It was my second time driving in Indianapolis. I just moved up here. I am a new driver. Now that this has happened in only my second day of driving there I feel very horrible about my skills as a driver. What happen was I was in a suburban area and I stop at a stop sign. I looked both ways, nothing was there. And then bam. I mean it will be charged at my fault but it was not like I just ran the stop sign. Though again I don't feel I am a very strong driver, I had not had but less than two months expeirence. My parents are wanting me to move back near them to keep me and my son safe. Though if I did that my boyfriend would have to drive 2 hours to work. He already has problems staying awake when driving.That would be would a death bed waiting to happen. He said he is not doing it. I feel like my son and I's life is more important since he is a toddler and I am his mother but by no means do I want to attend my boyfriends funeral. So I am completely at a loss of what to do! Help!
2007-09-26 13:16:08 · 11 answers · asked by Random 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
IMO, being a good driver is not about skill, it's about being careful. Those who think they're skilled drivers get too comfortable, and lose focus on the road. So I think it's almost better to be nervous in a sense as long as you are young and alert. I slow down at 4 way intersections even if I don't have a stop sign. Just drive slow and be careful and you should be fine.
2007-09-29 06:32:59 · answer #1 · answered by killykole2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow... I wouldn't even know what to do if I where in your situation... you either go w/ your son and risk your boyfriend getting hurt, or you stay where you are now... Why can't your boyfriend drive you around for a little longer until you become more familiar with the area and your driving? I mean, what difference would if make if you go to your moms home? Just curious... I know what you mean about not putting your life and your sons at risk, so therefore you want to leave... but I would stick by my mans side, I wouldn't want to have to worry every single day and night that he might fall asleep while driving and get seriously hurt... I think you should both talk about things and work something out that will work for the both of you... I'm sorry you where in an accident, I do hope you feel better though, take care.
2007-09-26 13:23:18 · answer #2 · answered by N3N@ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use these accidents as a lesson. You need to fully take charge- especially if your son is in the car with you. You would feel terrible if you did something - even if it were an accident and if something happened to your son. Be strong, take charge when you are driving. Watch out for everyone, all the time. Double and triple check if you have to at stop signs. You can do it! Ask a family member to ride with you driving, and ask for some advice from them. My dad taught me very well, so I"m always super cautious- it's the other drivers I worry about-especially when my son is in the car with me.
Good luck, and stay strong! Work hard to keep you and your family as safe as you can!
2007-09-26 13:24:41 · answer #3 · answered by m930 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heidi, you have more than one issue here. Since you started by talking about your car accident, I'll answer that issue. If you want to talk about the other, e-mail me.
Statistically, you are now almost three time more likely to have another accident in the next 90 days. No you are not cursed, just more than likely preoccupied and not devoting all and I do mean ALL of your attention to driving.
There are several ways you can "improve" your driving skills. I would suggest that you personally contact Sheriff Anderson about defensive driving for new drivers. There are several schools that have need based scholarships available. If you can not talk with Sheriff Anderson, please find a local law enforcement officer or check with any of the emergency rooms at your local hospital. They will combine with these schools also.
These professionals would rather talk to you now than work your fatal accident.
Good luck.
2007-09-26 15:10:27 · answer #4 · answered by footwarmer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really glad you won't majorly hurt! I know how scarey it can be to drive in big places and I don't like doing it either. My best advice is to stay there because it wouldn't be fair to make your boyfriend drive that far to work. With time you will become more comfortable driving in such a large area. For now try to stay in areas that aren't so congested. WIth time you will become more confident. Just take it slow and keep looking both ways twice.
2007-09-26 13:24:21 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been in your shoes my car-wreck almost ended my life, So just be thankful... My advice is get a licensed driver to drive with u until u feel sage and confident!! Good Luck
2007-09-26 13:25:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this a real question? This doesn't make any sense. You don't need to be driving a toddler if you are that bad of a driver. Listen to your parents dont worry about your boyfriend worry about your son!!!!!
2007-09-26 13:23:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Thats a tough one. I agree with others though. You should get someone to ride with you and try and help you out with what it might be you are doing that makes you so hesitant when driving.
2007-09-26 15:16:21 · answer #8 · answered by Rick R , Super Duper Samurai 侍 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a dilemma. well think about your toddler... there is always ways to to work around the whole relationship problem, but u cant work around ur sons safety
2007-09-26 13:21:22 · answer #9 · answered by softball04o4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a bus pass.
2007-09-26 13:21:57 · answer #10 · answered by Wolf Girl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋