I injured my spine about 13yrs ago and as such it has an effect on my erections. I think my wife would love/deserves a better/harder erection and indeed she has thought about it either from me or another man. I am very turned on about my wife having sex with others male or female and as she has to travel for work I do suggest that if she has the chance "Go for it" am I mad or is this normal?
We have been married for 20yrs and have 4 great kids and we are best of friends........i would love this to happen but I am concerned about this idea or isit a fantasy..anwers please
2007-09-26 23:14:44 · 7 answers · asked by Satinman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Telling her to go for it would be the most selfless thing you could do considering you still love her. Doing that shows me that you care for her happiness and sexual needs more than you care for your male ego. The downside of telling her to go for it would be the possibility of her falling for her new sex partner.
I guess if you decide to allow her a new sex partner, have a heart to heart talk with her about this and other consequences and to make her understand that you are allowing this because you truly love and care for her.
I think a male gigolo would be a nice pick for starters coz he's sex for hire and no strings attached. Just make sure that you are the one paying the gigolo and make it clear that it's a one time thing per person(gigolo).
2007-09-26 23:25:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Before you look at the possibility of adding extras to yoru relationship, then you need to look at the reality of it.
Is your marriage really secure? can it stand the impact of you seeing your wife with someone else? Is it just fantasy sex talk that your wife likes to trot out when you are in bed and maybe has no intention of acting out in reality? What would you do if she met someone in a purely sexual encounter and she ended up falling for that someone and your marriage ended up on the rocks?
Are you sure that you have thought all the implications through?
If you have, and you are both certain that you can handle it, then go for it. But only YOU guys know if it is fantasy or something to act out.
2007-09-26 23:25:25 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You fantasy is a normal male fantasy when you are very proud of your wife.
Talk to your wife, its up to her not yourself.
There are plenty of dating sites that will find you a guy. I suggest to find a stranger and not someone local if your wife wants to go ahead. Also she most likely would get bored with it after a few encounters, so tread carefully.
Consider a foursome, even though you are "under repair" it will appeal to other married women. You would probably find a couple more easily. Also a couple could be local as they will mix easily, they have there own personalities to protect in the community.
2007-09-26 23:25:48 · answer #3 · answered by chezzrob 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that you should stop feeling sorry for yourself, and do not let your wife go, if you do, you will regret it, what the He** are you thinking???
If you love your wife and you have kids, work TOGETHER to make your marriage work, if you give your wife a free reign to do what ever with whoever, what do you think your children are going to learn from this, they will act like their parents when they get older.
Children are not dumb, deaf and blind, they know what is going on, do not do this, get marriage help, get counseling, take pills that help men like you with your "problem" and get back into your vows and your marriage and teach your children the right way about marriage!
2007-09-26 23:26:43 · answer #4 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she leaves you for another man that satisfies her, don't act surprised. You should use some toys to give her the satisfaction that you think she does not get from you.
2007-09-26 23:20:23 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think thats cool. to be married for so long, and to have kids and still be all like kinky and stuff. your wike sleeping with other ppl, is not that bad i mena at least she getting some right?? have you told her you would like it if she did. like acctually enjoy it? let her know.
2007-09-26 23:19:04 · answer #6 · answered by Jack Daniels 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
WACKO!!!!
2007-09-27 04:27:01 · answer #7 · answered by blakesgal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋