Do you feel the same my fellow predators (men)?

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http://online.wsj.com/article/SB118903209653018615.html?

Avoiding Kids: How Men Cope
With Being Cast as Predators
September 6, 2007; Page D1
These days, if Rian Romoli accidentally bumps into a child, he quickly raises his hands above his shoulders. "I don't want to give even the slightest indication that any inadvertent touching occurred," says Mr. Romoli, an economist in La Cañada Flintridge, Calif.

Ted Wallis, a doctor in Austin, Texas, recently came upon a lost child in tears in a mall. His first instinct was to help, but he feared people might consider him a predator. He walked away. "Being male," he explains, "I am guilty until proven innocent."

In San Diego, retiree Ralph Castro says he won't allow himself to be alone with a child -- even in an elevator.

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Ashleigh
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Just a note about myself. I feel like the above article but when it comes to my own kids, I refuse to be held hostage to this garbage. When it comes to someone elses kids, well thats a different story entirely.

Answer 1

As a member of the only demographic group that is acceptable to profile, if I saw an unattended child lying in a puddle of it's own piss and blood, I wouldn't think of helping. The last thing I need is 7 cops pouncing on me like one of those Dateline entrapment scenes, and all the onlookers convinced that I had a "kid-in-a-puddle-of-piss-and blood" fetish.

"Sorry kid, but thems the breaks"

Answer 2

Since my own children are all grown, I do not have to worry about being accused of anything with my own children but I steadfastly refuse to have anything to do with children. I avoid being in a situation where I am alone in proximity with children of any age.

This is simply self-preservation since it is apparent that many men have been accused and found guilty of pedophilia that were actually innocent.

Pedophilia, like rape, is a crime in which the accused is guilty even when the evidence shows innocence. Even if somhow found "not-guilty", the stigma continues just as if the verdict was "guilty".

Answer 3

As a black man, I am doubly aware of the risks of being cast as a predator.

However, the doctor in Texas should have looked for a woman to assist him with the child. Not because women are better equipped to deal with a crying child, but because, in dealing with someone else's children, it is much wiser to be safe. Still, walking away was inexcusable.

BTW, it should not be this way, but I place a lot more blame on the small minority of MEN who ARE predators for the fact that men in general are treated with suspicion than I place on any feminist rhetoric about men. It's disgusting that these worthless "men" do these things and it hurts ALL of us.

TERA, that is HORRIBLE. Some of our educators really behave ridiculously.

Answer 4

When my son was in elementary school he was suspended for a day for drawing a picture of a gun on a piece of notebook paper. (His teacher saw it and took it away from him and notified the principal.) I got a phone call from the principal asking me if we had any guns in the house and if my son had a history of "being violent." It was the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard! We had no guns in the house, and he had no history of "being violent", at home OR at school. This was a complete and total over-reaction by the school and I was shocked by it. I think if it had been a little girl who had drawn that picture, the "over-reaction" would have never taken place. They certainly wouldn't have automatically assumed she was going to be a threat to someone else.

Answer 5

I don't care what people think, I am not a "predator" nor do I want or ever want to become one. If a child is lost, I will help, and if people think I am a pedophile for that then there is something seriously wrong with this world.

Answer 6

Questions like yours need to be asked more often because we have been feeling ourselves more and more guilty of something we didn't do. Because of a small group of pedophiles now every innocent man is treated with suspicion.
Paranoia took over.

Answer 7

Thats just wrong. If a child is in dire need of help; you should help a child out no matter what the circumstances. If you bump into a child then you should not feel like you're being accused of molestation.

Answer 8

Isn' t is a cryin' shame how we stop ourselves from helpin' each other, just because the act of a few, and or the accusations of the many?

Answer 9

A) I am not one of Your "fellow predators", and
B) You have now cast an aspersion upon the entire Male gender whilst at the same time giving additional ammunition to those who would endeavor to denigrate and belittle Men. Good work.

Answer 10

these men are over paranoid. women can be predators too. if my husband saw a little kid lost in the mall, he would help. shame on that man for leaving a kid lost! how would he feel if that child was abducted by an actual killer?

as for the boy scout rules, those protect the kids as well and honestly, i am much more concerned for their safety.