Well im 15 & my brothers 17 & our parents are getting a divorce so our dad moved out. Our dad just called & he sounds really sad & pissed off & he said his coming by& he wil be here in about an hour. We REALLY don't want to see him i know this is going to be horribly ackward. We have never goten along with him before so i know this is going to SUCK!!! Any advice? Please help im dreading seeing him :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :(
Oh our mom's at work.
2007-09-26 11:50:01 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
He must be feeling alone and upset and scared as well. His life had just been turned upside down. He's just lost his wife and I highly doubt he wants to lose him children. Just try and act like nothing has changed. Be nice and friendly. He'll need some cheering up, so smile and tell him you still care and everything will be alright.
2007-09-26 12:00:46 · answer #1 · answered by ★☆✿❀ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have two choices...be there or not.
Once way or another, let you mom know.
One question. Do you love your father?
If you do, you owe him the effort to try to build a basic relationship with him.
If you don't, you owe it to him to let him know that you do not want to be in regular contact with him. Letters and phone calls on special days, if that is what you are comfortable with...he IS family, and presumably has never attempted to abuse you and your brother. Remember...if/when you get married, send an invite, unless he had been abusive, etc.
The irony is that now that you folks are going through a divorce, your brother and yourself may actually become friendly/friends with your father. However, if it does happen, it will likely be several years away.
Now...dealing with the divorce. Let BOTH parents know that you do NOT want to be in the middle. You will NOT referee their fights. They BOTH have to know that the divorce *is* going to harm you and your brother, and you want to minimise the impact...the more amicable the divorce, the more likely the two of you are to successfully deal with it and heal.
2007-09-26 19:27:03 · answer #2 · answered by jcurrieii 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a difficult time for him. The last thing he'll need is his own kids not talking to him. Try to be there for him and let him know you're there.
2007-09-26 18:55:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋