How did it work out? Did the other person just walk away or did you get a chance to discuss it? Did you ever walk away rather than give the other person the chance to explain? Was it resolved with no bad feelings as if nothing ever happened or did you remain cautious and guarded with one another not fully believing the other? How did you feel during the process? Any regrets? How long does a door remain closed before it passes the time you know you cannot knock again?
2007-09-26 10:05:08 · 4 answers · asked by irisheyes 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I don't really know how to narrow it down. Maybe you could pick an aspect of it or treat each of the sentences as an indivdual question.
This is obviously what's bothering me so i guess i'm not being as clear as i thought i was.
2007-09-26 10:13:27 · update #1
Almost daily. I just re-think, re-phrase and try again. Opinions can change and subjective information can be slippery. There is no expiry date on the truth.
However language is a problem. Language only approximates thought and many misunderstandings come from the language we use rather than any real or substantive difference in opinion.
Arrogance and pride are also issues in misunderstandings. We humans know a few things but there is still a great deal that we don't know about or have only a tiny understanding of so we have to admit that.
As competitive beings we often lose sight of truth as a goal and simply want our side to 'win'.
Many people are also impatient and uncomfortable with uncertainty so they look for a quick resolution and if its not to their liking they 'walk away'. I'm more comfortable with uncertainty so I am able to accept differences of opinions more readily than most.
(man thats a lot of questions but they are good ones so I will endeavor to keep going)
Some misunderstandings never get resolved because people are either too entrenched in their own approximation of reality or the vehicle of resolution (language) hasn't been refined enough to allow a resolution. Philosophers know that they have to 'define their terms' even before they start an in depth argument but the average person just assumes that the language is solid and meaningful leading to misunderstandings before the real issue is even revealed.
To me a door once closed can always be opened. It just depends on how hard the person tries to lock it up and how determined you are to get 'inside'. The secrets of ancient Egypt are still being uncovered and while they were quite well locked up, there are some determined diggers out there.
2007-09-27 04:21:46 · answer #1 · answered by megalomaniac 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Even with an honest misunderstanding it's best to give both sides a little time to cool off. When people get in an uproar about something it takes them time for the adrenaline to slow. But it's best to get the problem solved asap so it doesn't seem to be a lie.
2007-09-26 17:12:02 · answer #2 · answered by netters_316 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Can you narrow your question down to only one.
2007-09-26 17:07:35 · answer #3 · answered by confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
huh im so lost???
which one do we answer???
2007-09-26 17:09:19 · answer #4 · answered by <3 ME 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋