Hi...i am a fun loving guy who gets along with most of my co workers but i have this one girl who evry time i say hi she doesn't repond...it seems she 's jealous of me...i have worked there for 1.5 years and she's been there 11 years...i keep on saying hi tracey when i see her but she only responds with hi..or sometimes ignores me..do i continue to try to be friendly or tottally ignore her...you know that person you can't figure out..thanks..Jim
2007-09-26 10:20:20 · 13 answers · asked by braves92@sbcglobal.net 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Kill 'em with kindness I always say. So what if she doesn't respond, at least you don't look like the jerk.
2007-09-26 10:22:36 · answer #1 · answered by Kiki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you are "fun loving" (and I assume, therefore, friendly), it doesn't really cost you anything to continue to say "hi" and smile...right?
Or are you a subtle bean counter type keeping a score book of how many times she says "hi" and if you have a "hi" surplus and she has a "hi" deficit that there will be a final accounting some day and you are worried about the final score?
Don't think its all about you. No big deal...if you want, continue to say hi...or is there some jealousy or ego involved on your part that you can't "win her over" like everyone else? Their not going to hold the office friendly Olympics soon are they?
Be true to yourself.....you want to say hi, say hi. You don't want to say hi...don't. In the mood one day, fine, say hi...not in the mood, don't. Hey, you're human, right?
Consider this simple truth. How do you spell life? OK, look closely at the letters and connect the tops with a dashed line...whoa.!!! the line goes up and down....just like---well, life!
PS nothing in the rule book that says you have to or can figure everyone and/or everything out.
PS2. Have you ever thought that she might think you are too easy because say hi to everyone, anywhere, any time and she wants someone more discrete and selective? (hahahahha, just kidding....really.)
Keep smiling!
2007-09-26 10:30:27 · answer #2 · answered by wisdomdude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say hi to her she might not be trying to be rude on purpose. I acted like this once and I didn't relize I was hurting my friends feelings I just had stuff on my mind. When you see that she doesn't have any work go up to her and try to make a converstation. If she looks like she doesn't really like you or ignores you then stop trying there are just some people that are like that.But it doesnt mean that she's jealous of you there's a chance she might be but she's probably just rude or has stuff on her mind. Try asking her.
2007-09-26 10:34:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask her if you did anything to make her act the way she does toward you. If there was a misunderstanding somewhere, you both have something to laugh about. If she doesn't want to say anything to you, leave her to herself. She'll soon start to wonder why you have ignored her after a while and she'll come up to you. Then, you'll have a choice whether or not you want to speak to her.
2007-09-26 10:29:05 · answer #4 · answered by MARI 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly Jim I had the same problem. I wet up to the person and asked "____, Do you have a problem with me?, is there anything i did to offend you?" see maybe its just a big misunderstanding.
2007-09-26 10:23:48 · answer #5 · answered by beautiful stranger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when help someone within their success in a beginning friendship and they are friendly to you than as they get more recognition they ignore you...how do you process that in a friendship?
2015-06-17 07:13:00 · answer #6 · answered by Jim & Mitzi-K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're making this too numerous a huge deal. Who cares if this guy or woman isn't choosing favorites. i don't p.c.. favorites. Mabye he/she has extra acquaintances then you understand. do not ignore approximately them. If it bothers you that undesirable, then consult from he/she
2016-11-06 11:05:57 · answer #7 · answered by dhrampla 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she continues to ignore you, she could be busy. If you want, I think you should maybe ask her why she is ignoring you. She might not like that though. So maybe you could offer to help her if she is really busy or carrying huge stacks of papers.
2007-09-26 10:26:03 · answer #8 · answered by Nerd 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'd suggest ignoring her unless she starts a conversation.
2007-09-26 10:23:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
continue to say hi what can it hurt mabye she'll get better once she sees that your genuinely being nice
2007-09-26 10:24:15 · answer #10 · answered by jonny c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋