It's 10 months and counting to my wedding day. I am really looking forward to my wedding day. Can you give me advice about anything regarding finances,children,in laws, sex etc.?
2007-09-26 12:13:38 · 13 answers · asked by Bride2Be 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Put God above all. Put your yourself and your husband above friends and family. Love his friends and family as your own. Raise your children with love and limits, and consider how you would want to be raised if you were an adult looking back upon your childhood. Make love with your entire being, engage your heart. Treat money as a necessary means to an end, not the end in itself. Be responsible with sex and money.
And in getting along with spouse when not in bed, treat them with dignity and respect, state your truth quietly and clearly, but own it as yours, allow them their own truth, respect their boundaries, ask before getting into their space without previous permission, make it a personal goal to give more than you receive in the relationship, open your heart, love with all your heart, let go when necessary for their happiness or well being. Laugh together, be children together, be adults together. Make love often.
2007-09-26 13:02:30 · answer #1 · answered by shine_radiantstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, make sure you save enough money to pay for the sex......
Oh wait - you're a gal, aren't you ? Well, that was meant for the man :) (just kidding)
Just remeber to love each other, always. He needs to be the center of your relationship and you need to be the center for him. In time, money, kids, in-laws, etc.... ALWAYS get in the way. Don't let them.
The relationship is the two of YOU.
The kids will be great - but they are NOT the center of your universe. He is. First your man, then your kids, then your extended family..... he MUST be the same.
Keep this in mind and the finances, children, in laws, and sex will take care of themselves.
Fail to do this and your marriage will be a struggle and may well end in divorce - plain and simple.
2007-09-26 12:21:28 · answer #2 · answered by aa889d 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations! first of all I can tell: try to save money, show your man you care how much he works for you and you pay back by doing well financing, then about sex never let the flame to get over always try to surprise him with something new please don't let monotony enter to your home, in laws?, have always a good relationship with them and be as kind as you can but mark you territory children,? that is always a coin in the air they are so different but the most important thing is educate with our example they always imitate you, educate with love and discipline at a time always together good luck
2007-09-26 12:27:01 · answer #3 · answered by sambabe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, thats a big question. We share $$ whats his is mine and whats mine is his. Works for us but not everyone. Children are harder. We have 3 and argue over how we raise them and disipline. i dont even want to go into in-laws. We got along good until 10 years after we were married. Now I cant stand my mother-in -law. But the other family members are good.. Sex just go with the fow
2007-09-26 12:22:04 · answer #4 · answered by Kim s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep a nest egg for yourself, and dont share it with your husband. Dont even tell him about it.
I like to call it security money, but then of course, I have been married twice and really got crapped on both times.
Never ever talk bad about the in laws. No matter what your think, he is really into his mama and no one is ever permitted to talk about a mans mother in a negative way. You can think it but dont say it.
Also, never live within 50 miles of your in laws. They will take over your lives. Make it so he has to drive a couple hours to get home.
Sex is just that,,,,,its sex. Men crave it all of the time. If you get good at faking it, you are going to do well. It makes it easier to get it over with when your tired.
Happy marriage and good luck.
2007-09-26 12:21:50 · answer #5 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Money : never have a joint account
sex : be creative and make different things and ideas
in laws : there's nothing better than keeping ur mouth shut with a smile on ur face around ur in laws
children : u must agree when would u like to have kids and how many
CONGRATULATIONS and Best of Luck ^__^
2007-09-26 12:20:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Lots of communication with your fiance now. Talk about everything thing. Do some counseling about marriage together, read some books on marriage. Do lots of talking about what you expect from each other once married! GOOD LUCK!
2007-09-26 13:28:29 · answer #7 · answered by Dance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have lots of sex you wont care about money. If you have kids, you wont ever have enough money and you wont get time for sex. AVOID THE IN-LAWS AT ALL COSTS. marriage is what you make it.. My ex and I made ours a living hell.. I can only wish you good luck.
2007-09-26 12:47:30 · answer #8 · answered by sumfin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a premarital course. It will teach you everything you need to know.
I'm not married, but I hear that starting off a marriage debt-free is the way to go, if possible.
Congrats!
2007-09-26 12:17:50 · answer #9 · answered by belle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes keep all money separate. I recommend the spiritual part of marriage, not the legal partnership part. Good luck
2007-09-26 13:00:51 · answer #10 · answered by Chris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋