2007-09-27 03:39:28 · 21 answers · asked by okie girl 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
When I ask he says "nah no I don't think so" Our sex life is awesome. He is obsessed with the workings of the female body and says all guys are because they don't have the same parts and really want to know how it all works.
2007-09-27 04:08:27 · update #1
I wouldn't say he's gay, but you can safely say that he is bi. Why don't you dress him up as a girl & take him out one evening. Then you pick-up a guy & as you're leaving with him, tell your girlfriend she has to find her own ride home.
When I was 19 there was this girl I liked at work & she went home with me one night & while we were laying in bed she said, "You know what, you'd make a pretty girl." The next thing I know she's giving me her bra & panties and helps me put them on. She asks if I'm ready to wear her pantyhose too? I say yes, but my legs won't look as good as hers and she says yes tell will, after I shave my legs. She dressed me in her work uniform (she was a waitress at a donut shop & I was a baker), it was a very short & tight dress, then she did my make-up, hair & nails, I looked just like a waitress.
That was our first crossdressing adventure and we had many more during the 3 years we dated.
2007-09-30 09:31:12 · answer #1 · answered by J 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He might not be gay, but he is probably bi. Of Course, you need to get a little more specific. MTF CD/TV may be with men at a bar, or for a walk, or for other things. Has he had sex with men in the past while crossdressed? That would pretty much indicate he is bi. Bi does not mean he can't have great sex with a woman, just that he may also be interested in having sex with a man. Sometimes CD/TV do so out of curiosity about trying to be as feminine as possible. However if you are married or in a committed relationship and he's still "being with men" then you need to look elsewhere for great sex.
2007-09-27 10:38:02 · answer #2 · answered by sapphire 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cross-dressing isn't a good sign of orientation. You said he slept with "men in the past." Plural. Sounds like he's going back into the closet to me. He could be bisexual, but too many times I've seen gay men try to pretend they weren't gay, especially if they suddenly have found religion. Did he recently have some kind of religious conversion? If he did, he's just a closet case.
2007-09-27 03:53:53 · answer #3 · answered by Clint 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only he can answer that. He may be bisexual or gay. Cross dressing for sexual pleasure (transvestitism) is a common fetish among straight men. Transvestites are rarely gay.
Drag shouldn't be confused with Transvestitism - it is not a sexual desire to dress as a woman, but a way of parodying the traditional women's role.
Transsexualism is a situation where the person who is physically one sex feels that they are 'in the wrong body'. That is quite different again. Transsexuals typically retain their orientation after transition. So, if a physically male transsexual is attracted to women, they will be lesbian after they transition. If they are attracted to men, then they are not gay; they are straight, and will continue to be attracted to men after they transition.
2007-09-27 03:46:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that if it was a single night of experimentation then possibly no...
but if it was anything ongoing then Yes, that would be the definition of gay, someone physically attracted to someone of the same sex...
Cross dressing is a tough one, I don't think it is gay, but it is kinda wierd, especially if you do it in front a of a woman...
But in the end if you love him the way he is i wouldn't worry about it, it is good that he is being honest with you..
Good Luck
2007-09-27 03:45:01 · answer #5 · answered by n_maritz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cross dressing is not an indication of being gay. Sleeping and having sex with other men is.
2007-09-27 03:52:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well does it matter why do you need us to lable him because thats all it is a lable. If we say he is gay will that change him will it change who he is, or if we say he isnt is that gonna make him any different. How is what we say going to affect anything at all the only thing that matters is if him being with a man in the past bothers you either way wether we say he is or not thats not going to change and thats whats important.
2007-09-27 03:48:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to know ask him. Sounds like he is pretty open to talking about things with you.
Just being with the same sex doesn't mean he is gay, nor does crossdressing so really only he can tell you.
2007-09-27 03:51:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could have experimented but if he's with you, he's not 'gay.' I know someone who's had 'experimental' ideas and has actually acted on some of them. (I briefly dated this person in 1997.) However, he dated me and he was far from gay. He was very expressive in telling me these things because he trusted me. After I broke up with him he ended up dating lots of women and married one of them and has had children and is a wonderful husband and father.
2007-09-27 09:07:46 · answer #9 · answered by maggieeld 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I wouldn't say gay. I think he is just bisexual. Make sure he is the one you want. Don't settle for anything less than what you deserve. Just make sure you talk about your feelings with him. That was my problem at one time and I almost lost the best thing in my life.
2007-09-27 04:35:09 · answer #10 · answered by ashleysgurl21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋