is it supposed to be a pleasurable/ arousing experience? I find either neutral/ tolerable or uncomfy/ stretched/ pressure to pee/pass motion, even with 1 hr of foreplay. am i doing something wrong?
2007-09-26 15:32:40 · 8 answers · asked by lisa 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
just to clarify the responses from some users
1. i'm in my late 20s so yes i'm old enough
2. i'm recently legally and customarily married
3. i use tampons and graduated in biology so i do know where the anus, vagina and urethra is.
So i'm just wondering whether this pressure/ lack of pleasure is a common thing or is it just me.
2007-09-26 18:35:17 · update #1
Hi sweetie sounds like a simple case of not being totally aroused properly ,your partner needs to read your signals,sounds like he is need of you telling him what you like.
Foreplay is most important try using some lubricant that will help with dryness.
You both sound very inexperienced, maybe watch some xrated sensual movies might help .Cheers ♥
2007-09-26 23:18:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
fact is a lot more women experience discomfort than will admit it. It isn't all the fault of the woman though, In most cases it is the way they allow their man to approach sex. When the guy wants sex and isn't thinking totally of how to pleasure his partner then it becomes one sided. that in and of itself makes him think it is all about his pleasure and he may well obtain it at the expense of her comfort.
My suggestion is for the woman to take charge of the sex if she isn't feeling terrific abotu the sex she's getting. She chooses positions, condoms, the distence in he penetrates, how far he thrusts, frequency, etc. By doign so, it compels him to pay attention more to her needs and her orgasms.
With practice it is possible to make sex truly pleasurable for both and to have both achieve real orgasms at the same time.
Women! Don't take this lying down. Stand up for pleasure and true orgasmic experiences by taking charge of the lovemaking. Just make sure there's lots of it though.
2007-09-29 20:01:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It should be pleasurable. Are you fully aroused and lubricated? If not, consider KY-Jelly or AstroGlide. The pressure could be your bladder or the sex position.
Hour of foreplay might be too much - meaning if he's using his fingers, he may be using up your 'wet' before you get to intercourse. Are you having an orgasm?
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2007-09-27 14:52:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
A lot of women don't feel pleasure through intercourse. If that's you, then tell your partner that you prefer more oral stimulation. Most women do not orgasm from intercourse, either.
2007-09-26 23:17:18 · answer #4 · answered by First Lady 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Of course not! Just fake it until you get his name on the marriage certificate. Then you can stop.
Seriously...sounds to me like you just might be using the urethra rather than the vaginal canal. Ask a pro if you aren't sure. It can be tricky...there aren't any labels or anything like that.
2007-09-26 23:57:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 6⤋
it is supposed to be enjoyable. but i suppose not everyone likes it.
2007-09-26 22:38:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
How old are you? And are you sure your it's the vag, and not the pee hole??
2007-09-26 22:45:23 · answer #7 · answered by gowpet 4 · 0⤊ 6⤋
If you don't know that - you are not old enough. Period.
2007-09-26 22:37:36 · answer #8 · answered by I need help 4 · 0⤊ 8⤋