myself I regard them with respect.

Or just wear a one-piece.

Consider yourself lucky you've managed to not be overweight. My stretch marks don't bother me near so much as the extra 10 pounds I'm carrying around. If you're too modest to bare your skin, at least you can look good in your clothes!

Answer 8

We as mothers suffer the dreaded pregnancy stretch marks. It's proof that our bodies gave birth to beautiful babies. You can either just deal with the marks or you can get cocoa butter and keep applying to your stretch marks. It worked for me. Try also some stretch mark fading cream.

Answer 9

My aunt told me that if I get stretch marks, they are a map of your pregnancy! Have heard of something called Obus Oil (if thats how its spelt), supposed to help fade strechmarks. Its about £10 a bottle but friends I know who use it say its good stuff!!

Go in a bikini on the beach! Sod everyone else. Nobody knows who you are, just hold your head up high x

Answer 10

Just remember what you did to get them- you created life. They're not something to be ashamed of! You should be out at the beach in a bikini, showing them off! They are your trophies! They show what you sacrificed to bring life and love into the world! Be PROUD of your stretch marks!