people say that im too quiet and i dont talk enough. how can i do this?

Question

i do have low self confidence, but im trying to improve. im not necissarily afriad to talk, im just shy. i dont have many friends, well i have friends, but not close ones, and i've never had a bf. i really want people to stop saying this, so i want to prove them wrong, how do i do this?

Answer 1

become a rebel talk in class chew gum do any thing

Answer 2

Not everyone has to be the center of attention. Stressing about what you're going to say wastes your time and gives people the idea you don't care what they are saying to you.
You can always ask follow up questions when someone is talking, that involves you in the conversation and lets the person get to tell a bit more. You can tell a similar story - Oh Yeah, that happened to me too! kind of thing. Let people get to know a little about you. Keep in mind that a lot of people appreciate genuine interest in them, and that will make you friends. Good luck!

Answer 3

I was the same way when I was younger, and I still am to an extent. I was always told that I'm too quiet, etc. I am just quiet by nature and I always felt very shy around groups of people or people I didn't know.

I have been told numerous times, that it is actually better to be the "quiet" girl than to be that loud girl who has something to say about everything and never shuts up.

I eventually accepted that this is who I am. I'm quiet. If my friends don't like it, they aren't my friends.

Answer 4

There is nothing wrong with you that time and experience won't probably improve upon. There is nothing wrong with being "quiet" or "shy." I was once the same way, and hated it when people would tell me to "smile" or "say something." The people saying these things are likely extroverts, while you are an introvert. And there is NOTHING WRONG with being an introvert, it just happens to be who you are. As you grow & mature your confidence will also likely increase. Look for friends who accept you for who you are, not who THEY want you to be. They're out there.

Answer 5

Stay relaxed around others, keep calm and breathe. Talk to people in smaller groups, the less people the easier it should be. Once you feel comfortable with this you can work up to more people.
It takes time, but sometimes it may just be who you are. I've been told I'm quiet too but I just shrug it off and say "who cares" it's how I am.

Answer 6

I was very shy when I was younger. I got over it by telling people I was shy. Interestingly, they made an effort to talk to me as a result, now they can't shut me up, lol's. Shy people can be quite alluring and intriguing you know. Just smile a lot and don't worry what people say when you say it. Self conscious people are so obvious, but happy people make everyone want to know why.

Answer 7

You'll find the right friends in time. Sometimes, friends don't need words to have a great relationship. And sometimes, being a listener is a great friend. Cheer up honey, cause for someone out there, you're just what they need.

Answer 8

I think you are a beautiful people,never change to be with or impress anyone.Being yourself is being confident to yourself.So what you never had a boy friend it will happy one day and that person will see you as you are.
PS: There are a lot of people whom changed for other people and they are drug aids,hookers,bater woman,killers,strippers and more.Be safe and follow your heart in life

Answer 9

It's easy. Just develop you intuition. It's your 'natural' self. This site helped me a lot. It has a lot of other topics on the links too. Life takes a little study. No pain, no gain.

Answer 10

try to join a club you can find soooooo many people that like to do the same things as you and youll meet many new people/ or at lunch if u hav it sit at a new table.