Me and my husband have been married for going on five years. It used to be about me and him (and the kids of course), but now it just feels like it's just me and the kids.
Don't get me wrong, he is a wonderful hubby and daddy, he doesn't go out and party with his friends....its his work. He is a firefighter/EMT. For instance, today was his day off, he still felt the need to go to the FH to catch up on work, comes home to eat...then goes back over there for a meeting. I'm so lonely. Its not fair that I am at home 24/7 with the kids. I tell him how I feel but all he says is..."its part of my job. I know that he loves us unconditionally...I just wish he showed it more.
2007-09-26 11:36:19 · 7 answers · asked by sunnysideup 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is really at the firehouse. Sometimes I wish just one time that he would rather spend time with us than at the firehouse (btw he really is over there! lol) . It just gets lonely sometimes. His hours are from 8am to 6 four days a a week and every Thursday they either have training or a business meeting at six until 8 or so. I guess I just need to get a life...
2007-09-26 11:49:38 · update #1
I don't know your husband and I really hope he is at the FH when he says he is. Make sure you make the home life great so he wants to be there. I have no idea your situation and the marriage, but really try and make an effort to praise him and encourage him when he is home. It is so hard at times to be a SAHM, take one day at a time and give him some sex tonight.
2007-09-26 11:41:55 · answer #1 · answered by nanners454 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Next time he tells you it' s part of his job, tell him his other job is to be a father to his children and a husband to you. If he spends all his time at the firehouse, how could he possibly be spending any time with the kids? They grow up quick and before he knows it they will be teenagers with their own life and will want nothing to do with him because he didn't want anything to do with them when they were young.
Give him a copy of The Cats in the Cradle to listen to.
2007-09-26 11:55:33 · answer #2 · answered by Dicewife 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could it be a new fire female that you don't know about?You should be the most important person in his life not his job.Something is keeping him at work,on his day off he should be home with his family,The Bile said a man will leave his father and mother and stick to his wife so the job can't be more important this is wife and family.Try to sit down with him and tell him that you love him and need him home more.
2007-09-26 12:09:33 · answer #3 · answered by drvic3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband is the same way he's a " marine" . it is lonely and it's not fun at all but i totally understand you i have the same problem. he tells me " i'm a marine 24 hrs a day 7 days a week" he will go in on the weekend even though theres someone already there. it sucks but at least we are not complaining about them not working ..right ??
2007-09-26 11:58:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a lonely SAHM too. My husband works all week he goes in right before I wake up and gets off work usually when I have to go put my youngest to sleep. I only get to see him for about 30 min before falling asleep and he doesn't feel like talking much. He has weekends off but is usually playing on his playstation2 or has something like mowing that has to be done. I don't know what your question is but if you ever want to chat you can e-mail me @ diablosangel002@yahoo.com.
2007-09-26 11:44:43 · answer #5 · answered by Katelynn & Melissa's Mommy 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Keep the lines of communication open with your husband,and be honest about how you feel.
Explain to him that you have been feeling lonely and neglected lately.
Hire a babysitter for the night,and go out and have a romantic evening with your husband.You deserve it!
2007-09-26 11:40:23 · answer #6 · answered by Candi Apples 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he needs a time out from work, both of you need to do a weekend getaway without the kids rediscover yourselves.
2007-09-26 11:41:57 · answer #7 · answered by myrtle1beach 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋