my husband and i were offered good jobs overseas on the same day. i have a higher offer and better total package and i get to start immediately. my husband only starts in 2 months. we have 2 kids, ages 5 and 8. hubby wants me to stay with the kids because i'm the mommy, i wanted to be the one to go for practical reasons (we've got immediate bills to pay and the job would help).
Also, we have a business, if either one of us goes, of course the other would manage it. But if both of us accepts the offer, we sell the business, take the risk abroad, in-laws would take care of the kids for a few months up to a year, then whatever happens, we will get the kids when everything's settled. what do you suggest?
2007-09-26 22:02:09 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Obviously neither of you are particulary worried about how this affects the kids so sell the business and then both of you can go overseas. Just think of all the lovely money. The kids will probably cope.
2007-09-26 22:08:54 · answer #1 · answered by Fi B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are going to a country that would not present danger to your children, you should go ahead, get a place for the family to live, and have him AND the children join you as soon as he can get things settled her also. The only question I had about you leaving, was you leaving the children with the in-laws for so long. Your children would feel abandoned!!! My sister left her daughter with me for almost a month while she was on vacation, and the child kept asking me if mommy was really coming back, or doesn't mommy love me anymore. Children are very sensitive at those young ages.
2007-09-26 22:14:49 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should take your job. The business should be put up for sale. Hopefully it'll sell within two months so that your hubby can start his position. As soon as you can set up a home in the new location bring them kids home with you. The sooner the better.
2007-09-26 22:10:51 · answer #3 · answered by Tripod T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will not suggest you to leave your kids back, either you take your kids with you or drop the offer as this is the age they need you both or at least one of you
2007-09-26 22:06:31 · answer #4 · answered by Vikram 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
put the kids first...no one will love your kids the way you and your husband do...for obvious reasons i would say you take the job, explain to him in marriage its not a competition your not suppose to be competing your suppose to be working together...whether you give it up or he does you guys will regret it...and if you both take it you may regret it...whats more important...your marriage or your that big promotion...he should ask himself that same question...and then compromise...what about your kids how will they feel to be shipped off to a new country...put the kids before anything...don't let them be the ones to have to sacrafice...
2007-09-26 22:12:05 · answer #5 · answered by da bays finest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a feminist, in other words I would take sides with you even for the wrong reasons.
2007-09-26 22:12:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with your children. Try not to be so materialistic. You are their mother.
Your husband should take that job, and you should stand back.
2007-09-26 22:05:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋