I mean this is controvertial. I would say hit back good and hard others would say two wrongs don`t make a right. Is there a set way of dealing with problems like this?
2007-09-26 23:36:08 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
there is a no bullying rule at my kids school, well last year my oldest son was being bullied, by a kid that me and his parents didn't get along because the kids dad was my sons baseball coach and he sat my son on the bench most of the year, even though his son wasn't a good player, and i pointed out that his son was never out of the game, and mine never played, and they have had a grudge ever since, but their son kept picking on my son, who is really skinny for his age, and the other boy is really fat, well, i went to the school several times and talked to the teacher who said he never seen anything, and i talked to another teacher who said she would watch for it, and nothing was done he kept picking on my son, so i went to the principal, and told him about it, and it still continued, so i went in and had a conference with the teachers i had talked to and the principal and the superintendent, and told them if it continued i was going to the school board,and i would remove all 5 of my kids from this school, and after that it quit nothing more from the other kid, yet his immature mom will still give me dirty looks and say stuff to me as i walk by her, i just smile, and say hi which pisses her off more!!!!!!!!!
i also told my son that if it continued to beat the kids ***, and then call me
2007-09-28 09:27:08 · answer #1 · answered by princessandrea82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why a bully does what they do is because they want to feel power over others.
Because of that, the best way to deal with a bully is to make them feel powerless anytime they attempt to exercise their dominance over others. How to do that is to get the child's parents involved, and the school staff.
Anytime he does anything to your grandson, he will be faced with powerlessness as those with authority over him will exercise it harshly. It will crack his behaviour pretty quick, or at the very least make him choose someone else to pick on.
Don't have your grandson fight him. Even if he wins, the bully (and the bully's friends) likely wouldn't view that as the end of the matter. It's only sometimes that losing a fight will deter a bully. If your grandson loses that will reaffirm the bully's view that he has the right to pick on him - because he's weaker.
2007-09-26 23:44:50 · answer #2 · answered by CSE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He really has to stand up for himself. I was bullied and my mother came to the school, etc etc. It did no good at all. The only way to deal with bullies is to stand up to them. Once they realise that your grandson isn't an easy target, they'll leave him alone.
Having said that, this kind of attitude must be tempered by discipline as well. By standing up to bullies he will gain confidence, but he must be taught not to use his new confidence against others. He must only fight when there is no other option (but when you have to, don't hold back), and he must never bully others. Those are lessons that, learned young, will stand him in good stead for the rest of his life.
I hope this helps. Good luck :)
Oh, Bettyboop - not the throat! That's a potentially fatal blow. Definitely the nose, and the groin should never be underestimated :)
2007-09-26 23:44:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 wrongs don't make a right, but there's nothing wrong with self-defence.
Take him to a good martial arts school, this will teach him discipline in order to be self controlled, therefore not go looking for trouble, but enable him to take care of himself if trouble comes to him.
I do actually speak from experience! I was bullied, then learned boxing and judo, and after a confrontation which ended up with the bully laying on the floor....it didn't happen again!!!
2007-09-27 02:58:10 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. Lecter Phd 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this could be a toughie because of the fact on one hand you choose your baby to benefit the talents to triumph over the bullies in existence yet on the different hand, you experience a accountability to guard your baby against each style of meanies and unfair human beings. to no longer point out I wager your college has a "no-tolerance" bully coverage. yet I wager they haven't any written movements or outcomes while bullying happens. (And all of us understand a rule and not utilizing a result isn't a rule in any respect.) in case you have inspired and supported your baby to aim to resolve it (or ignore approximately it) on their very own and it rather is nonetheless inflicting a difficulty i might circulate to the helpful wtih coverage e book in hand and ask her to start having the instructor rfile the behaviors to boot as get the helpful to state what they are going to do approximately bullying. sturdy success to you! As a mom of a delicate and candy 9 twelve months previous boy who had an identical difficulty, i think your discomfort.
2016-10-05 10:45:52 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to handle a bully, is to fight back, it's scary to do, but scarier if you don't. As the others have answered, it is the best way to get them off your case. I know it's not what they teach you to do in school, but bullies need to be put back in their place.
This is a lesson that you take with you through life, bullies grow up too.
2007-09-27 03:27:50 · answer #6 · answered by Marla ™ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the situation. I mean how serve the bullying is. If he is hitting him and laughing, a good hit back would show the other child that it is not funny.
2007-09-26 23:39:45 · answer #7 · answered by daboss 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Kathy A. The school needs to take notice of this. Speak to your grandson's teacher and Principal. They have to "inform and educate" the students!
2007-09-26 23:46:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey I'm 18 and have bin bullied all my life i understand how he feels. i cant answer exactly but i know it can b a scary thought thinking about facing up to them. I'm sorry to say no matter what is done it will still continue. i tried everything to stop mine so did my family bullying isn't as high priority as it used to be I'm afraid all you can do is let him know and continue letting him know that its not him its just people don't know how to solve their problems so they make some for others. just stick by him and let him know hes a gr8 kid and it will calm down and even stop as he gets older....however its hard to say what he can do but try make friends and stick by them. if he hits back he will get in trouble if he ignores it completely it cud make him sorry to say but suicidal..he just needs to know that its not him and that he is loved and a gr8 boy....im sorry if that's no help but its what i had to do I'm sorry. let me know please if he is OK........i run a campaign for bullying id like to keep updated with this if u don't mind....thank you i hope he is OK x
2007-09-26 23:46:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him get his butt kicked or the other kids will hit on him because they will see he want hit back. Tell him to hit them in the throat or the nose as hard as he can. That will usually be the last punch.
2007-09-26 23:38:40 · answer #10 · answered by thisisme 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋