I have twin daughters, 4 months old, but they were born 3 months premature, so they are developmentally only 1 month old. In the hospital, we carried constantly as it was strongly encouraged to help both the babies and the parents. Now, they are nightmares at home! They want to be carried all the time and rebel when I put then in the bouncer or swing. The minute I carry them, the screaming stops. Sometimes I don't even eat because I am carrying at least one of them constantly. Any suggestions? HELP!
2007-09-26 11:26:18 · 9 answers · asked by nurseratchet23@sbcglobal.net 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Get baby carriers or slings. They strap onto you and keep your hands free, but keep the baby close and comfortable against you so you can go on about your business and keep them happy.
2007-09-26 11:31:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that helped me was when my son learned to nap on his own (about 4-5 months old) in the crib and then a month ago when he learned to crawl. He is a momma's boy and I carried him a LOT when he was young. I can't imagine twins like him- I wish you luck. Just keep trying and know they are ok to cry for a few minutes here and there as long as all of their needs are met. You need a few minutes to yourself to eat or go to the bathroom and just give them a little longer period down at a time and they will get better. Otherwise get a sling/carrier- thats what I did. Good luck!
2007-09-26 11:32:42 · answer #2 · answered by lovebeingamom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm..I wouldn't stop carrying them all of a sudden- it might confuse them. Gradually carry them around less and less. If you make it a slow process, it will probably be a lot easier on all 3 of you. Like others have said, a sling is a great idea.
Put them in a bouncy or swing as often as possible. I personally don't believe in the crying out method, but let them cry for a few minutes before picking them up. Every couple fo days, increase that by a couple of minutes. It's heart wrenching to hear your baby cry but its actually good for lung development.
You could also try picking them up when they cry, soothing them, and then putting them immediately down. It will be exhausting for a few days but it will teach them soothing skills. Good luck!
2007-09-26 11:47:25 · answer #3 · answered by TJ's Mom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, get a Moby wrap sling where you can wear them and still have hands free. You have to think of them as being 1 month old. 1 month olds need and want to be carried all the time. It's normal and natural, they need you close by.
When they are close to 2 months old, you can put them in a bouncy chair and keep them within eyesight. Sing to them, talk to them, get them used to seeing you. Try letting them be like that for a few minutes, then 5, then 10, and so on. As the babies get more mature and are developmentally able to handle it, it will get easier.
Don’t push them and follow their cues. This isn’t the time for you to be doing anything, your husband, friends, and family need to pick up the slack.
2007-09-26 11:36:02 · answer #4 · answered by maegs33 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
They aren't rebelling, they are wanting and needing the comfort that your body provides them, being in the hospital when they weren't even ready to be born, probably has made them a bit more sensitive. Try slings and carriers for a little while, they are craving being close and comforted because they aren't able to tell you how they feel. Once they are calm try sitting with them so that everything is still, and transitioning to the playpen, rubbing their backs and all that.
2007-09-26 11:36:47 · answer #5 · answered by Zyggy 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Yes i would invest in a good sling/babycarrier. I have the moby wrap and it is nice, plus it can be used with twins. Every day just ease them 5 min to 10 pretty soon it will get better!
2007-09-26 19:23:29 · answer #6 · answered by Jeanie W 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What seems to be working for my one-month-old is lying her down on the bed, and then I stay close to her (not carrying, just sitting or lying near by; so she can see me and feel me). I've slowly increased my distance so it's okay for me to get up and walk around for slowly increasing periods of time.
Maybe it will work for them.
Oh, but do make sure you eat (even if they cry through it), especially if you're nursing - if you don't eat a proper meal, then it's harder for them to get a proper meal.
2007-09-26 12:14:27 · answer #7 · answered by daisyk 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Put them on a swing or playpen and let them "self soothe".
2007-09-26 11:34:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋
cry it out methode!
2007-09-26 11:41:58 · answer #9 · answered by TTC #2 Baby Dust MEEE! 5 · 0⤊ 6⤋