This would be right thing to say? Would to attend the funeral?
Would the help the family or give them space?
2007-09-26 21:12:22 · 6 answers · asked by byee77777 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If I was close to that friend, I'd probably feel shocked first, then angry. I'd feel angry that they left me and that they never told me how bad they were feeling or told me they had these feelings. And I would probably feel anger toward myself for not seeing that they had this problem in the first place. As for the funeral, I would attend because they are family and just because they committed suicide doesn't change the fact that I love them. It's best to let the grieving process ensue. It may help to reflect on the person and their life. I don't think giving space is the answer. To me that's almost like abandonement. A lot of people say they just want to be left alone, but they're just saying that because they are so upset. I know when I'm feeling that way there's a part of me deep down that's saying "I wish someone understood what I was going through". So I would just be there for them as much as I could. I wouldn't ask their permission either because they'd probably say no out of pride.
2007-09-28 08:55:21 · answer #1 · answered by ccmuffingirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about : "I'm so very sorry. If there is anything at all I can do, please don't hesitate to ask."
And then let them be. Be close by, but give them space. Attend the funeral, it will let the family know that you genuinely care and share in their loss.
I'm so sorry for you that this has happened. I hope that you have lots of wonderful memories of the person who has passed.
2007-09-26 21:35:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
attend the funeral but don't take much. in my opinion, people that are sad need someone near them but not someone who talk such as 'i'm sorry', 'this is tragic' etc.
just be beside them and talk something else beside that topic, but make sure don't choose a too lively or jokingly topic.
2007-09-26 21:25:15 · answer #3 · answered by kito 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You say, "I'm so sorry," and sound like you mean it. Go to the funeral.
2007-09-26 21:20:08 · answer #4 · answered by Howard H 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would think that this is an extremely tired and perhaphs tortured spirit. Most people who committ this act are really good; but really tired, and in pain. I'd try and let the family know that this person's spirit is finally at peace!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-09-26 21:21:37 · answer #5 · answered by wisdom 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well just be there and show them your support. Anyone whose loved one dies need a shoulder to cry. Moreover just tell them to have patience and may his soul rest in peace in Heaven.Amen.
2007-09-26 21:17:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋