Did you get married and find out your spouse has bad habits you cannot stand?

Question

Did he start slacking on showering and shaving and putting on deoderant? Did he start passing flatus and thinking it was funny? Did he stop cleaning up after himself and leaving huge messes in the kitchen?
Did he all the sudden not care about his clothing and personal hygeine?
Tell me about it?

Answer 1

I really ain't married I just live with my pet dog named Susy.
But if that's YOUR case then I have two things to say towards that:
1. I feel sorry for you.
2. Dump him I bet there is other guys that will appreciate such a pretty and intelligent girl like you.

Answer 2

2.5 Years of marriage and he hasn't stopped his cleanliness, hes always been a clean guy, and hes actually started doing more around the house then when we first were married. I just reversed the table. He wouldn't vacuum the whole house, so I would have too, So I figured I wouldn't clean the whole kitchen and he started doing the whole kitchen. So where I slack he picks up where he slacks I pick up, but I totally agree with the poster above about if you start to let those little things bother you, you will fall out of love. Focus on the good.

Answer 3

My hubby didn't become the slob you describe, but we're both more comfortable around each other. We didn't live together before we were married so we did find out a few things about each other once we lived under the same roof.

But all the little annoying things - like leaving the empty milk carton setting on the counter rather than walking a few feet to the trash can - can easily be overlooked when you love each other. It's when you begin dwelling on those little faults that you fall out of love....

Answer 4

LOL! yes i have heard a lot of guys are like that!!i have been with my man for almost 5 years and he has never changed.he is faithful and very into being clean..maybe not good at cleaning up after himself but he takes at lest 3 showers a day does his hair before and after work always wears deodorant..yes he does fart and think it funny but i laugh too..its our little joke...the only complaint i could have is that he doesn't want to have sex as often as before..i mean he still does just not as often LOL..he works a lot and says hes tired LOL...i go to school and I'm tired too but i still want to!!!well i hope this helps you some.:)

Answer 5

My husband and I talked about that 'bad habit' thing BEFORE we got married, and even before we started going together. He was 'shy' of getting involved because he was 'set in his ways' and so was I. I was an 'early riser' while he usually slept until well past ten. He's a 'slob' who drops his clothes on the floor, I always put mine into the laundry hamper. He leaves the seat up on the toilet, I have ALWAYS (even when married, and with male children) insisted it be put down. Then we got married ... he's still a slob, but at least drops his clothes NEXT to the hamper, so I don't have to 'go far' to get them there. I've taken to dropping my clothes next to the bed ... I pick them up most of the time, but ALWAYS leave them there on weekends, so when he does the laundry on Sunday, he picks them up and washes them. That 'works out' for us. He 'dresses better' because I shop for him ... but I buy the clothes he likes to wear, not what I think he'd look 'better' in. He doesn't shower nearly often enough, but as long as he doesn't 'stink' when he comes to bed, it's fine with me. And there are many 'good things' with our marriage. If I lived alone, I'd live on crackers, cheese, and fresh fruit ... I'm burned out after cooking for my family (four kids plus man) for over twenty years. My husband was a chef, he goes to work, comes home and cooks my dinner. Every time I take a bath (except for maybe one time every six months) he comes in to wash my back. He KNOWS it makes me 'purr' because I use 'scratchy soap' and his hands can move it, where I must use a 'braided net puff' and it' doesn't scratch nearly as much. I buy him 'little things' and leave them on his desk at home, or take them to him as a 'surprise' at work. We LOVE EACH OTHER and maybe it's because we are older that we know that there's alway some 'bad' with the good, and we don't WANT to 'change' our partner, because then we wouldn't be 'us' ... and since our 'us' is EXCELLENT, we don't feel the 'need' to try to change either our partner or ourselves. Oh, yes, my husband does leave 'big messes' in the kitchen every night when he's done cooking ... but he always washes the dishes and straightens the kitchen before he leaves for work, because he knows I won't even LOOK if it's not neat in there ... so we are 'both happy' at least half of the time. THAT is what it takes to make a good marriage.

Answer 6

My husband never stopped being hygenic. He never farts on front of me.
But he doesn't clean up after himself. And the most annoying thing is he talks to himself, you cant hear it but his lips are moving. It drives me crazy!! And he is anal about his clothes being ironed the correct way. So I gave up and he irons them..
And the biggest thing that bothers me is when we are argueing he leaves the room, and I can hear him griping but I cant make out what he is saying. SO I tell him it doens't count if I cant hear him.

Answer 7

Yes, I didn't know how jealous he was. After I married of him he couldn't stand for me to talk to another man and couldn't stand to not know what I was doing every moment of the day. He also had a really bad temper and liked to slam cabinets and doors and break dishes. We are divorced.

Answer 8

Well, we're not married, but my bf moved in and I practically have to BEG him to shower at night(doesn't shower in morning). He actually tried reasoning with me..."but baby, I'm so tired. Walking up the stairs to the shower is too hard".
Bull****. He's 22!

He showered after I busted into laughter. Guess he was embarrassed, and rightfully so!! *god help me*

Answer 9

Extreme messiness. Personal hygiene ok, but leaves the bathroom scary after using it. Doesn't always flush. Doesn't know where clean dishes go. Lays on the couch watching tv all day.

Answer 10

Nope, he has always been the same person around me. We are very comfortable with each other and have never felt the need to hide who we really are.

And gas is funny...lol, just kidding

Answer 11

The only thing he stopped doing was his laundry. He did it when it was in a separate basket and only had his clothes in it, but when we moved and only had one closet in our room, our clothes got put together and he quit doing laundry. We dated for a while and I really had no surprises, he was the same man I dated.