My dad tried killing himself today and wouldn't talk to any of us because he was embarrassed. I'm a nanny and I want to visit him tomorrow..my aunt said he would be okay with it. Anyway...the family I nanny for is really self absorbed...I'd have to be in a coffin to get a day off from them. I want to see him tomorrow...I don't even feel like going to work because I am so worried..I just want to see him so I need to come up with a good excuse...I told them what happened today..that all I knew was that he was in the hospital for "psychological reasons"...at least that's what my aunt told me..I finally got the real reason out of her. She's going to see him tomorrow and she said that he would be willing to see me. I don't know if I should tell my boss that...she totally freaks out when I'm not there..even though she doesn't work...she just doesn't want to watch her kid. I want to call her now but it's midnight so I have to wait till morning. I'm really stressed and don't know what to do.
2007-09-26 20:26:08 · 8 answers · asked by LBCgal 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Call her in the morning. Tell her you MUST have a personal day and that it's a family issue -- thats it!! She doesn't need to know anything more.
And my guess is she values you as a nanny and she'll just deal with it. Don't sweat it. Do what you need to do. And then thank her when you return to work.
You have every right to request a day off in this situation. Do the right thing for yourself first. Worry about your self absorbed boss later.
Good luck & best wishes.
2007-09-26 20:32:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow... your boss sounds like a real piece of work. She can't even watch her own child? I would say find a new job, but I am sure the child needs you more than anything.
I am sorry you are going through such troubling times. I would just tell her that your father needs you right now and you have to be there for him. Tell her you wouldn't even think of taking time off unless it was very important and this is a time when it is. If she tries to guilt trip you, I would just tell her, "My father almost died (because he did) and I am his daughter. What kind of person would I be if I am not there to support him. I have to be with my father right now" If she gets whiney/passive aggressive I would throw in, "Would you want someone heartless enough to ignore her own fathers brush with death, taking care of your child? If that doesn't work and she fires you, it's for the best.
I have a feeling even though she sounds like a prima donna, she will probably understand and give you the day off. Maybe you should work out a yearly contract of sick days/personal days like any other job would have, or create a network of people that could sub for you if necessary.
I wish you the best during this difficult time. Good luck and take care
2007-09-26 20:41:16 · answer #2 · answered by EmK 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is very simple...you tell them confidently "a family matter has come up and you will not be able to be there tomorrow and that you are sorry for the inconvenience. "
If they are good people they will ask you what is wrong. If they are jerks they will get angry that you ruined their day without thinking of you at all.
I want to assure you that saying what I just said IS appropriate and polite. So be confident when you say that. Do not let a bratty adults who never grew up bully you either.....
If you are asked what is wrong...pretend you are speeking to a polite person and say, "thank you for being concerend, but everything is alright...I just need tomorrow off."
DO NOT say you are sorry more then ONCE...because the more a bratty person hears, "I'm sorry" the more they get upset and feel like they are wronged....dude they are like little kids even at 55.
Go see your dad and good luck!!!!
Also, do not tell other people your personal family issues. It is not fair to your dad because one day if he gets better he is NOT going to want the world to know.....
2007-09-26 20:40:29 · answer #3 · answered by boboo 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First off I'm sorry to here about your father.They say honesty is the best policy.Explain to her your father is in the hospital and you would like to take a little time off to go visia him.Or they(the hospital) would let you come after visiting hours.Explain to them that with your job it is hard to get away during the day.In most cases Hospitals can be understanding as long as it doesn't disturb other patients.Please let me know how it turns out.Good luck
2007-09-26 20:45:15 · answer #4 · answered by timothy r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't tell them anything other than you are taking the day off for personal reasons- they are your employers not your owners. They do not have the right to know everything that goes on in your life especially when the matter does not concern them and has no bearing on your job.
2007-09-26 20:32:50 · answer #5 · answered by dances with cats 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would recommend just telling the truth, if you are comfortable with that.
It is obvious that your need is greater than hers.
She will just have to handle the kid without you for a little while.
2007-09-26 20:33:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
DAMN THAT SUCKS
WELL TELL HER THE TRUTH
U KNOW HE'S UR FATHER
AND U CARE FOR HIM
AND UR SORRY U CANT MAKE IT TOMORROW
BUT UR FATHER IS MORE IMPORTANT
SHE'LL HAVE TO UNDERSTAND THINGS COME UP
AND JUST HAVE TO WATCH HER KID ALONE
WHETHER SHE LIKES IT OR NOT
SHE'S THE MOTHER ANYWAYS LOL
I MEAN SHE'S NOT ALWAYS GONNA HAVE SOMEONE WATCHING HER KIDS HAHA
2007-09-26 20:32:10 · answer #7 · answered by NOKTURNA 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
(the Truth shall save u) Ur dad is in a hospital he just committed suicide what excuse is better than that
2007-09-26 20:38:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋