Hi, my wife is having a baby shower and the list of guests is being made. I have about 10 people on my side of the family and my wife doesn't know them, but I've known them all my life and she doesn't want them at the shower b/c she doesn't know them... Is this normal? Thanks
2007-09-27 04:02:01 · 14 answers · asked by EagleEye1 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Just an fyi, she doesn't care about presents. I make the money and will have to cover everything that's not bought. I can do this, but it will put me out when we can easily get more presents. So, basically she doesn't care about the money b/c she knows I will pick up the slack...
2007-09-27 04:14:12 · update #1
pregnant women can be very silly sometimes i was one twice.. for my baby-shower we did it where it was both sex and all his friends came as well as mine... just explain to her the more come the more presents we can get for the baby just be gentle though pregnant women can be very emotional as you probably already figured out
good luck
2007-09-27 04:09:20 · answer #1 · answered by natasha728 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are family, then she needs to meet them and the shower is a good opportunity. If they are friends of your family, then maybe. If it is someone you know and they want to celebrate your new baby, then I don't see why your wife should have a problem with it. But I can see how she would feel like it was her party and she wouldn't want a lot of people there she didn't know. I think she should compromise, but I can see how she feels. I would make sure that they are your friends and not just your mother's friends. My mother in law invited a bunch of people to my wedding that I didn't know, and it annoyed me. Especially because some were her friends that my husband and I didn't really know, and some were friends that she invited because they were relatives or friends of her friends and she didn't want to hurt their feelings.
2007-09-27 11:20:21 · answer #2 · answered by kat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find it very odd that your wife doesn't know your family. Before you get married you are normally spending time with your spouses family so you can get to know them. Do you know her family? The people that should be invited you the baby shower from your family should be mom and dad and any brothers and sisters, if you have aunts and uncles that you wanna invite ask your wife first after all it is her shower right.
2007-09-27 11:10:17 · answer #3 · answered by Wishmaster 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family is suppose to be invited to the shower whether she's met them or not. If she would like to have two separate showers, one for her friends family and one for yours, then that's acceptable. She has to remember though, this is your baby too. Your family is just as excited for you as her family is for her. As a wedded couple starting their family, I don't see why she wouldn't want family (from both sides) there. A little weird if you ask me. Why hasn't she met them? This is the perfect opportunity to get acquainted!
She shouldn't be planning any of it herself anyway. Simply give your list of guests to the person giving the shower. If your wife still somehow makes sure that they aren't invited, send out your own invitations. Its really a little weird of her to act this way about your family.
2007-09-27 11:07:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Typically a baby shower is for the mom. If you want to do a shower with your other friends/family then you should have a seperate shower to do that. She should know the people at her own shower in my opinion. Lots of people have more than 1 shower these days though so do that instead.
2007-09-27 11:06:32 · answer #5 · answered by ad 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They're family. I think they should be invited, however if she would feel better with two showers or a couples showers, that might be an option. My MIL threw one for me and I knew all of 5 people out of 25. I was so uncomfortable. If my husband could have been there it wouldn't have been so bad.
2007-09-27 11:15:38 · answer #6 · answered by Heather M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're family..they're not complete strangers. I think she should invite them because I bet in the future you'll all be exchanging Christmas cards. I think to make the transition easier, you can hang around for a bit and introduce them to each other.
FYI: I had uninvited guests at my baby shower (all my husband's friends) and they were all kind and excited for me.
2007-09-27 11:08:08 · answer #7 · answered by Astragalo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is your family then they should be invited because I have a huge family and my husband doesn't know all of them same with his side. But the only way you can get to know them is through things like this. It will not hurt to invite them if they come then they come if they also think it is a little strange then they iwll not come
2007-09-27 11:07:52 · answer #8 · answered by Kristi S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they're family, I think it makes sense. They want to be involved in your life, and the baby is part of your life. If they were friends of yours that your wife had never met, that might be different.
Besides, who's going to turn down more presents? :)
2007-09-27 11:07:12 · answer #9 · answered by Cloth on Bum, Breastmilk in Tum! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is her baby shower. However, if they are family friends, or family members, then she should conceed. The shower is about her and the baby, so it's not like anyone is going to notice lots of different people there... Plus, tell her she'll get more gifts this way.
2007-09-27 11:06:56 · answer #10 · answered by Lil' Dog 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
they are your family and you have known them for the rest of your life, you want them to share the joy of father hood with you and i think your wife should understand that, they are family to you and hers now that she is your wife.
i live in a foreighn country now with my husband { his place of birth} i have only 2 friends and every body else is from his side. i didnt know them upntil the baby shower, it was a good way of making new friends and knowing my husbands family and friends, they told me lots of strories about him when growing up.
i had fun and made new friends.
2007-09-27 11:12:56 · answer #11 · answered by ------------------------ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋