2007-09-26 14:49:01 · 13 answers · asked by lachi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Does she make you feel sexy wanted as a man and does she make you feel safe and loved. Is she on your side no matter what and is she excited about marrying you.
2007-09-26 15:05:32 · answer #1 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my.. lots of things..
One big issue is how you see your future to progress as individuals and as a couple. (i.e. Does the other person intend to work or not work; does one intend to go to school and drop out of the workforce to pursue a degree, etc).
Another big one is children. Do you want children and if so, when? 1 year, 5 years, 10 years? How will they be raised? Will one party stay at home?
What is the other person's relationship to money? (i.e. does he/she believe in saving? or is he/she a spender? Should the accounts be joint? separate? who pays for what? how much spending money should each person have, esp. after you have children. What's the partner's debt history? (Very important).
Who or how do you decide big purchases, such as a car. If one decides to pick up a big loan to drive a fancy car and the other thinks that a small one is sufficient, you'll already have a problem.
What's the partner's attitude toward care. Imagine you're in a car accident tomorrow. What about an unexpected debilitating disease. Will the partner support you? I've seen two cases now where the husband left the wife because she got breast cancer.
... and the list goes on....
2007-09-26 14:59:46 · answer #2 · answered by scubalady01 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything!!! LOL
Seriously, sit down and have a long conversation to make sure you have the same ideas about how to handle money, bills, children, religion, geography, retirement, and the list goes on and on. I do a lot of divorce work and from what I see I would say that the top two stresses on marriage are money (too little or too much can both be a problem) and children - those adorable little devils can tear your marriage apart if you're both not on the same team and in agreement in how to raise and discipline. But, otherwise marriage is great and congrats on getting married!
2007-09-26 14:56:44 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all before you get married you should no all about the things he likes and doesnt like this way you will know if he is your mate or not because sometimes people marry with nothing in common and wind up getting divoice even though they claim they are in love. Next protect your self from unwanted dieases okay because you dont know where he has been at .
best of luck
best of luck
2007-09-26 14:57:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well from all the previous Questions if your the female of the couple , penis size , bank account details , money earned at work , owning a house that is $250,000 or more , being willing to be locked up like a dog so you dont cheat , willing to buy her a $100,000 engagement ring oh the list could go on lmao.
2007-09-26 15:24:50 · answer #5 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, there are SO many things you should know. You need to know if they want children or not, and if they do, how many? What are their thoughts on raising children? Do they believe in spanking children? Do you? What religion are they? What things are important to them? When you're married, what things do they want to change about you? Do they have things they want to do (Guys' night out, poker games, etc...) that they want to do without you? You need to know what they expect of you... will you work or stay home? Who will do the majority of the housework? How do they feel about pets? ....
That's just a start.... there are so many things, but if you are getting married, hopefully you already know these things. Think about what you want THEM to know about you.... then make sure you know those things about you, too. I hope I've helped.
2007-09-26 15:00:37 · answer #6 · answered by AmmoBride 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to know everything about him. You need to know if you share the same beliefs, morals, values. I've had guys tell me they were "conservative and reserved" when we first met (I guess so that I wouldn't run from them) and once I got to really know them, they turned out to be crazier, sicker, and more twisted than some of my wildest college acquaintances ...don't believe just because a person looks like a "good person" or is a doctor, lawyer, or well-known guy in your social circle, that is a guarantee that he really is.
2007-09-26 15:09:00 · answer #7 · answered by MiaMonique 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MY mother always told me that a relationship is like a pair of shoes.....you have to try them on first to make sure that they are a good fit for you.
2007-09-26 15:10:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he/she wants kids, how many, who will work, him/her - both; how will the children be raised, what kind of discipline, religion; how will money be handled, who will do the chores, both - him/her; what kind of upbringing did he/she have; how does he get along with his mother, how does she get along with her father? were they raised in a loving home? was his mother treated with respect by his father??? are you sexually compatible...does he want sex twice a week and you want it 7 times a week..........talk about it all.....
2007-09-26 14:57:01 · answer #9 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything about his past before he met you.His likes dislikes.What he exspects out of your marriage.What he exspects from you what you exspect from him.
2007-09-26 14:58:43 · answer #10 · answered by lollypop 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋