ok, i'll just say my older sisters name is x. ok, so x is popular, smart, and pretty. she has lots of good friends and she encouraged me to do well in school. she tells me the things i can work on and she makes things possible for me. she is basically my hero cause when i'm next to her i feel so strong and happy. every1 tells me how lucky i am. she knows so much ppl. i guess i wanna be like her. but i hate being called x's sister. "you're x's sister!". "hi, x's sister!"...they sometimes don't even ask for my name. i'm so lost, help?
2007-09-26 10:57:04 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Have you ever seen the Brady Bunch? It's an old TV show about a family in the 70's. Anyway, there's a girl named Jan on the show and she is always in the shadow of her pretty, popular older sister, Marcia. In fact, her famous catchphrase on the show is "Marcia, Marcia, Marcia!!!" as a dramatic response to how sick she is of everyone always talking about her sister. I brought that up because it sounds like you and Jan have a lot in common. What she used to do on the show (and what you should do in real life) is find a hobby or skill that you're really good at, and make a name for yourself as "that girl who is a really good painter" or "the volleyball star," or whatever your particular interest happens to be. If someone says, "Are you X's sister?" just say, "Yes, my name's Y. Nice to meet you," and in a while people will remember YOUR name too.
2007-09-26 11:05:10 · answer #1 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My little sister had the same problem. That is, untill we grew up. Now she is my hero. It's funny how things turn out. Take what she has given you and allow it to shelter and protect you. One day your gonna need to do the same for her.
A love like yours is rare. You both are so very lucky, make sure you kiss your mom and say thanks.
2007-09-26 11:04:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you are ready to make a name for yourself and you can only do that on your own. Start getting to know people without your sister and planning a few activities on your own. Its ok to start out slow untill you see you can do it. Have fun.
2007-09-26 11:02:25 · answer #3 · answered by petra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everybody has great advice here! not much more to say, I'll bet you are just as wonderful as she, is but you don't realize it yet
BTW Anne Frank had an older sister who she felt was perfect and she always felt that the adults expected her to be more like her sister and that she always fell short
(guess who is a famous writer??)
2007-09-26 14:09:20 · answer #4 · answered by yyyyyy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you need to do is grow up a little. Eventually you'll have your own identity that does not revolve around your sister and you'll be your own person. Patience, and be thankful you have such a great sister. Enjoy it while you can.
2007-09-26 11:01:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
think u should make friends with out ur sister and follw ur own path and someday whan u make a lot of firend they will call ur sister the (x) and will ask u how u get poplur
i was the some whan was in that promble whan i was in k school.
2007-09-26 11:29:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself. Admire people but don't wish to be them. Find your own path and you will too be like her, even if it is in your own way.
2007-09-26 11:07:22 · answer #7 · answered by Boddah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋