A fellow teacher and I got hired this year. We are both the same age and fresh out of college. We do NOT have contracts - we are permanent subs. So, I hope this lays the foundation for - possibly - why she is so undermindingly competitive. Seems like she takes the reigns before there is an opportunity presented; just to know she took control. She doesn't willingly share any resources - at least with me. Seems as if she wants to buddy up with our OTHER team member (also young and new). I know that somehow she feels threatened by me somehow and is wanting to "one up" me somehow all the time. It's ANNOYING. Not only this, she is more like a friend to the kids than anything else. So, as a new teacher, OF COURSE I'm bothered by the kids who THINK she's just the "coolest." I know that I do my best and now I've just said...screw it..and have been doing my own thing. BUT, it bothers me still that she does this. Is this normal? How do any of you cope with this??
2007-09-27 00:06:25 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Teaching
I think you are both very different with different ways of doing things, dont, worry about her you are doing a good job, she needs to be liked by the kids that is why she is so friendly with them, ignore her and show your independance so what if she is in with the others, let her be as long as you make a few good friends that is all that matter better to have a few genuine ones, seems like she wants to be liked and popular for some reason, maybe she needs people, s approval to make her feel she is okay, sounds like she is insecure, ignore her just be polite and get on with your job, cos your doing alright,
2007-09-27 00:14:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I think your assumption is right she is probably feeling threatened by you in some way. It seems there is always a co-worker that is difficult to deal with. I first want to say is the friendship young approach she has with the kids is good but if it gets in the way of her teaching the children then other faculty will notice especially administration and that won't last long, also it will show in the kids grades even as a sub especially if she doesn't get much accomplished during the day. The most important thing is to not let her affect your position as a substitute teacher and its not healthy for you to go about your day with her in the back of your mind. I would only speak to her if you have to and buddy up with other teachers that you feel comfortable with. Its sounds like she is very insecure and it would be a good policy to never trust her even if you do become friends at some point. So, just be civil to her, speak with her as less as possible, find ways you can have a good relationship with the kids while still being the authoratative respectful teacher you need to be and always be professional and make friends with other teachers to get her off your mind and over time she will be old news. Also, if you see her in the hall/pass by her and she looks at you just give a simple smile, again be civil and professional. Not sure if this pertains to you but don't ever talk about her to other staff for any reason. If worse comes to worse and you need to speak with her about something just be civil and to the point. Good luck and I know this can be frustrating. When I had my first clinical position fresh out of college I had to deal with insecure co workers and I got through it by being professional and before I knew it I was wrapped up in my job and those people didn't bother me anymore. One thing that helped me was finding a small group of co workers that I got along with on a professinal level and as friends. The worst thing to do is let this person get to you because that is what he/she wants. One other thing if this person goes out of bounds such as harrasment or anything make sure you report it, take care.
2007-09-27 00:34:54 · answer #2 · answered by psychologist430 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Teaching is not about "popularity." Sounds like she has forgotten that she is not in high school any more. Take a professional approach in your work and your attitude and don't play her games. If you present a polished, professional approach and focus on being a good teacher, you will make a much better impression on others than she will, so try to ignore her antics and focus on being mature and professional.
2007-09-27 01:17:53 · answer #3 · answered by leslie b 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to be great, remember it's not about her, it's not about you, it's about your kids. Keep your focus on them and be your best. That will be good enough. Jealousy is poison, so avoid it. good luck, you've chosen a noble profession. peace
2007-09-27 00:14:18 · answer #4 · answered by Pilgrim Traveler 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Pilgrim got it right.
Its not about you or her.
The best one-upsmanship comes when your students get it.
2007-09-27 01:25:29 · answer #5 · answered by eastacademic 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋