Is spoiling your loved one a bad thing?

Question

I someone says 'you really spoil your husband/wife girl/boyfriend does that mean a good thing or does it mean you're whipped?

Answer 1

I think its a good thing as long as both parties are satisfied.

Answer 2

You know that when I read your question, my Husband came to my mind, because we have been married for 49, years, and hoping to make it to our Golden Anniversary. We were Married when He was 18, and I was 16, years old, no regrets, on both Parts. But, as they say we are not Spring chickens so, what worries me is that my Husband expects me, to do every thing around here even running the House, He still works and would not dream of leaving his Job, but I have told him time and time again, that he needs to be more independent because what would he do if I would suddenly die? We have a family Two boys and Five Girls, all Married and family of their own. My Girls all work, and they are very independent so, I do not think they would want to carry on with what I did for their Dad. I admit that it was my fault in the way I always did everything for my Hubby. But seeing it through my eyes, I did it because I Loved him a lot. So, in a way it is bad spoiling your Loved one. Thanks for your question.

Answer 3

One of my friend's tells me all the time I spoil my husband. And that she wouldn't do the things I do for mine, for her b/f, because he is a grown man. And she couldn't believe how much I spent on him for fathers day, or his birthday.

I want to tell her maybe that is why she is 29 and has been divorced twice and in countless relationships that don't last. But she is my friend so I just let it be, sooner or latter she will figure out she is what is wrong with her relationships.

If you love someone there is nothing wrong with putting in a little extra effort and doing things for them that you don't have to do.
It is the little things you do that make someone feel loved and appreciated. To some it may seem like you are spoiling them, but there isn't anything wrong with it.

Answer 4

As long as you feel spoiled, too, I think that is a great thing! If you are offended by "being whipped," then maybe you should look at your priorities.

Answer 5

If spoiling someone means losing your sense of self then it is a bad thing?

Answer 6

Depends. If it's like a mother spoiling her child, then yes, it's a bad thing.

Answer 7

i think spoiling your loved one is a bad thing. because he would thing that its OK to do anything and you would still be there. that how men think, try talking to a couple of male and here what they think. you can spoil him/her but to a certain point. but that's just my opinion, everyone relationship and other half is different. once you know where you relationship is at, and where it is heading you make your decision base on that. not what people tell you to do. good luck

Answer 8

I don't know I think it is all nice to pamper your sweetie but then once you become their doormat there really is no going back.

You have to find the fine line between the two, especially if you are the woman doing the spoiling....

Answer 9

In some situations, yes. My in laws are a good example. My fil does everything for my mil. She has never had to do the grocery shopping or even cleaning house by herself. He either helps her or does it for her. She has no confidence to do things by herself. She will panic when he is not around and she needs to do something alone. Not a good situation.

Answer 10

no it is not a bad thing,i spoil my husband to be all the time and he spoils me,we are fifteen hours away frome each other

Answer 11

No i think of your a surprising puppy proprietor. hamsters love a hectic atmosphere the place there's a lot to do and a lot of stimulation, and you have made specific your puppy has each and every of the mandatory issues for a happy, long, healthful existence. I ruin my hamster too. he has a large 3 storey cage, a draw packed with treats (healthful treats!) and he adores, like your hamster, human touch. keep doing what your doing, she is one fortunate hamster.