2007-09-26 21:54:06 · 14 answers · asked by LUCKY3 6 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Only if it is short circuiting the lesson stage. You know the old saying, "give a man a fish and he will eat for the day, teach a man to fish and he will eat for a life time". If you help by stepping around the teaching process, you set them up for failure. My problem solving teams are very aware of each persons limitation, and try to work toward a solution in the quickest way. I asked about this paradox of helping, but instead, hindering, at one of our earlier meetings, and found that we live in a world of "it's not my job" mentality. We find our comfort zones and cling to them with white knuckles. That's why I like your questions so much, it forces us to shed some of these uniforms we wear. I have some unique abilities, sure, but......... I would rather learn something new that to do what I am just comfortable at. Even snakes shed their skin to grow!
2007-09-29 02:50:54 · answer #1 · answered by delux_version 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can't see much negative in helping them get what they want... on the other hand, giving it without letting them make the effort to get it could of course destroy them. That is why a teacher must be a bit cryptic forcing the student to exercise own brain or skill to a reasonable extent before acquiring knowledge or skill.
2007-09-27 05:13:35 · answer #2 · answered by small 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes.
There are people who will ask you to help them die.
It is what they want.
In some people's minds that is the right thing to do.
These people may be in a great deal of pain.
It may seem that giving them what they want is the right thing to do.
You will be ending their pain.
You will however be destroying who they are as well.
They will be a memory and not a person.
The person is no more.
The memory is there for you now.
A memory is not nearly as comforting as a person.
It can not understand you and it cannot show it cares.
It is just a memory.
So, it is possible.
2007-09-27 06:18:30 · answer #3 · answered by LORD Z 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think if you "help" them get what they want in a way that they are actually doing it themselves then no. But if you are constantly "giving" them what they want then you are destroying them because they will never know what it is to earn what they want on their own.
2007-09-27 05:01:31 · answer #4 · answered by jessigoo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a first hand account of what it means to help someone. My daughter had her children taken from her 6 times. They were in foster care for almost a year. They were to become permanent wards of the court, so I stepped in. I thought by keeping them in the family, I was doing them a favor. She gave birth to another child and it was immediately apprehended. I was asked to intervene and I declined. Now, she is angry with me. She wants all her children back in her home and she is unwilling to do the things that are required of her to have them back. I had been helping her by getting the resources she needed to get back on track. But she rejected them out of hand. Now it is going to trial and she will most assuredly lose the new baby. When the date comes for these two that I have to placed permanently she will lose them also. For their sake, I am hoping to adopt them. They have bonded with all family members and it would be devastating for them to be put up for adoption. The new baby will go to a loving home with people who have been waiting for their miracle.
Now, if I just allowed her back into their lives without expecting her to get the help she needs, I would be guilty of putting them in harms way.
By helping people get what they want we are not only destroying them, but there is a ripple effect that ultimately destroys others close to them.
Teach them self sufficiency, but by no means Do anything for them that they are capable of doing themselves. They know what they have to do to get what they want. They just have to have the right motivation.
2007-09-27 11:57:23 · answer #5 · answered by The Y!ABut 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not if that person you help has a strong enough character that they will rely on you even when they have the ablity to or suppose to help themselves when provided the opportunity from the environment.
But if they are over dependent, it is better to help them and then help train them into more independent.
2007-09-27 06:02:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on you if your help is for the good cause then it is really good if your help is for bad cause then you are destroying them thats all
2007-09-27 08:17:48 · answer #7 · answered by Sunil S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no dear you are not Destroying them u just helping them , but before make sure that they are really needy, and they need this help, then try to note that, if he is always asking for this, then he don;t want to help himself, so ignore him, in the Holy book of Quraan, "Allah says , help poor, and nabors, and the needy, and the travelers when thy pass to your city, country if they need help , help them Allah will gives you reward in this world and in the Day of judgment you have the place in paradise, hope this is enough for you....
2007-09-27 23:48:55 · answer #8 · answered by siraj1466 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think helping people is about constructing ones self. helping people is alot more about who helps, and not who is helped.
we dont live alone, so helping each other sometimes is all we got.
but your right, we do destroy the problem that people face. we destroy something,that is for sure.
2007-09-27 04:59:03 · answer #9 · answered by joe h 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
generally depends on what people want. i think that sound judgement on what poeple want and why should be made before we help them to get what they want. Inseries cases of misjudgement want can detroy people. But more likely than not we cause them to lose an intergral part of who they are.
2007-09-27 05:01:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋