what can I do to help him not be so prude? He is all about him and none about me. He is a five minute ejectulation and he is done. We have been married almost 20 years. We haven't had a physical relationship for over half of it. I recently let him know I was not being fullfilled and he said he try but that hasn't happened yet. How can I help him to help me?
2007-09-26 13:39:34 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell him he's not getting anymore until he can appreciate your needs as well. I mean after all, his are obviously getting fullfilled. In the meantime....buy a vibrator.
2007-09-26 13:43:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I am in a similar problem however, we have only been married for about 6 years. I will tell you, if you're doing everything in your power, everything that you can and he still is not satisfying you the rest is UP TO HIM. It takes 2 people to make a successful marriage not just one! If YOU are the only one trying to change things to better please yourself and he never works on it, then it will not change. You can force it upon him to satisfy you, I to have tried that, but in the end was left feeling more empty and lonely than before I tried. My husband is very good in bed when he is motivated mentally if he is not motivated mentally the sex is not too good. He just told me today that he wasn't motivated and is trying very hard. Maybe your husband is not motivated! Good luck, hopefully better luck than what I have had so far! Notice I have not been married as long as you so I guess the sexual epidemic has gotten worse in marriages!
2007-09-30 13:12:30 · answer #2 · answered by Saude! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK wow well we know you love your husband but I will tell you this much if you give it up like twice a month expect 5 min the more you sex you have the better your endurance and another thing you should do is take control. Tell him you can't but that in me until you put your face, your hand, or something else down there. But like I said when a man go's along time without it they can blow Quick so if you are 2 times a month lay expect him to be a 3 pump chump.
2007-09-26 21:10:55 · answer #3 · answered by cal6600 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Share physical activities, biking, hit the gym. The more active you are together the more active you are with each other. Drop the TV 2 nights a week.
2007-09-26 21:21:57 · answer #4 · answered by Skibo 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Viagra
2007-09-26 20:50:21 · answer #5 · answered by moonchild 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there is a book called "And they were not ashamed" by Laura Brotherson..it can help with intimacy issues...
also he may have ED...ejaculation dsyfunction..it is kind of the new black as far as medical issues is concerned..
it is possible that it isn't what you think...he should see a urologist and get some medical help..
if he is prudish to the extent that he won't go down on you...then remind him that the clitoris has ONE purpose..
that is pleasure...so if he doesn't at LEAST..stimulate it..then he is missing the whole boat..
2007-09-26 20:46:19 · answer #6 · answered by juanes addicion 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
20 years and this subject comes up now? I'm betting there are a lot of other things we aren't hearing about.
2007-09-26 20:47:14 · answer #7 · answered by noshaymatall 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have been putting up with this for 20 years?
WOW! I would have ditched his butt at like 3 months!
2007-09-26 20:48:25 · answer #8 · answered by chicklione 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If your husband doesn't want to heed your advice,then you should seek marriage counseling.Maybe he would understand your point of view if there was a professional to back it up.
2007-09-26 21:13:59 · answer #9 · answered by Candi Apples 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just be candid. Tell him how you feel. Dont hurt his feeling but let him know you are feeling unfulfilled. Geez - you said it's been like that for half of your marriage?
2007-09-26 20:48:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋