I just got off the phone with a friend of mine and I know he is depressed and he finally came out and admitted it.
Do the men in your life hide these things?
Men, do you hide such things?
Any opinions please?
2007-09-26 15:31:19 · 6 answers · asked by ncgirl 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Senior Citizens
Thank you for the sincere response Gold.
2007-09-26 16:02:07 · update #1
For most senior men, I think it's the way they were brought up. Consider the times and their own fathers, who back then didn't talk about their feelings openly....and it just carried on. There are the few like Goldwing who can be very upfront and easily express thoughts and emotions, but for the most part, most men find it difficult. Sad but true. Glad you got your friend to admit what's happening and I'm sure that it means a lot to him that you're there to support him. Hope all works out well. Take care. Gracie.
2007-09-26 16:47:54 · answer #1 · answered by night-owl gracie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Men in general find it hard to express any deep emotion. Ask a man about love and he will skirt the issue,1 example,hubby goes out to plant flowers,he sees several neighbors and since we all have lived on the same streey for 41 yrs,they chat for an hour. He comes in and I say so how is soinso's wife? She was getting over a serious operation and 1 guy just became a grandfather.He said I didn't ask, we talked about our lawns and our work. Men do not ask deep questions,they do not know how to be anything but macho.
2007-09-26 23:40:54 · answer #2 · answered by lonepinesusan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hide nothing from my friends...my happiness, my depression, etc. How can you be a friend if you are not real? The real mark of a man is having the balls to express these emotions, to own up to them, to work through them, and ask for help when necessary. For some reason, too many folks seem to think that men are supposed to be made of stone..bullcrap ! Men experience the same feelings women do, we just don't make a habit of running around crying about it. BUT, we feel them, and we express them in our own way. If a friend asks me, "How are you doing, " and I am not doing well, I just say it! We talk, I feel better and am on my way. Now, I suppose I have laid myself open to more nasty remarks by a few here, but personally, I dont' give a shot! We have a few here who seem to take delight in taking pop shots at me in answers...so be it.
2007-09-26 22:44:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Men have changed a lot, and many men can be open honest about how they feel today. And I really admire a man who can do this. Then you can talk, and perhaps help, Men have feeling, it's just the "Old School" stiff upper ;lip twits, that think it is wrong for a man to cry.
Mu lat husband would cry. he cried when his father dies. He cried when his mother die. He had tears in his eyes when we were getting married.
It is also interesting that the men of the younger generation are able to express their feeling and cry. But I am comparing them to my father's generation.
If I see a post here to the contrary, I will have a darn good go at them.
2007-09-27 02:34:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men are so much more inclined to act out their depression then talk about being depressed. It's up to wives, friends, children and siblings to figure out why the man is acting so mad, sleepy, sad or plain old weird. I don't know any man over 40 who would say. "I'm so depressed." You are more likely to hear him cussing life in general or you in particular.
When I realize my husband is depressed I force him to talk to me and together we make some changes.
2007-09-26 23:23:16 · answer #5 · answered by Miz D 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I believe it is because we are to be the leaders of the family and provider. As a leader you don't want to show venerability.
2007-09-26 23:33:41 · answer #6 · answered by RB 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋