They can be a right pain for the parents, especially the mums. The mums on the programme were not in high profile jobs so coped quite well. I dont know how doctors or say celebrities would cope though
2007-09-26 20:38:06 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in News & Events ➔ Other - News & Events
Theo, you DO know how doctors cope....it's all over the news
They dope up their kids and leave doors unlocked, go out on the booze and play act when they get back, that one of the kids are missing.
Return back to England, after jet setting around the globe, do numerous interviews for newspapers, get themselves on TV and get the begging bowls out, rake in loadsa money and bobs your uncle. Money in the bank, mortgage paid....well chuffed.
2007-09-26 20:49:19 · answer #1 · answered by 2dog 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I'm dubious about hyper active kids. There are now hordes of these unruly, naughty, kids because parents aren't allowed to discipline these days.
It's the anti smacking brigade and the anti cane in schools to blame.
Also, the parents don't want to upset their child and end up being scared of them. Mother's should say no, and mean no and not change their minds a bit later on after pester power has kicked in.
Btw I'm a parent. Doctors probably cope like Joe Public,and celebrities can hand their kids over to nannies once the going gets tough.
2007-09-26 21:12:25 · answer #2 · answered by Julia H 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I work and have a child with ADHD,it's a nightmare,I very often had phone calls,I say often, daily would be more accurate from my child's school.Luckily I work from home and have my own business.Things have improved way beyond my expectations since she started medication but I have no idea how people who have 9-5 jobs cope or indeed doctors.They must have a really good support network eg family,childminders.I couldn't have coped without my family and partner who constantly had to pick our child up from school (exclusions,not being able to cope with her) which is amazing seeing as I'm supposed to cope and work full time.
2007-09-26 20:44:57 · answer #3 · answered by snikleback 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's why they hire nannies.
Most people with hyperactive children are struggling to cope - however much they earn and whatever kind of job they have. Being stuck at home with a hyperactive child is no fun at all.
People with money simply buy childcare don't they?
The rest of us have to cope so why should a doctor be any different?
Cry me a river why don't ya?
2007-09-26 22:01:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Theo - I didnt see it but can imagine what an eye opener it would have been. I think any parent of a child with ADHD or similar would just cope, I dont think you have to think about it when its your own child. Surely a 'coping mechanism' just kicks in automatically? Interesting q :) xx
And whoever it was above me who mentioned the McCanns? not EVERYTHING relates to them, for Gods sakes, cant we have a discussion about kids without them being the subject??
2007-09-26 21:07:03 · answer #5 · answered by Secret Squirrel 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I've been told many many times that "I'd never cope if that was my son" by close friends and family about my eldest son who has severe ADHD. They are INCREDIBLY hard work and my biggest problem was being constantly aware that the phone could ring at any moment and it might be school to tell me he'd absconded or the police telling me they'd found him at 4 in the morning dancing on top of the local petrol station roof. He was awake when I went to sleep and awake before I woke up. He needed only 3 hours sleep a night. I never knew a waking moment when he wasn't bouncing off the walls, shouting the house down. I'd had my first of four breakdowns when he was 8 and I'm scared stiff that if number five should happen I'll end up in a padded cell in a straight jacket.
Celebrities have the money to pay for help. For someone to come in a look after their child so they can have a weekend away or even just a night at a friend's house. They can pay for experts in the field. People such as me didn't have this luxury. I didn't have a holiday for 12 years because if he wandered off in a strange town, where would I start to look and what sort of holiday would I be letting myself in for? Thankfully I was on good terms with his school and also the local police who got to know him very well but Social Services were a waste of time. I BEGGED them for help and was offered Family Therapy. I told them as a former Behaviour Support Therapist myself that I just needed a rest and I'd be fine. They simply looked at my son, well fed, wearing clean clothes and living in a tidy home, cared for and loved by his mum and couldn't see what the problem was. Plus I was given the usual excuse of 'there's not enough funds' to pay for respite. I have four children altogether - this son I mention is the third of four - and I told them they'd be having to find the funds to house four children when I ended up in the nut house. While I was only falling apart it was ok. At least I hadn't totally gone to pieces. That seems to have been their philosophy.
He's 16 now and much improved. Plus my partner has been a huge help, unlike my son's real father who always made things worse and then disappeared 4 years ago. My partner was in the forces for many years and has dealt with many a boy like my son. However the ADHD does surface every now and again - he still nags for instance and he's very loud, likes chanting and tapping or banging things to make a noise, and he'll still come and stand in front of you to demand your attention. The 4 in the morning escapades have stopped and the absconding from college, and the sticking knives in and chipping holes out of wooden furniture, or tying a sheet round his neck, standing on the landing window sill upstairs and saying he's superman and he can fly and is going to proove it. But every now and again it resurfaces.
Like yesterday. We bought him a Scooter for his birthday earlier this year for travelling to college. He passed his CBT test last week and he bought himself a helmet and gloves. We insured the scooter for him yesterday and he went out on it for the first time. By 8 o'clock last night he'd crashed it into a parked car and written both the bike and the car off. He was showing off in front of a lot of girls. So just when you think he's turned a corner so to speak and is improving, out comes the old son.
It's heart breaking. It really is. But my only advice to people in the same situation is to persevere. My son is always praised for his manners and that means a lot and I take these small positives as a huge compliment that I've not completely failed him. You can't help but start blaming yourself when everything you try doesn't seem to work. As a Behaviour Support Therapist I knew what to do but it didn't seem to help.
As for the authorities I wish they would really consider just how important it is for the carer to have some respite. Care for the carer is vital. I would have coped so much better if I'd had one or two weekends a year where I could just switch off and not worry about him. It would have been something to look forward to. As it was, in the darkest days, I could never do that. The future was a scary place and only ever looked like being more stressful and a total heartache.
Like I said though he is much better than he was and I've been able in the last couple of years to go back to school and I'm now at university - something I could never have done say four years ago. They do improve and you have to keep going. To those celebrities out there and those who say 'I'd never cope' I can only say this. You'd HAVE to cope if it was your child.
2007-09-26 21:18:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't you think this way way below the belt???
Bad enough you guys accuse Madeleine's parents of her murder WITHOUT PROOF???
But here, you presume/ accuse Madeleine herself of being hyperactive WITHOUT any proof that she was...
She may well have been an active child...like most 4year olds are...maybe someone even said she was hyperactive...thats not enough for you to bracket her into a group is not fair.
2007-09-26 21:07:28 · answer #7 · answered by Faith 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
my son has aspergers syndrome (higher functioning autism) and he has his moments of going hypo and im on a full time college course - i cope because i have to. lol x
2007-09-26 22:07:10 · answer #8 · answered by zo (student) 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have 2 myself one 19 one 9.The older one is much worse.Life is one big rollercoaster.Never a quiet moment in my house believe me.
Still i wouldn't change them for the world.
2007-09-26 20:47:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
no i didn't. They have nannies to deal with it.
2007-09-26 20:45:21 · answer #10 · answered by Mr-Kay 7 · 1⤊ 4⤋