to make a long story short..my boyfriend was abused as a child, his dad use to beat him badly. he lived in foster homes. when we were together couple years ago, he was so upset because he couldnt find weed, he was taking it out on me and was being really rude. when i had enough i walked away from him (this was at school) couple seconds later i hear him banging on lockers throwing the garbage bins around, he kicked his shoes off and ran towards me and threw me against the locker just yelling at me i dont remember what he said cuz it was so long ago. i broke up with him after that. he seems to be needy, always needing a gf, why?
and im wondering if hes like this b/c of what happened in his past? what are some effects it has on u later in life?
2007-09-26 11:58:03 · 4 answers · asked by jess 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You did the right thing by breaking up with him . If you stayed with him he may have beaten you instead of the lockers.Take care of yourself Sweetie.
2007-09-26 12:06:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
We are the product of our genes and our experiences.
We tend to respond to stress with a fight-or-flight response. Kids who have been abused normally choose flight, because they've often been in situations where they couldn't win, so running from stress is the primary response to the situation.
I think it's more likely that you're seeing genetics, rather than experience. If he was abused as a kid, it was probably because one or both of his parents couldn't handle stress - and now he's doing the same thing.
It takes *decades* for someone like that to turn himself around - and *he* has to be the one who wants to change. You can't change him, as much as you would like to. You can't help him, no matter how much you realize he hurts. You need to keep away from people like that because otherwise, you will end up with children that are abused, and grow up to act like he is acting.
You have a responsibility to your children not yet born. It sounds cruel, but it's true....
2007-09-26 12:10:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok..so i was abused too.
sometimes i have little outbursts then start to break down.
maybe he was just having a bad day but him being abused could be the answer.
he was probably acting needy because he doesn't have a lot of stability in his life.
maybe he was afraid of losing you or something..
2007-09-26 12:07:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Boys will be Boys,, It doesn't matter how you are raised , if your spoiled your spoiled . and boys will spoil themselves if someone doesn't do it for them ,, spoiled , is why you got pushed around , he didn't know any better , but thanks to you he's had one more lesson , every boy needs one,,, or two ,, or mabey more
2007-09-26 12:39:36 · answer #4 · answered by darkcloud 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋