Bored And Got Good Life But Want Divorce?

Question

I Got The Perfect Life If There Is Such A Thing. Wife,2 Kids. House Mini-Van. You Get It The Works, But I Am Bored! Wife Talks About Same Old Stuff Life IS In A Rut.My Kids I Love To Death. But I Feel My Unhappyness Is Starting To Show Thru. I Have No Other Women In My Life. But Missing The Single Life But Know Even With Divorce. Single Life Wouldn't Be The Same As It Once Was. Is This Mid-Life Problem At 34. Or Is This Something Else.

Answer 1

Stay where you are at. This is just a temporary feeling. If you are bored get you a hobby. Spend more time with your kids and make new memories. Take your wife out so she can have something else to talk about. Have family outings and watch the kids run around, and have fun. You will be sorry if you leave and your kids will have a hard time dealing with it. If you divorce it doesn't mean that you are going to fine a better woman. When you married did you hear the vows? They said until death do you apart, not until I get bored.

Answer 2

It is very normal for you to feel how you are feeling, however, if you say life great but you want a divorce, I'm afraid that you are suffering from what I like to call "The Grass is Greener" Syndrome. Discontent, boredom, and selfishness are all symptoms of this syndrom. When you ever consider divorce just remember these few things:

1. Your wife and children need you.
2. The grass is never as green as it seems. You had nothing negative to say about your wife so believe me that good women are a very hard to come by.
3.Nothing this shallow is worth breaking a vow that you made with your wife before GOD. Remember that he is all knowing, and he sees your heart. Selfishness will be handled accordingly.
4. If you truly value you family, you will do whats best for all of them, not just yourself.

A bored heart is the working of an idle mind. Try taking up a new hobby, hang with the fellas, spice it up in the bedroom, and of course don't forget to communicate your feeling to your wife. She married you because she loves you, and is looking out for your best interest. If you follow this then your boredom is sure to dissapate.

Hang in there Buddy!

Answer 3

It sounds kind of mid life crisis stuff....you already know getting a divorce won't bring you back to a place that you are feeling nostalgic about, so if you look at this from a practical stand point, divorce won't solve your problem. Perhaps it's time for some counseling so that you can better identify what your issues is/are and then make an intelligent decision on how to make your life better and more fulfilling. Abandoning your wife and children is really NOT a good idea.

Answer 4

Early Midlife. Question....what have you done to spice up your marriage or your life for that matter. Take your wife somewhere new maybe exotic and have a spicey romantic getaway. Take up a hobby or two. I can't believe you would risk destroying your family over being bored....Your right single life wouldn't be the same you would only see your kids every weekend if that pay big child support most likely alimony couldn't afford much. Then if you end up with someone else they are going to want to have a child with you and then your other kids will feel left out and unloved and you will have more money going to another kid and your kids now will do without a full time father unless your wife gets remarried and lives a happy life herself and they can start calling him dad and you end up single with a ***** of a gf or new wife and regretting your decision. but up to you. Your wife or life boring? change it do something different you don't get rid of a family cus your bored....

Answer 5

Being the opposite sex, but in the same situation. I hear you. I don't believe that we are going thru a mid-life crisis, however; what I do believe is that we are missing something in our lives that we need to full fill us. What that maybe is the question. I too have husband, 3 kids, house, mini-van, job. Everything a women should want, but I still am not Happy. You had mentioned bored. Is that the same thing as happiness to you? If your bored, just take the kids out more and do things with them, or start a project at home. But if it is happiness, maybe you and your wife should sit down and talk about your relationship. Maybe try something to spice it up? Good Luck.

Answer 6

One thing to always remember is that the grass in ALWAYS greener on the other side... until you get there.. I think you have a problem that is very common to the rest of us, it's the "inability to create our own happiness and always waiting for someone else to do it" problem. I think what your life may be missing is creativity. Get some hobbies, communicate with your wife, start making things a little more exciting in your relationship, you have a right and a responsibility to create the best for yourself and your family.
Think about this what damage would you do to your children if you just walked away from their mother, the person that they love and adore. What if they couldn't see their father everyday, and they had to deal with the stress of a divorce because the reality is they are usually the ones who take it the hardest. What about their mother, your wife, do you think that she deserves a chance at making the best of your relationship. And what about if you do leave. How are you going to feel if she loses that extra 10 or 20 lbs and starts dating and flirting with other men. Is that something you are prepared to deal with. It doesn't really sound to me like there is anything wrong with her or your marriage, no abuse, no infidelity. You actually have a really good thing going just talk with her and you two get back in gear and have some fun!
Good luck!

Answer 7

Of course married life gets boring. Any life gets boring. Thats why people get interesting hobbies, go out with friends, get involved in politics or social issues, see movies, take vacations, etc. Boredom has nothing to do with being married or not. You can be bored all by yourself or you can be bored with someone you love. Its still being bored. TV also tells you that marriage is a sitcom. Or that all fancy diagnosticians are insane like Dr. House.... Remember that tv is a boredom reliever and has nothing to do with reality....... I am sorry you have been cheated on a lot but all that tells me is that you are not as picky as you should be when chosing someone to be with. Skip the usual Barbie doll popular types and look to personality, compassion, kindness, sense of humor. You will find someone who completes you. People seem to have an "ideal mate" thing that revolves around appearances. That is pure BS. Appearances can change with age, accident, illness, etc but what is inside the persons heart and mind is what lasts. My ideal was a typical teenagers ideal; tall dark and handsome. I married short chunky and so-so. WE had a wonderful 33 year marriage, raised 4 kids and have 9 grand kids. Unfortunately the love of my life died in 2005. Was it boring sometimes? God yes. All life is. But it was easier to handle with my husband than if I had been alone.

Answer 8

Being bored happens a lot in marriages.It is up to you to find a way to add spice to your marriage.The grass is not always greener on the other side.If you love your wife you will find a way to get through this.Talk to her about your feelings.She may have no idea what is going on.It very well could be a midlife crisis at 34.That is about the time a lot of men start having those feelings.

Answer 9

when the honeymoon stage is gone the relationship goes on to the next level or should, one where u love her unconditionally and deal with life. even if u divorced, u would not be happy because the problem lies within not outside of u. has nothing to do with your circumstances, or your wife. u may be going through a mid life crisis, caused by not wanting to give up the old ways of thinking because it involves pain. mid life crisis is really just wanting to avoid maturity. sure its easy to want to escape the hum drum of every day life and all of its responsibilities. but we don't escape anything, we just move on to someone else and for awhile we feel young and appreciated again, our ego's are stroked, but after awhile we see that we are in the same boat, and with the same type of person. so begin to be the mate u want to have, if u want to recapture what u had once be the man u were, treat her like a princess again. the key issue to problems is just a lack of understanding.

Answer 10

The problem is you have gotten to comfortable with your life, and that happens n a lot of marriages, couples get use to each other everything becomes the same old routine day in and day out. But before i get a divorce i would try to re-date my spouse seek counseling, and get back that flame with your wife. its never to late to try.

Good luck and God bless.